5 Things Organizing Community Events Taught Me About Leadership

Leadership is not always standing at the center of the room. Sometimes it is building the room, opening the doors and giving others a place to be seen.

I’ve spent over two decades studying leadership, coaching leaders, and writing about what it takes to lead well. But organizing our community author showcase is prime.

With more than 40 authors converging at the Fred Lippman Cultural Center in the City of Hollywood, Florida, the lineup includes my own presentation co-partnered with Fort Lauderdale’s Jamaica Brew Festival Co-founder, Dale Mahfood. A panel on building author brand, poetry, and a slate of featured authors, this event has become an unexpected classroom. Here’s what it has taught me.

1. Leadership is Choreography, Not Control

You cannot control 40 authors. You can only choreograph the conditions for them to shine. Every author arrives with a different personality, a different genre, a different idea of what “success” for the day looks like. My job isn’t to manage each of them into compliance, it’s to build a structure flexible enough to hold that many voices without losing coherence. That’s a lesson I’ve taught in leadership development for years. Living it, in real time, with real logistics and real personalities, is a different kind of learning altogether.

2. The Panel is a Microcosm of the Whole Event

Curating the panel on building author brand has been its own leadership exercise. Choosing who sits at that table, what questions get asked, and how the conversation is sequenced is really about clarifying a shared message from different perspectives. That’s what leadership often is: not silencing distinct voices, but helping them harmonize around a purpose bigger than any one of them.

3. Behind-the-Scenes Work is Still Leadership

I’ve long been more comfortable letting the work speak rather than putting myself forward. This event has stretched that. I’m not just organizing from behind the curtain this time, I’m also presenting, which means stepping into visibility while still holding the operational threads together. Leadership doesn’t always look like standing at the podium; sometimes it’s making sure the podium, the poetry reading, and the featured author segment all run on time so everyone else can have their moment.

4. Poetry and Prose Remind Me Leadership Needs Range

Weaving poetry alongside author presentations and a business-minded panel has reminded me that leadership isn’t one register. Sometimes it calls for strategy and structure. Sometimes it calls for space; for feeling, for art, for the parts of a message that a bullet point can’t carry. A good leader, like a good event, knows when to shift registers.

5. Community Events Reveal Leadership at Full Scale

With 40+ authors, a cultural center, and multiple event formats layered into one day, nothing exposes gaps in planning, communication, or delegation faster than a live event with a fixed date. There’s no theoretical framework that substitutes for the real-time problem-solving this requires and that, more than any case study, is where leadership is truly learned.

As the event approaches, I’m struck by how much this process mirrors the leadership principles I’ve spent my career researching and teaching: clarity of purpose, distributed voice, adaptability, and the discipline to serve something larger than yourself. Sometimes the best leadership lessons don’t come from a classroom or a book, they come from the folding chairs and program schedules of a community event.

5 Ways Readers Can Support Authors

Book and Art statue

A book may be written by one person, but it travels farther when readers choose to carry its message forward.

Writing a book is often a deeply personal accomplishment, but an author’s journey does not end when the book is published. Authors must then work to help readers discover, trust, and connect with their work. Often this happens while managing the costs of publishing, promotion, and public appearances.

When authors speak about meaningful support, they frequently mention more than book sales. They remember the reader who left a thoughtful review, recommended the book to a friend, shared a social media post, attended an event, or introduced them to a new opportunity. These actions may seem small, but collectively they help authors expand their reach and remain encouraged.

Here are five practical ways readers can support authors and help meaningful stories and ideas reach a wider audience.

  1. Buy their books
    Purchase directly from the author when possible, as this may provide greater financial support.
  2. Leave an honest review
    Reviews on Amazon, Goodreads, Barnes & Noble, and other platforms help increase a book’s credibility and visibility.
  3. Share the book with others
    Recommend it to friends, book clubs, libraries, schools, or community organizations that may find it valuable.
  4. Engage with the author online
    Follow, like, comment on, and share the author’s posts. Consistent engagement helps their work reach new readers.
  5. Invite the author to participate
    Consider them for interviews, podcasts, speaking engagements, workshops, book clubs, panels, or community events.

