We all make a difference in the lives of others. Don’t underestimate it.
We all make a difference in the lives of others. Don’t underestimate it.
We often fear failures. The struggles in life are real. We have to be strong to survive. The stories of famous leaders provides food for thought. Thomas Edison developed thousands of prototypes of the light bulb before he found the one that worked. Albert Einstein was unemployed for two years after he graduated college. Like Edison and Einstein, modern day luminaries like Mark Cuban and J.K. Rowling were able to use their setbacks to push them forward. Here are several examples of extremely successful leaders who learned from their failures including a few from Aaron Taupe discussion on success and failure.
Steve Jobs had a natural ability to lead. He started his business in his parents’ garage. The company developed and grew. It attracted a board of directors that in the end fired him. Devastated but not to be deterred from his dream, Jobs started another company which focused mainly on software. Today the world enjoys his innovations ranging from Apple Watch, iPhone, iPad, iMac and more.
Oprah Winfrey learned that failure is only an illusion after her cable network started off poorly. She said the worst time in her professional life came when the Oprah Winfrey Network’s (OWN) ratings plummeted a year after launch. Later, in a Harvard commencement speech, Winfrey said that she told herself repeatedly that failure is an illusion. She said “there is no such thing as failure. Failure is just life trying to move us in another direction. When you’re down in the hole, when that moment comes, it’s really okay to feel bad for a little while. Give yourself time to mourn what you think you may have lost—but then here’s the key; learn from every mistake because every experience, encounter, and particularly your mistakes are there to teach you and force you into being more of who you are. Winfrey was able to get OWN moving in the right direction, and the network gained a profit in 2013.
Dallas Mavericks owner Mark Cuban prior to starting his first company, worked as a bartender, a short-order cook, and a carpenter. Cuban later told CNN that on multiple occasions, he would come home with a date only to find the electricity had been turned off by the utility company. Cuban decided to have a positive outlook about his failures and made sure to learn something from his mistakes. He told Smart Business “I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter how many times you failed, you only have to be right once”. I was an idiot lots of times, and I learned from them all”.
Jay Z learned that his success needed to come from within after his second album flat-lined. Jay Z’s first album “Reasonable Doubt” is considered by many to be one of the best rap albums of all time. His second album “In My Lifetime”, wound up not being as successful commercially as his first, and he was not happy. He said “I tried to make these records that were bigger and would be more popular, which was a failure. Going for that success really messed up that project and set a bad tone. It was a huge learning lesson for me that if I was going to be successful, I had to be successful with myself. I couldn’t be successful doing what other people were doing. I had to do what I believed in and what felt real to me and true to me”.
Failure gave J.K. Rowling the freedom to pursue her art. In 1993, the Harry Potter author was an unemployed single mother who saw herself as a failure. She later said in a commencement speech at Harvard, that the experience actually helped her by getting rid of her fear of failure—which allowed her to focus on writing the stories that would ultimately become the Harry Potter novels. “Failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged. I was set free, because my greatest fear had been realized, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter, and a big idea”.
So we gather from these examples of success that if you want to be successful, you must follow your heart, your passion. If you strongly believe something in your ability; Go for it! Reach for the stars! More than likely you will achieve with dedication and hard work. To lead yourself, you must believe in your ability.
Mom, in your shadow is where I choose to be. I reflect on how much you sacrificed, how much you cared. I used to hate those calls which came sporadically. Calls that seemed to come at the wrong time… when I’m in a meeting, or at a function, or just plain busy with work. Yet all you wanted was just to say hello, I’m thinking of you.
Years later when you became sick, restricted by the pains and incapacitation of physical movements brought on by a stroke, I longed for those calls. I longed just to hear you say hello…, but it was hard for you. All I had was the look in your eyes which said, I still love you my child. I still care. I returned the love and care with more force than I ever could. This warmed your heart and brought the sparkle in your eyes. You were happy. You were pleased.
Mother, mama, Ma, madre, mom, mommy, whatever you may call her, spend some time today reflecting on the special moments you both shared. Better yet ….show her, tell her, memorialize her…. And whether you gave birth or not, mothers in any capacity, we appreciate you.
Inspirations come alive at the beach. A writer can write. A child can play. A musician can compose. The depressed can be relieved. The sick can be healed.
A person can listen to the waves, cry, laugh, read, yawn, sleep. Such lazy waves forces you to relax.
The beach… a place where moments come alive. Steal away today and bask in the sun, sand, and sea. Swoosh….
Abandon. Relax. Breathe.
Thanks to Susan Leventhal, Regional Director for the invitation to facilitate workshop to the Professional Placement Network (PPN), CareerSource Broward, Florida. The topic Success Strategies of Emerging Leaders: Why Some Succeed, was presented. Thanks to all the managers and leaders who attended. May all your leadership experiences lead to Scars of Success!
Reknowned comedian Kevin Hart in an interview about the movie Central Intelligence with Dwayne Johnson, shared that he got into the business of entertainment to be successful and to get to the highest level he can. Naturally, it is clear that he is achieving his goal but he is quick to say that he will not stop because stopping would make him complacent. His desire is to do more. His dream is to reach the status of becoming a mogul. And the only way to get there is by work.
renowned comedian Kevin Hart in an interview about the movie Central Intelligence with Dwayne Johnson, shared that he got into the business of entertainment to be successful and to get to the highest level he can. Naturally, it is clear that he is achieving his goal but he is quick to say that he will not stop because stopping would make him complacent. His desire is to do more. His dream is to reach the status of becoming a mogul. And the only way to get there is by work. Interesting…
In a nutshell I think that just about sums up Why some people succeed while others don’t. It’s that simple. Many have researched the paths to success to unveil the answers to those of us whose appetites long to devour the true meaning. To those of us standing at a crossroad uncertain of which way to go. To those of us who through whispers approach our feelings with fear and apprehension. Shane is not alone in her writings that success leaves clues, trails and signs. Whatever the goal ..be it to achieve success in business, personal relationships, taking that dream vacation, or simply getting through difficult times; we should strive through thick and thin. Most well-known successful people including my favorite Stephen King, never gave up when the going got tough. They stuck to it through thick and thin. That said, we reflect on the definition of success that refers to the achievement of wealth, honors or the like. Failure on the other hand refers to the lack of success, or more specifically the omission of expected or required action.
