Rushing To A Place Where You Don’t Want To Be. The Answer Is In The Why…

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I go to seek a Great Perhaps. ~Francois Rabelais

Rushing to a place where you don’t want to be. Why? Why do you do that? Why do you spend your life rushing around? Rushing to work? Rushing home to a place where you do not want to be. Rushing to water a failing relationship with family, friends or foe? Rushing to do what others want you to do?

Then after all the rush…when you finally arrive at your destination, you are miserable. Life seems hard. Unfair.  So many questions. Why do you do it? Is it because you can’t do any better?

The Answer Is In The Why

You rush to the job because you need to pay the  rent-to have shelter. A place to rest. A place where you want to feel the solace of those who care. You need food. Independence. You need to feel worthy. To avoid the shame.  To avoid the dread of what others may think.

Forget Them 

Forget them. Take the steps needed to do you. To go after that dream. Make a plan. Work that plan. Keep it at the forefront of your mind. And when the going gets rough…work it even harder. You will get there… someway, somehow.

Here are a 7 tips to help you when you feel stuck. Need help? Let’s connect.

Cheers!

Top 20 Companies To Work For…

Success is no accident

Years ago I managed the process that led to GlaxoSmithKline capturing the coveted Employer of Choice Award. It was indeed a great place to work. Since then I have always been encouraged by other companies who achieve the same feat and become the envy of many who long for a great place to work…somewhere you can’t wait to jump out of bed in the mornings to get to.

Fortune 100 Best revealed its list of the top 100 Best companies to work for in 2019. Here I share the top 20.

  1. Hilton
  2. Salesforce
  3. Wegmans Food Market Inc
  4. Workday
  5. Kimpton Hotels & Restaurants
  6. Cisco
  7. Edward Jones
  8. Ultimate Software
  9. Texas Health Resources
  10. The Boston Consulting Group Inc
  11. Stryker Corporation
  12. Publix Super Markets Inc
  13. American Express
  14. Quicken Loans
  15. Orrick
  16. Baird
  17. JM Family Enterprises
  18. Kimley-Horn
  19. Camden Property Trust
  20. Cooley LLP

 

Didn’t see your company’s name? Check the list to see where they fall.

Cheers!

 

Living Your Life As A Mask…

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A new writer shared her Instagram name. It was nowhere close to her real names . I beckoned to her… smile in tow…”you do make it hard, don’t you? In haste she retorted “it’s so my employer can’t find me”.

I smiled.

Our Lives In Compartments

How many of us are like that? We live our lives in compartments trying to separate our true selves from what those around us see publicly.

To Hide…To Be

It’s a hard choice but sometimes you have to hide in order “to be“. I pray one day that you will be able to just be. To reveal your true identity and just be the you that you want to be.

Cheers!

This Secret Of Mine…

 

A group of writers were challenged to a Write In, Write Out Session. After free writing for an hour, Akiim Jarrett  wrote this spoken word that characterises his gift. Here I share:

Screams, Shrieks and Secrets

 

it screams – this secret of mine-

hidden heartbreak and soul-stirring agony,
so I crave peace.

a peace which remains unbothered

a peace ne’er t’be interrupted;

but these days dreams don’t get fulfilled and life rolls you along with the punches at whim.

 

it shrieks – this secret of mine-

divine calamity a beautiful harmony

can you see it in catastrophic splendor?

a jaw dropping visage,

an image and event to die for-

a living truth I’d reluctantly lie for.

it sounds off – 

like the loud silence insecurities decorate-

a masterpiece that doubt artfully paints

can’t you see?

or will you see how this feels like it’s been before,

karmic justice settling the score-

quote raven or mock the peacock

choose that which haunts less is all I implore

secrets aside – lies do thrive

tis better to release than bury inside.

it can be different

things need not be the same

you can produce the change 
from the inner stain of shame

that brought you much pain.

just be – you – in its entirety

and all good things will follow-

beloved, it’s merely a formality

By Akiim Alqhumizta

 

 

Does It Require A No?