Essentially, supporting an author goes beyond buying a book. Read it. Review it. Recommend it. Share it. Invite the author into new rooms.

How have you supported an author? Do share. We would love to hear.

Cheeers!

I Want to Write My Life Story. But Where Do I Even Begin?

We write with open hands, and not with fists. ~Beth Kephart

Early in life, my mom wanted to write her life story. A trailblazer, she was one of the country’s first female automobile mechanic who was later fired for getting pregnant. Decades later she passed away without collating the details, as only she could.

The most overpowering reason to write your story is because if you don’t, that version of the story dies with you. That’s what happened with my mom. Today, I am a writer of several books, but it would be remiss of me to think that I could capture details the way she would have if only she had written them herself.

I also reflect on the life of Dolly Parton who wrote many songs with tales of female experiences such as “Working-9-to-5, What a Way to Make a Living.” The world was her stage and through her legacy, she left her indelible mark because she chose to capture and impact many through her songwriting endeavors.

So, I encourage you to write. There is only person who holds the full, lived truth of your experience. Not the polished version other people saw, not the résumé version, not even the version your closest family remembers, but the real one. The one with the doubt and the mess and the moment things actually turned. Once you’re gone, that’s gone. No one can reconstruct it from the outside.

Here’s How Writers Recommend That You Write Your Life Story

In a public forum, a woman shared her desire to write her life story. With confusion she asked, “where do I start?” As members chimed in, I captured some of their feedback to encourage, lead, and guide her how to get it done. Here I share a few:

  1. Write as if you are telling a friend what happened.
  2. Begin with a diary of your current life
  3. Break it down into three parts ages 0 to 21; 22 to 40; 41 to 65. Then make some bullet points of major parts of your life during those periods. Then flesh out each bullet point into a chapter. As you do this, you will remember more things, and more chapters will be born. But breaking the whole down into bite-size chunks like this will help you get started.
  4. You could think of 3-5 of the most impactful moments of your life, both your lowest and highest times. From there you can inquire into your internal state of mind and emotions. Then you will probably begin to connect the dots from other events in your life which will help fill and tell your story.
  5. Just start writing now. What you write will not be the finished article, but just get on with it. Worry about formatting and how to publish later.
  6. Keep the pressure of where to start off of you. Just write something, and then something else, and then something else.
    A beta reader for my novel suggested a late chapter in my novel was the ideal starting chapter. So, I moved it and he was right.
  7. If you have never been a “writer,” this may be much more challenging than you think. Writing a book is hard enough when writing fiction and essays. Journaling is something you may have always practiced and enjoy doing. It’s not impossible to learn for a specific goal, but it may be quite challenging.
  8. From your earliest memory put dates on the entry. When you remember other things from those times you can add them later.
  9. I’d start with the moment or experience that still feels the most alive to you, rather than worrying about telling your entire life story from beginning to end. Write that scene as honestly as you can and let the memories and meaning unfold from there. You don’t need to have the whole structure figured out before you begin. Once you have some pages down, you can start seeing the themes and moments that deserve to become chapters. Most importantly, don’t worry about making it perfect on the first draft. Just tell your story.
  10. Easy. Start writing one memory or scar or grief or shame at a time
  11. All stories need a plot ARC, character ARC, theme, conflict, tension, and resolution. Find those and write.
  12. I did mine–birth to enlistment, 22-year enlistment and post military. (First 18-years, next 22-years and then invite things as they happened). Write everything you can remember. Cut things out later
  13. Think of best or worst thing you ever experienced. Then, jump on your board and ride that wave with your full passion. Not tough. Just need to jump.
    Editing comes later.
  14. Unless the beginning was terrible or horrific or shocking in some way, don’t start there. That’s so boring. Honestly ask yourself, is your life story interesting? Not to you, a friend, a neighbor, or someone who loves or even likes you… but to a complete stranger.
  15. I kind of want to do this too. I thought of starting with a description of the hospital I was born in and a story my mom always told about a man in the waiting room offering to buy a baby. My dad allegedly punched him for asking to buy me. Is it true? Who knows? But kind of a cool story. This was in 1957.
    You could begin by describing the weather the day you were born. (You can look that up). A pregnancy anecdote your mother told; what was going on in the world; etc.
  16. A good way is remembering short stories and then grow them, if you want chronologically after the stories are in place. Also, I read other biographies and finally would ask myself why I am writing it and why would someone who doesn’t know me would want to read it
  17. I’ve just published the final part of my memoir. Two books in all. Once you begin more memories will flood your head. If something happened that defined you, start there. The Following chapters could be looking back. Then continue into the future. Please just start writing, it will come together, you will feel it’s right.
  18. I was told when I began that memoirs only sell if you are famous and debut novels barely sell. My second book released the 15th of August went straight to number 1 on new releases on kindle true crime. Don’t let anyone put you off. Just start writing

