The Goal You Seek. Is It Worth The Effort?

A young Mom passed away after her dream of getting the right body back after having three children. Her own mom (kids’ grandmother) told how she worked 2 jobs for a year then finally had saved enough money. She scheduled and went to the surgery but unfortunately stopped breathing during the procedure.

The Right Focus

Make sure your goals are the right focused. Her three kids must now go on to live a life without their mother. Chances are the same situation existed while she was doing the two jobs. They are now without her for good after she succumbed to the very surgery she worked so hard to have.

No criticism here.

We all want the perfect things. Hey… that’s why we set goals. In the case of that young mother she worked hard, did what she had to do. Sometimes it works out. Sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes you fail. if you have the opportunity to try again. Go ahead and do it.

Just one thing …Remember you’re beautiful just the way you are. Take care of you. It’s the only you, you have. Survive so you can enjoy the goals, dreams and aspirations you worked so hard for.

How about you? When was the last time you Reflected on the purpose of the goal you set? Do share. We would love to hear.

Cheers!

11 Top Habits Of High Achievers…

 

Small daily improvements over time lead to stunning results. ~Robin Sharma

Inc shared Christina DesMarais 25 Simple Daily Habits That Separate High Achievers From Everyone Else Here I Share my top 11 favs from her list.

Top Habits of High Achievers

  1. Every morning, delegate, defer, and delete.
  2. Start every day very early
  3. Get outdoors for physical activity.
  4. Focus on quality, not quantity.
  5. Set aside 30 minutes to focus on long-term improvements
  6. Make time for joy.
  7. Start the day with meditation.
  8. Listen, read, and create something new.
  9. Never book more than half your day.
  10. Put creativity back on your to-do list.
  11. Visualize success

Personal Favs

Of the traits the two that stand out are delegate, defer and delete. Too often we try to do everything ourselves without delegating or deferring to those aptly capable. Often too we hold onto stuff that we have been doing for years not realizing the process is no longer applicable and should be …yup…deleted.

My other fav is Never booking more than half our day with meetings. I have have known colleagues who book their entire day without thinking about when they will find time to check emails or communicate with issues awaiting their approval. What then happens is the rush to work late nights, weekends and holidays. Years ago I was as guilty as charged. Then I learnt. Balance is important.

How about you? Any that stands out for you? Do share. We would love to hear.

Cheers!

Book Talk Shares Business Tips For Caribbean Americans …

Where there’s purpose, there’s meaning. Reflecting on my Book Talk on Caribbean Americans and the Excerpt from Caribbean National Weekly Newspaper.

“Entering the business world in American can be a hard task when you’re a Caribbean immigrant, from navigating a new culture of commerce, to establishing your own value in the marketplace. Addressing this tricky quagmire, African-American Research Library and Cultural Center (AARLCC) hosted Dr. Shelly Cameron as she discussed her book, “Success Strategies of Caribbean American Leaders.”

The talk, explored strategies on how to be successful, inspired by effective traits from Caribbean-American business leaders, from the challenges they encountered after migration, to the factors that most influenced their success.

The project, said author Dr. Cameron, was inspired by the familiar confusion over “why some immigrants are successful yet others are still struggling?”

The book breaks down findings from a study at Nova Southeastern University, collaborating with successful Caribbean-Americans in the United States, who succeeded in business, media, healthcare, education, government, aviation, politics, and other fields.

Dr. Cameron hopes this book can help the next generation of entrepreneurs, particularly minorities.

“I wanted to outline what the youth of America and ethnic minorities could learn from those who came before, who were born under similar circumstances as they were, and yet became successful,” said Dr. Cameron.

Cheers!

The Mistake. Frustration. Experience. The Learning…

I Thought I Made the Worst Mistake of My Career, But 3 Things Helped Me “Embrace the Suck” and Move on. ~Emile Lee

I love stories of resilience and learning and this is a great one espoused by The Business Insider. Here Emile Lee speaks about his encounter with an overseas career assignment that was not a fit. Mistaking his cultural background, he was hired on the spot for an assignment he wasn’t fit for. After mulling over the good, the bad, and the ugly, he stopped feeling sorry for himself and decided to embrace his circumstances and learn from his situation.