Antoya Lee, Writer

Every secret of a writer’s soul, every experience of his life, every quality of his mind, is written large in his works. ~Virginia Woolf

A group of writers were challenged to a Write In, Write Out Session. After free writing for an hour, Antoya Lee wrote this delectable piece that shows her talent waiting to be honed. Here I share:

What is Rape? Does it Require A “No?”

~Antoya Lee

If I push my beliefs, wants, and desires on you, and I succeed in having my way,                  should I be held accountable for my actions? If, my persistence made me successful in having my way but brought upon you harm and danger.

Or, should I be vindicated from my exploitation of your mind and body and be freed from punishment because of my intellectual ignorance?  My mind’s ability to reason and understand based on the knowledge or lack thereof, stored within my mind.

Hear, the words, that proceed as I speak.  Abuse and harassment, of any type: sexual, verbal, physical, mistreatment, recklessness, carelessness, ignorance and arrogance. Have you been impacted by such activities or behaviors? Were you the offender, or of your life, a victim of such social behaviors that are communicated amongst our social environment?

Sadly, were you an offender in any group or area of your social environment, where you mistreated, misrepresented yourself or something, in order to have your way and accomplish your desires and wants. Or, to support your beliefs and needs, with your friends, with your family, and coworkers, strangers and lovers, church or other group member affiliation.

Were you ever so persistent in having your way to the detriment of another                          against that person’s comfort and will?

Is rape or harassment just something sexual?

Or, could it be a form of social communication, verbally and physically, expressed in any type of social situation and setting amongst people in your social circle.

Could it be social manipulation, simply to accomplish one’s own disparate deeply desired wishes?

Not just sexual, but could rape simply, but greatly be social dysfunction, after all the offenses in every area of our lives that happened upon us, or we upon them.

I forgive you. Do you forgive me? Of social rape. Trying to have my own way.

My point: Lets be mindful of how we interact and how we share our habits with each other because rape is social contamination.

By Antoya Lee

The Biggest Challenge Writers Face….

There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.

― Maya Angelou

A public writers forum asked the question “what is the single biggest challenge you as a writer face?” Here I share responses as writers chimed in:

  • Writing everyday
  • Marketing
  • Not enough erasers
  • Find an agent
  • A full-time job that isn’t
  • Learning all the required skills – writing, editing, cover art, publishing, marketing, salesmanship, accounting …
  • Identifying my audience
  • Details
  • Time
  • Reviews
  • Getting books sold
  • Selling myself
  • Lethargy
  • Butt in chair
  • Discipline
  • Marketing costs. Dispite what some may say, it is expensive to self-publish. Editor, copy editor, cover design, copyright, ISBN numbers, authors copies, advertising, website, domain name, contests, give-aways, and on and on it goes
  • Self-Doubt
  • Stay Motivated
  • Writers block

The list goes on. Are you a new or published author? Is anything missing? Do share. We would love to hear.

Need help? Let’s connect.

Cheers!

Dream Journal…

Every dream begins with a dreamer

Little 7 year old Xavier quietly whispered that he captures his dreams in the morning in a journal. Often I encourage individuals to keep a journal to capture thoughts on their dreams and goals. This will help them to work on them to achieve.

Unknown to me he has been listening and took it literally by writing his ‘dreams’ every morning.

Oh how much a little child leads.

 

Don’t Confuse A Season For A Lifetime…

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You have to stop thinking that you’ll be stuck in your current situation forever. We feel like our hearts will never heal, or we’ll never get out of this impossible struggle. Don’t confuse a season for a lifetime. Even your trials have an expiration date. You will grow, life will change, things will work out. ~Brittney Moses

Success: The Passion. The Show. The Win…

Just love it when we do what we do with a difference! The attitude is contagious.

UCLA gymnast Katelyn Ohashi earned a perfect 10.0 score for this incredible routine she performed over the weekend. Here’s a peek at the routine.

Success sure delight!

Cheers!