Hmm, interesting recommendations. What has been your experience? Do share. We would love to hear.

Cheers!

Why Does It Hurt So Bad?

To Focus is to Achieve

The shorter way to do many things is to only do one thing at a time. ~ Mozart

Knife in the right. Fruit in the left. Both hands occupied, me attempting to sit on the kitchen bar stool while adjusting its height was a sure recipe for disaster. And so, it did. Multi-tasking doesn’t work in all situations.

Down I went; fruit, knife, bar stool and me! Wham! I felt that sharp pain as the one-legged bar stool knocked sharply into my right rib! My oldest and her hubby ran to the rescue! But the damage was already done. It’s as though the wind was knocked out of me. I lay on the ground writhing in pain beyond 10-minutes.

When I finally accepted help to get up, I felt like I wanted to simply lay flat. I staggered in hasty retreat to bed. But could hardly get in. The pain was too much to bear and I could hardly breathe. Why does it hurt so bad, I pondered?

The night ended with the Emergency Room Physician telling me post X-Ray that I had bruised by rib, and the healing and pain would ease in three weeks! Internet searches recounted with 4-6 weeks recovery. Others who have gone through it, said the pain lingers beyond that.

Left in daily excruciating pain marked by sleepless nights, that’s the tale of my multi-tasking mishap. Work, sleep, appointments all interrupted but it could have been worse.

While there’s life, there’s hope.

The Multi-Tasking Learning

Balance and foresight is important. Multitasking has its limits that leaders should be mindful of. Brown University’s Dr. Jennifer Davis, among others, share hidden costs:

  • More mistakes: Dividing your attention can increase your error rate by up to 50%.
  • Mental exhaustion: Switching tasks drains your brain’s energy and leaves behind mental blocks.
  • Higher stress: Juggling demands raises your heart rate, blood pressure, and anxiety levels.
  • Blocked creativity: Constantly shifting focus robs the working memory needed for deep, creative thought.

So self-leaders take heed. Manage multi-tasking. The urge to get things done all at once can lead to sad consequences, like mine.

What are your tales and views on multi-tasking? Do share, we would love to hear.

Cheers!

What If The Right Book Reached A Leader At Exactly The Right Time?

The greatest investment in a leader is not simply preparing them for where they are but equipping them for the decisions, they have yet to face. ~Dr. Shelly

When I look at this collage, I see more than individuals holding copies of The GreenLight Factor. I see an investment.

The books pictured were donated by sponsors who believe in the importance of developing emerging leaders. That distinction matters because the books were not simply gifts or keepsakes from an event. They were placed into the hands of leaders as resources for the journey ahead.

And leadership is certainly a journey.

Leadership Comes With Intersections

We often celebrate people when they receive a promotion, accept a new position, earn recognition or step into leadership. What we don’t always see are the decisions that come afterward.

  • Should I accept this opportunity?
  • Is this still the right environment for me?
  • Do I speak up or remain silent?
  • Should I continue on this path?
  • Is my hesitation fear or is it telling me something I need to examine?
  • Am I ready?

