There was a season when I said “yes” to everything.
- Yes to leading.
- Yes to supporting.
- Yes to helping.
- Yes to solving problems that weren’t mine to solve.
And I told myself it was because I was being kind. But in reality, I was also overextending, over-giving, and undervaluing my time.
One of the turning points came while building programs for a local community partnership. I loved the mission. I loved the people. I loved seeing people gain confidence and direction.
But at some point I had to ask myself:
If I’m doing professional-level leadership work, why am I treating it like a casual favor? That moment changed how I lead.
- I didn’t stop serving.
- I didn’t stop giving.
I simply began doing it with structure, boundaries, and sustainability. Because I’ve learned this:
- You can be a generous leader without becoming a doormat.
- You can be kind without being depleted.
- You can serve your community without abandoning yourself.
And if you’ve been carrying too much “because you’re capable” this is your reminder:
Boundaries aren’t selfish. They’re leadership.
Join the Boundary Lab seminar. Create your own boundaries.