So here are a few insights into the behaviors and actions of people who are not successful. These have been pulled from a few individuals including the likes of Kayiba Mpoyi, Stephen Guise, Deborah Shane, and my own book on Success Strategies as gleaned from phenomenological study. People who fail to succeed:
Successful people learn how to say No. They know which commitments to take on to achieve great success in areas of their lives.
People who are not successful often say things like “I’m not good with numbers”; “I hate studying”; and “I can’t run a successful business”.
They don’t know how to treat others and say things like “well at least I’m being honest”, or “this is just the way I am, deal with it”. It’s said that you can judge a man’s character by watching how he acts when standing in a very long line and is met with bad service; or by how he reacts when you ruin his expensive items.
They ponder a lot. Dream big but lack the courage to go forth. My mantra…Get up! Show up! Just Do Something!
6. Can’t face adversity
Overcoming challenges not only bring us closer to our goals but they turn us into someone we never imagined. Don’t be afraid to conquer your fears and embark on new terrains. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself.
They get discouraged and apathetic when they fail. Essentially, they have a failure mindset long before they even started.
10.They are scared.
They freeze just like the deer that stands fixed before the car hits.
Wrong job. Wrong state. Wrong country. Everything they do they complain is wrong. It is important for them to know when to to move on to something else. Mpoyi’s observation is for real….humans do not have the capacity to be successful at all things.
Apathy can infect any area of our lives and when it strikes it produces failure. The scariest part is how contagious it is. It spreads to other areas of our lives. Like a whisper, apathetic friends can also infect us.
14. They are unwilling or too slow to change
15. They become irrelevant.
16.They have a bad attitude
17. They have skill gaps.
18. They have not developed a unique personal brand
19. They lack discipline, focus and balance.
20. They lack a deep sense of belief in themselves
In summary, people who fail to succeed are more numerous than we can imagine. More importantly, it’s sad to see people with amazing potential ..give up. Suicide is obvious and quite sad. But not so obvious are individuals who internalize things and therefore their natural occurrence may not always be evident. Sometimes it is the guy in the cubicle with the $90K salary, who accepts misery because it comes with a fat paycheck (Mpoyi).
Imagine having virtual doctor’s visits, second-opinion services, in-house breast cancer screenings; 3 organic meals prepared a day; unlimited snack plus coffee and tea; free personal fitness classes, health clinics, on-site oil change (say what??!!); haircuts, spa-truck, bike-repair-truck, nap pods, free on-site laundry rooms, and much more! Way cool right?!! It sure is! And yes, we are talking about the top company to work for …Google! Wouldn’t you just love your company to offer even a few of these awesome benefits? Here are 8 more from Fortune’s 2016 list that captured my attention.
Baptist Health South Florida
Just imagine leaving your company, and having the ability to return within 5 years if you have a change of heart! Not only that but boomerangs are able to take advantage of a policy that allows employees to retain their seniority status and preserve their benefits! This includes retirement vesting, and paid time off-accrual. Way cool right?
Stryker (medical device company), encourages employees to observe surgeries, attend trade shows, ride along with sales reps during customer meetings, and listen to patient stories. One employee shared “I see the face of someone who is alive because of our product, and that’s amazing”.
Southern Ohio Medical Center
Spouses, dependent and adult children of employees qualify for up to $10,500 in tuition reimbursement. Employees spend over 40,000 hours volunteering in the local community. Great example of giving back.
Celebrates Bring-your-Parents-to-Work day. Also, new employees receive a new laptop, a branded license plate cover; workday baseball game jersey, and a pair of red socks that they wear on the last day of each quarter as part of their company tradition.
The largest employee owned company offers healthcare for part-timers, and tuition reimbursement. They automatically dump shares into stock accounts at the end of each year. Talk about ownership!
Values giving workers time away. Employees get a paid 6 week sabbatical every 4 years! Coupled with that, Adobe celebrates weeklong shutdowns twice a year.
The Cheesecake Factory
Has a long history of promoting from within! 100% of general managers, executive kitchen managers, and area field leaders were hired internally. Not to mention that they all started in hourly paid entry level jobs.
JM Family Enterprises
Colin Brown, Chairman and CEO says a healthy culture is about taking care of one another sharing in successes, and building trusting relationships. Achieving business results and preserving the organization’s culture are not mutually exclusive objectives. At JM Family, they focus on integrating the two in everything they do. Great example of when the company does well, employees also benefit.
So give your team a boost by implementing an additional strategy or two this year. It will boost your bottom line, your organization’s culture, and have the best workers in the market knocking on your doors to come in when you’re ready to hire!
Moving! It’s one of the most stressful things to do! But moving for desired personal reasons including new job, new spouse (yikes!), education, and more makes the end result more gratifying! We get that Adrenalin rush because it’s something we desire. Packing those boxes, suitcases, and rummaging our belongings into trucks to go away , to Relocate…makes the journey worth the while (well at least through the honeymoon stage). I have done my fair share and have also helped many career transitioners relocate in my HR consulting role.
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