These are the intersections that inspired The GreenLight Factor.

The framework uses something familiar, the traffic light, to encourage a more intentional approach to decisions:

🔴 RedLight: STOP.
Something requires attention. Continuing simply because we have already started isn’t always the best decision.

🟡 YellowLight: ASSESS.
Not knowing doesn’t mean failure. Sometimes wisdom requires slowing down long enough to gather information, reflect, ask questions and gain clarity.

🟢 GreenLight: GO.
There are also times when preparation, opportunity and alignment come together. At that point, continuing to analyze can become its own obstacle. It may simply be time to move.

Developing Leaders Before the Crisis

Organizations often invest in leadership development when something has already gone wrong.

  • A manager is struggling.
  • An employee is considering leaving.
  • A promising leader has become overwhelmed.
  • A team isn’t functioning effectively.
  • A professional has reached a crossroads and doesn’t know what to do next.

But what if we gave people tools for reflection and decision-making before they reached the crisis? That’s one reason this particular sponsorship meant so much to me.

Someone recognized that investing in emerging leaders isn’t only about celebrating what they have already accomplished. It is also about helping prepare them for what comes next.

A Book Can Start a Conversation

No book can make someone’s decisions for them, and it shouldn’t. What a good leadership resource can do is provide language, questions and a framework that helps someone think differently. That is what I hope The GreenLight Factor does.

A reader may recognize that they have been sitting at a RedLight but refusing to stop. Another may realize that they aren’t stuck, they are simply in a YellowLight season that requires additional assessment.

Someone else may discover that they have already done the preparation, asked the questions and gathered the information. Their challenge isn’t clarity anymore. It’s having the courage to GO.

From Reading to Application

This is also where leadership development and coaching can go deeper.

The book can help identify the signal.

A leadership conversation can help explore what the signal means.

Coaching can help someone determine what to do about the decision directly in front of them.

That’s why I see opportunities for The GreenLight Factor beyond individual readership.

Organizations, associations, educational institutions and community partners can use books as part of leadership development programs, emerging-leader initiatives, new-manager development, facilitated discussions or sponsored book distributions.

The photograph accompanying this article is one example of what that can look like.

What Are We Putting Into the Hands of Emerging Leaders?

We talk frequently about developing the next generation of leaders. Perhaps another question deserves our attention:

What are we actually placing in their hands and in their minds to prepare them for the decisions leadership will require?

My hope is that long after the photograph was taken, there will come a moment when one of them faces an important intersection, remembers the framework and asks:

Do I need to Stop?

Do I need to Assess?

Or is this finally my GreenLight to Go?

That is when the gift of a book becomes something more. It becomes an investment in a leader’s next decision.


The GreenLight Factor is available for individual purchase and can also be incorporated into sponsored book initiatives, leadership-development programs, facilitated conversations and coaching engagements.

If you’ve already read The GreenLight Factor, I invite you to leave an amazon review and share the idea, question or chapter that spoke most strongly to you.

100,000 Views: A Journey Through My Most-Read Articles

Don’t wait for opportunities. Create them. ~ Bruce Lee

Recently, I received a message from WordPress that stopped me in my tracks: 100,000 all-time blog views. As grateful as I am for the milestone, I quickly realized that this isn’t really my story, it’s ours.

Every view represents someone who paused for a few moments to read an article. Someone looking for encouragement during a season of change. Someone seeking clarity, inspiration, a fresh perspective, or simply a quiet moment to reflect. Whether you’ve been reading for years or have only recently discovered this blog, thank you for allowing me to be part of your journey.

To celebrate this milestone, I wanted to do something a little different. Over the next four weeks, I’ll be opening the archives and sharing collections of some of the most-read articles from this blog. Rather than organizing them by date, I’ve grouped them by the themes that have shaped my writing over the years:

  • Reflections for the Journey
  • Leadership
  • Writer’s Corner
  • Life’s Serenity

Each collection represents a different part of my journey as a leadership coach, author, researcher, and lifelong learner. Some articles may make you pause and think. Others may inspire your next step, spark your creativity, or simply remind you to slow down and enjoy the journey.

