Written by Success Vista‘s Founder, Ibibo Ataisi Justin
Relationship is one of the most important factors that determine our success in every aspect of our lives. The quality of your relationship can build or destroy your life.
Having an effective relationship is not something that is done overnight, but through painstakingly applying some set of skills and techniques.
Effective relationship is something that cannot be overemphasized in today’s workplace. No business can thrive in the long term without building quality relationships with its employees, customers and suppliers. Also, it is quality relationship that oils the wheel of friendship, and even marriages.
Our society is totally sick because of strained relationships among people, countries, tribes, races, etc. For us to improve the quality of our lives, we must also improve the quality of our relationships.
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Interestingly, society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships.
Here are 10 practical tips to improve the quality of our relationships.
Understanding the other person’s feelings and position creates an effective relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another person is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other person realizes this, they feel the importance given to them.
Effective relationships require individuals to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. Assuming that the other person understands our needs and will give us what we need when we need it, without asking for it, is not a good practice.
Respect is the key to relationship. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect. We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function.
You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can. Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting yourself and respecting others.
This is very important for any sustainable relationship. You must earn the trust of others, because any act of suspicion can destroy any relationship overnight. The bottom line here is that your words should be your bond.
- Value creation
The quality of your relationship to a large extend would be determined by what you are able to offer. Your intention should be to add value into any relationship you create
Always show appreciation to other individual for any little that is done. This makes them to feel important and willing to be committed to such relationship.
- Individual differences.
We must also understand that we are all unique entities and as such, we have our different values and ideology. It is important that we identify these and treat them accordingly.
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- Clearly define roles.
Also, it is essential that each individual understand the role they are expected to play in order to sustain the relationship. This is important as it helps to reduce the possibility of conflicts in the future.
Seeing things from the perspectives of others also makes them feel that you are interested in their well-being and progress. The point here is that you put yourself in the position of others before you make any decision.
Relationship is like the game of table tennis. If you don’t serve, you won’t receive any service in return. You must be willing to give the highest quality of service you can render at all times.
- Golden rule
Always do unto others as you want them to do unto you. If you give your best to any relationship, you would also attract the best from such relationship.