Looking Back

Looking back, he shares his learning. I have extracted the 3 key points that forged his new path.

1. Embrace The Suck

2. Use positive self-talk to open yourself up to risks and change

3. Seek out mentors and internal champions

 

Hope this story inspires you to keep going and never give up. Need help? Let’s connect.

Cheers!

Brian Tracy’s If You Could Go Back And Change One Part Of Your Life, What Would It Be And Why?

If you could go back and change one part of your life, what would it be and why?

That’s the question renowned Motivational speaker Brian Tracy asked. Here I share excerpts as his audience chimed in their response.

Life Changes

  • I would change nothing. Without them I would not be who I am today. Both good and bad situations have shaped me to be this person in this way.
  • Overcoming needless fear
  • Getting married to my husband in the 20’s
  • Nothing, except for not having taken action earlier to start my online business
  • No way would I go back to ‘rethink’ the risks I’ve taken’ they are called risks for a reason. You must be ready to risk it for the biscuit
  • Being afraid to speak up
  • Give all the books that I read about wealth
  • Wish I never quit sports (still went to the gym, but quit football) right before turning 16. Lost a lot of social connection and overall fun
  • I would read more books at an early age
  • Wouldn’t change anything. Valuable lessons learned from every success and detour
  • If I could get a chance to go back in time I would have changed my mindset in my 10th class and think about changing and helping people lives especially children. Thinking towards their growth and success. Focusing on building more independent owners in life
  • Reading books and developing myself as a teenager before waiting until my late 20’s
  • Spiritual, because everything is derived from it
  • I was raised to be obedient – no questions asked. I would go back and rebel at things I knew wasn’t right for me even if I got punishment.
  • Nothing. All good things build on top of the past
  • The worst parts of my life are the parts that changed me the most today. I can tell you right now that if the singly worst thing that happened to me hadn’t happened, my husband and I wouldn’t be together. It’s not worth changing my past.
  • Stop partying years ago
  • If it meant I could have my son back who I lost about 22 years ago at the age of 17, I would roll back time and do things much differently as my entire perspective on life changed after losing and then surviving the loss of a child. Because that is not possible, I can say that the person I’ve become out of the ashes of horrible grief, despair and anger is someone that  I truly like when I look in a mirror
  • Taking better care of others and myself
  • I wouldn’t change a thing
  • Nothing

 

There you have it. Thoughts shared by the public. Are your thoughts the same? Would you change anything? Do share. We would love to hear.

Cheers!

Take The Leap. Go Do What You Have Always Wanted To Do…

I went to the grocery store that’s been in the same locale for more than 10 years. As I stepped in, the Traditional Fragrance of the familiar faces was missing. Confused, I inquired, where are they? I was told that the owners sold the business and had moved to a different location for a bigger and better venture.

I felt cheated. Immediately I decided I’d go find them for… how could they do that to ‘me’?!

Then I started thinking about my own passion. Daily I encourage individuals to take the leap…, go do what you have always wanted to do. Yet here I was–feeling cheated. How dare me?

Has that ever happened to you? We love the familiar. The thing that so Harmonizes and makes us comfortable. Safe. Tranquil. At peace. When it’s gone, we feel a hollow in our life…in our soul. I reflect on the book “Who Moved My Cheese”, which became famous because of its simplicity yet profound impact. The late Spencer Johnson told the story about the Change that takes place in a maze with amusing characters as they searched for cheese. It’s metaphoric delight draws us in as we identify with the characters. Those of us who sniff, scurry, hem, and haw at the sight of change.

Today, I return to my usual self, I am thrilled that the management of that Grocery Store decided to move on. They have gone to achieve their dream. They had taken the bold step to higher heights.

Is there someone you’re blocking from achieving his/her goals? How about you? What’s your own plan for the next 3-5 years? How will you get there? Step aside and allow yourself, family, friend, or foe …(yikes!), to achieve what you/they have always wanted.