Whether you’re revisiting an old favorite or discovering these articles for the first time, I hope you’ll find something that speaks to where you are today. Thank you for reading, sharing, and growing alongside me. Here’s to the next chapter.

Below are ten reader favorites that invite us to pause, reflect, and reconnect with what matters most. I hope one, or perhaps several, will encourage you this week.

Reflections for the Journey: 10 Reader Favorites

Below are ten reader favorites that invite us to pause, reflect, and reconnect with what matters most. I hope one—or perhaps several—will encourage you this week.

  1. When Everything Stops
  2. The Power of U-Turns
  3. Must Go Faster
  4. Quiet Isn’t Always Peace…
  5. When It’s Time For Something New…
  6. If Your Life Was A Book...
  7. The Journey. Keep Going
  8. Fear of Dying With Unaccomplished Dreams
  9. The Rear View
  10. Don’t Stop Believing: 10 Songs That Inspire

Which article resonated with you the most? Do share. We would love to hear.

Cheers!

The Most Important Leader You’ll Ever Lead

I sat in the stillness of the morning dew. Birds chirping quietly. Soft breeze moving through treetops amidst the dew heavy grasses. The cool, still air of sunrise created the perfect moment for my thoughts to breathe.

As I mentally listed the many roles I carry; author, coach, mentor, leadership developer, colleague, mom, and more; I realized someone was missing from the list.

Me.

In the hustle and bustle of life, I had quietly disappeared from my own list. Sadly, that isn’t uncommon. Many leaders become so committed to serving others that they forget to lead themselves.

With trailing thoughts the question arose, Who is the most important person you will ever lead?” It isn’t your team. It isn’t your organization. It isn’t your family.

It’s You

Yes, you. We spend a great deal of time learning how to lead others: our teams, organizations, and families. But the most important leadership journey begins much closer to home. It begins with leading ourselves.

Self-leadership is the daily practice of managing our thoughts, choices, attitudes, and actions before expecting others to follow our example. It isn’t about perfection. It’s about intentional growth.

The strongest leaders aren’t always the loudest voices in the room. They’re often the ones who have learned to pause before reacting, stay true to their values, admit when they’re wrong, and keep growing long after they have earned the title.

Every day presents us with Choices:

  • Will I let fear make this decision?
  • Will I choose comfort over growth?
  • Will I respond, or simply react?

Those quiet decisions shape our leadership more than our title ever will. As you prepare for the week ahead, take a moment to reflect:

  • What habit is helping me become a better leader?
  • What mindset do I need to leave behind?
  • What one courageous step will I take this week?

Leadership isn’t built in a single moment. It’s built one decision at a time.

The quality of your leadership tomorrow depends on how well you lead yourself today.

What is one self-leadership habit you’re committed to strengthening this week?

10 Mini Retreats To Help You Unwind & Reboot At Almost No Cost

The start of something new brings hope and excitement. ~ Gabriel Chase

As leaders, we’re often wired to keep going. We push through deadlines, lead teams, solve problems, and pour our energy into everyone else. After weeks, or even months of operating at full speed, it’s easy to find yourself physically exhausted, mentally drained, and creatively depleted.

Perhaps you’re longing for a vacation, but time, responsibilities, or finances make a dream getaway unrealistic right now. The good news is that renewal doesn’t always require a plane ticket or an expensive resort. Sometimes the most meaningful reset comes from intentionally stepping away, even for a few hours.

These 10 simple, budget-friendly mini-retreat ideas are designed to help you slow down, unwind, reconnect with yourself, and reignite your creativity. Whether you need clarity for your next leadership decision, fresh inspiration for your writing, or simply a moment to breathe, these low-cost escapes can help you return refreshed, refocused, and ready for what’s next.

1. Create a “CEO Retreat Day”

Leave home by 8:00 a.m. Pack:

  • Your book
  • Journal
  • Beach chair
  • Water
  • Simple lunch
  • Fruit/snacks
  • Favorite music

Spend the day moving slowly.

Morning:

  • Beach walk
  • No phone except photos

Late morning:

  • Journal about life, not business.

Afternoon:

  • Sit under a tree or umbrella and simply watch the ocean.

Get home before sunset.

2. Sunrise Beach Therapy

  • Go before everyone arrives.
  • Bring coffee.
  • No agenda.
  • Watch the sun come up.

There is something incredibly calming about beginning the day before the world gets noisy.

Even one hour feels restorative.

3. State Parks

Find an amazing state park for only a small entrance fee.

  • Take your lunch
  • Read
  • Walk
  • Watch wildlife
  • No meetings

4. Botanical Garden

Instead of shopping, spend two or three hours wandering gardens. The slower pace naturally quiets the mind.

5. Library + Coffee + Beach

This one sounds simple but is surprisingly restorative.

Morning:

  • Browse a library
  • Pick up one inspiring book (not work)

Then:

  • Local coffee shop

Then:

  • Beach

Read for pleasure. No notetaking.

6. Picnic by the Water

Instead of eating inside: Pack:

  • Fresh fruit
  • Sandwiches
  • Sparkling water
  • Blanket

Find:

  • An inlet
  • Marina
  • Quiet beach
  • Lake

Stay three hours. Leave your laptop at home.

7. Artist Day

If you’re a creator. Spend a day doing things that feed creativity instead of productivity. Maybe:

  • Visit an art museum
  • Photograph interesting doors
  • Photograph waves
  • Collect shells
  • Write one poem
  • Sketch

No pressure to produce anything.

8. Sunset Reset

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Instead of watching TV, drive to the beach. Watch the sunset. Leave. One hour. Sometimes that’s enough.

9. Personal Silent Retreat

One day.

  • No email.
  • No LinkedIn.
  • No Instagram.
  • No writing projects.
  • No work.

Only:

  • Prayer
  • Reading Scripture
  • Journaling
  • Gratitude
  • Walking
  • Listening

If you’re a person of faith, and have a daily walk with God, this may be the most renewing option of all.

10. “Dream Again” Day

This may be especially useful for someone like you.

  • Not planning.
  • Not budgeting.
  • Not working.
  • Just dreaming.

Take your notebook and write:

  • Where do I want to be in five years?
  • What types of engagements would bring me joy?
  • Which organizations would I love to serve?
  • What legacy do I want to leave?
  • What would make this next chapter lighter?
  • Other

No action plans. Just possibility.

One More Thought

If you’re a Giver, very few goals may be about giving something back to yourself. The GreenLight Factor teaches people to recognize the right signal before moving forward. This may be your YellowLight season; a reminder to pause, regain clarity and replenish your energy before the next GreenLight (see Chapter 4)

My challenge to you is simple:

Schedule one full “CEO Retreat Day” during the next two weeks. Don’t wait until you can afford a formal vacation. A quiet day with the ocean, a journal, and no agenda may give you exactly the reset you need for everything that’s coming next.

Cheers!

What Happens When Your Leaders Don’t Know Their Next Move?

One of the leaders I worked with was exceptionally talented. She was respected by her team, consistently delivered results, and had recently been promoted into a larger role. Yet despite her success, she found herself overwhelmed by competing priorities, difficult decisions

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What Can Exposure Do for You?

Exposure is the act of placing yourself deliberately, in environments that are bigger, faster, or more demanding than the ones you currently occupy.

Outdoor basketball court with ball on ground and sunset over water

Perhaps the most terrible (or wonderful) thing that can happen to an imaginative youth…is to be exposed without preparation to the life outside his or her own sphere.

Stepping into new arenas whether on the court, in the boardroom, and everywhere in between, can change the trajectory of your life.

It started as a simple conversation about basketball camp.