Afraid? Let’s connect!

Cheers!

 

Recognizing Millennial Change-Makers. The Difference They Make…

Always an absolute pleasure to serve as chief Judge and be a part of the Leadership team that propels the Ignite Caribbean 30 Under 30 Change-maker Awards which recognizes young Caribbean-American talent and creates inter-generational dialogue between professionals. This event is held annually at the Inter-American Development Bank, Washington DC.

The energy this year spells promises of Great things to come among youth leaders. In the words of a stalwart awardee “find the grit to unbox yourself.

Take A Day Away. Separate The Past From The Future…

Every person needs to take one day away.  A day in which one consciously separates the past from the future.  Jobs, family, employers, and friends can exist one day without any one of us, and if our egos permit us to confess, they could exist eternally in our absence.  Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for.  Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us.  ~Maya Angelou 

The Power Of Resilience When Things Go Wrong…

Sometimes bad things happen to good people. Those were the words echoed by Susan. She suffered a massive stroke. Her life as she knew it was turned upside down. Here’s her story of resilience.

Be inspired to overcome the odds.

Sometimes in life, bad things happen to good people? Life is happily going along and things are relatively in a good place. One event can occur and your life as you know it is completely turned upside down. In June of 2016, I had this happen to me. I experienced a stroke, due to a carted artery dissection. I went from an actively engaged, full time working school nurse and mother of two daughters, to be in a rehabilitation hospital for a month trying to recover from left-sided hemiplegia..learning to walk, swallow, eat and move my left arm and hand. I had no indication.

Other than being human, I was at risk for this to happen to me. When I was discharged home, I had around the clock caregivers. I attended therapy three days a week until my insurance visits were exhausted I was only allotted 20 visits per year, I was fortunate to be able to begin walking independently, by September. It was about this point that I learned I would have to enroll in intensive rehabilitative therapy to return to work. It took 6 months and a lot of my savings to graduate. Then I learned my old job which I loved and I was motivated to return to, had been given to someone else. I was offered a different position. It was very kind of the school, I accepted the new challenge with a positive attitude. My left arm and hand were no longer making progress like the rest of my body had. I received an email from Saebo about their products and the no plateau in sight motto. I also learned about neuroplasticity. The only thing holding me back from my old career path at this point is that I am still unable to effectively use my left hand and arm.

When I saw the advertisement for an arm boot camp I knew I had to attend. I learned I would be a good candidate. I was thrilled they were able to schedule me in April of 2017. Three intensive days of therapy, with the opportunity to take over your own recovery at home and continue therapy on your own. I was initially so excited I ordered the Saebo devise to help me with the gross movement of my fingers. My therapist near my home helped me to put together the device. It did enable me to pick up objects. However, it was not until I actually attended boot vamp that I learned about the balls and how important repetitive movement is to stimulate the brain to regain the lost function. It felt so awesome to actually be able to use my left arm and hand for something again. Upon arrival to camp, Henry promptly refitted my devise and I was determined to become the Saebo ball transfer champion. We were introduced to many other devices and activities. By the time I left, I had put together my own program to continue my therapy independently at home. I am still using my therapy equipment. I went back to one day one on one camp day this year. During the camp it is a 1:1 ration one camper per therapist you get the therapist for a full day of therapy. I came home with a new glove to help my fine motor movements improve. I am still not 100% back to my old self in the left arm. I am seeing continued improvement and I am not going backward. Saebo provides the therapeutic avenue for independent stroke recovery. I am so grateful I took the chance in the initial boot camp experience and have built this therapy routine into my busy life. The best thing is to tailor it to fit your needs and fit it into your lifestyle in the way it works best for you. I wish all stroke patients were introduced to these devices immediately after the stroke. I was seven months out before I began this therapy.

-Susan T.

Goals: Accept No Excuses…

There is a difference between interest and commitment. When you are interested in something you do it when it is convenient. When you are committed, you accept no excuses… only results. ~Kenneth Blanchard