My teenage nephew had been eyeing a summer program. It was one of those intensive week-long camps where serious young players come together to train, compete, and grow. Was it about the drills? The coaches? The three-point shooting clinics? Sure, partly. But when we sat down and talked about why it really mattered, one word kept rising to the surface:

Exposure

The more I thought about it, the more I realized that exposure isn’t just a basketball concept. It might be one of the most underrated forces in human development. For athletes, yes. But just as powerfully for aspiring leaders, young professionals, and anyone standing at the edge of something new, wondering whether to jump.

What Exposure Actually Means

We throw the word around casually. “It’ll be good exposure.” But what are we really saying?

Exposure is the act of placing yourself deliberately, in environments that are bigger, faster, or more demanding than the ones you currently occupy. It’s the difference between reading about competition and feeling it. Between hearing about leadership and practicing it under pressure.

For my nephew, basketball camp means going up against players who are better than him. It means his weaknesses will be visible to coaches, to peers, to himself. That sounds uncomfortable because it is. But that discomfort is precisely the point. Exposure forces an honest accounting. You learn, very quickly, where you actually stand.

The Three Gifts Exposure Gives You

1. A Realistic Mirror

Most of us live inside a bubble. It might be our neighborhood team, our school, our workplace, our friend group. Within that bubble, we develop a sense of who we are and what we’re capable of. Sometimes that sense is accurate. Often, it isn’t.

Exposure shatters the bubble, gently or not so gently.

When my nephew steps onto a court with players from across the state, kids who have been training just as hard, maybe harder, he will get a truer picture of his game. Not to discourage him, but to inform him. What needs work? Where does he genuinely excel? What habits has he developed that will not hold up at a higher level?

Leaders face the exact same reckoning. A manager who’s brilliant within their own team can be humbled the moment they sit at a table with peers from other organizations. That humbling isn’t failure, it’s information. And information is the raw material of growth.

2. A Larger Network

Here’s a truth that sounds almost too practical: the people in the room matter as much as the experience itself.

At basketball camp, my nephew won’t just learn from coaches. He will meet players from different cities, with different stories and different styles. Some of those connections will fade. A few might last for years. One might lead somewhere he can’t yet imagine, a friendship, a recommendation, or an opportunity down the road.

This is exactly how exposure works for aspiring leaders. Conferences, stretch assignments, cross-functional projects, mentorship programs. These aren’t just resume builders. They are relationship laboratories. Every new environment you enter expands the constellation of people who know your name, your work, and your character.

Networks built through shared experience are different from networks built through LinkedIn requests. They carry weight because they carry memory.

3. An Expanded Sense of What’s Possible

Perhaps the most quietly powerful gift of exposure is this: it rewires your imagination.

When you have only ever seen one way of doing things, that way feels like the way. Exposure introduces you to other ways, other styles of play, other models of leadership, other definitions of excellence. And once you have seen them, you can’t unsee them.

My nephew might watch a point guard at camp move in a way he’s never seen before and suddenly realize that style of play is available to him, too. He didn’t know to want it until he saw it. That’s what exposure does. It expands the menu.

For leaders, this might look like visiting a company with a radically different culture, or watching a mentor handle a crisis with grace you didn’t know was possible, or sitting in a room where someone younger than you is making decisions with a confidence that quietly raises your standards for yourself.

Exposure Requires Courage

Let’s not romanticize this too much. Exposure can be uncomfortable, even painful. It requires showing up in spaces where you are not yet the expert. It requires being seen before you’re ready. It requires the willingness to look at least temporarily, like someone who doesn’t have it all figured out.

That’s a lot to ask. Especially of a teenager. Especially of someone who has worked hard to project confidence in their current environment.

But here’s the thing about leaders who consistently grow; they develop a tolerance for being the least experienced person in the room. They learn to treat that feeling not as a threat to their identity, but as a signal that they’re in the right place.

The discomfort of exposure is the sensation of your ceiling rising.

How to Seek Exposure Intentionally

Exposure doesn’t always announce itself. Sometimes you have to go looking for it. Here’s how to start:

  • Say yes to the uncomfortable invitation. The panel you weren’t sure you were qualified for. The networking event in an unfamiliar industry. The stretch project that scares you a little. Say yes first, and figure out the rest after.
  • Choose environments that challenge your assumptions. Seek out people who think differently, lead differently, and have succeeded by different paths than you have mapped out for yourself.
  • Reflect on what you observe. Exposure without reflection is just tourism. After every new experience, ask yourself: What surprised me? What did I learn about my own gaps? What do I want to try differently?
  • Be patient with the timeline. Exposure plants seeds. Some of them take years to grow. Don’t measure the value of an experience only by what it produces immediately.

Back to the Basketball Court

Are you willing to step

into the room?

My nephew is going to that camp. He will face players who are faster, more polished, maybe more confident. He will have moments of doubt and moments of revelation. He will come home with sore legs, new connections, and if he’s paying attention, a clearer sense of both who he is and who he could become.

That’s not a small thing. That’s everything.

Whether you’re sixteen and chasing a dream on a basketball court, or thirty-five and stepping into your first leadership role, or fifty and pivoting into something entirely new, exposure is available to you. It’s not reserved for the “already-great”. It’s how the ordinary become exceptional.

So the question isn’t whether exposure can do something for you.

The question is: are you willing to step into the room?

Sometimes the most important thing you can do is simply show up somewhere bigger than where you have been.

How have you experienced exposure in your personal growth? Do share, we would love to hear.

Cheers!

Leadership Lessons: The Devil Wears Prada

Not every opportunity is aligned

What if one of the most powerful leadership lessons didn’t come from a boardroom but from a fashion magazine?

I recently revisited Just Stuff, an observation written based on the movie, The Devil Wears Prada and saw it differently. Not as a story about fashion or ambition, but as a case study in leadership decision-making.

At its core, it reflects what many leaders experience every day: standing at critical intersections, navigating pressure, identity, and expectations. Through the lens of my GreenLight Leadership Framework, three signals stood out:

🔴 RED LIGHT: When to Stop
Not every opportunity, no matter how prestigious, is aligned.
Sometimes the greatest leadership decision is recognizing when something is costing you too much.

🟡 YELLOW LIGHT: When to Assess
Growth can be deceptive. You may be advancing externally while becoming disconnected internally. Pause long enough to ask: Is this who I want to become?

🟢 GREEN LIGHT: When to Move
The most powerful moment in the film wasn’t success, it was clarity.
Choosing alignment over approval.
Purpose over pressure.

Developing leadership is a poignant process because leadership isn’t just about moving forward. It’s about moving forward at the right time, for the right reasons.

Many leaders today aren’t stuck because they lack ability. They are stuck because they are navigating the wrong signal.

So I’ll leave you with this:

Where are you right now?
🔴 Stopping
🟡 Assessing
🟢 Moving

Do share, we would love to hear.

Wish to learn more? Sign up for a greenlight leadership lab or get your copy of the book.

Cheers!

Africana Arts And Humanities Festival

I am still processing the beauty, the brilliance, and the warmth of the Africana Humanities Festival. To the organizers, thank you for creating a space where our stories, our scholarship, and our voices are not just welcomed but celebrated. Being featured as an author and speaker at this 250 anniversary festival was an honor.

Great partnering with co-session presenter R. Manasseh Thornton

To every single person who stopped by my table, sat in my session, picked up the assessment, asked questions, and shared your own stories with me, YOU are the reason this work exists. The conversations we had confirmed everything I believe about why The GreenLight Factor needed to be written.

🚦 So many of you are standing at an intersection right now. A career decision. A relationship. A dream you keep putting on hold. A path that looks right on paper but feels wrong in your body. This book was written for that exact moment.

The GreenLight Factor is coming soon and your pre-order means the world. It tells me the message is landing before the book even hits shelves.

Signup to attend a Greenlight Lab today. Let’s get you to your Greenlight.

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