Changing careers can be hard and extremely stressful. It has been rated just below the death of a friend. Indeed it is a dreaded time of contemplation and decision making.
As such it is always a pleasure to share my knowledge and experience with new Graduates, mid-career changers as well as those battling retirement fears as I will do at the Lauderdale Manor’s Community event.
Here’s to connecting and making a difference in the lives of others.
Culture. Dance. Dancehall music. The Study? How does that connect? Curious, I reached out to young 23-year-old filmmaker, Joelle Powe. She shared the intriguing story of her own curiosity that led to her Anthropological Journey through Culture and Dance. A journey of success which exposed her globally to becoming a documentarian. Even before then, she was recognized in Washington DC for her work done in the Caribbean and globally.
Listen to the interesting and delightful conversation. No doubt it will motivate and inspire you.
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
Kara Barnett’s TEDx talk was intriguing. She spoke about combating the imposter syndrome. But personally because of who I am, I captured her talk focusing more on the Fear we feel. This is more so because I constantly speak to you–my audience about fear.
Fear detracts. Fear retards. Fear keeps us stuck from achieving our goals, dreams and aspirations. This can be professional or social.
Grab coffee or a glass of wine and listen into this brief TEDx talk as Kara discussed the things that are important to becoming more bold.
Now that you watched it, what did you glean? Do share, we would love to hear.
In their careers my friend and her hubby deal with fatalities everyday. She shared an incident of a woman whose car was severely damaged when it crashed into a Guard rail. The woman reported that she was trying to commit Suicide. She survived.
On the other hand my friend’s hubby who is in law enforcement shared reports about a man who after investigation, authorities discovered it was attempted Suicide. He succumbed to his injuries and died.
A Pastor in his message recently shared statistics of the number of police officers who have committed suicide since 2019, in New York. An unbelievable rate of 24% as at mid-year.
Those Who Smile
I share this to ask prayers for those who SMILE or laugh out loud with us outwardly but deep down inside are hurting or depressed due to finances, job loss, relationships, or for one reason or…
You get the job of your dreams. They said yes! You’re thrilled. Life’s meaningful. Hmmm but what if it’s terrible challenge? What if I can’t do it? Then fear steps in.
You engage in a new entrepreneurship venture. You’re excited. All seems well with your business idea. Plans go into place. Then you begin to wonder… can I do it? What if I fail? Then fear steps in.
By chance you met the person of your dreams. You date. Get to know each other. Then comes the decision of marriage. A lifetime together. The prospects of little Mini ME’s running around. Oh what joy! But then…what if he/she changes? The questions start mulling around in your head. Then fear steps in.
When Fear Takes Over What Do You Do?
When fear takes over what do you do? You face it head on, that’s what. Don’t let it sweat you. Do what you have to. Think positive. Gain knowledge. Build your confidence. There will always be good times and yep …bad ones too. Enjoy the good. Don’t fear the bad. It’s called life. And life has its ups and downs. But it’s your resilience that will help you get through–that will help you survive. If you are religious, pray. It will quiet your spirit. Exercise. Release those endorphins. Whatever you do face your fear head on in faith.
Giving up is common. Not only among Entrepreneurs but also among all of us as individuals striving to achieve our goals. I looked deep into this pictogram to assess what I’ve come across as a coach. Here’s the detailed list clearly extracted from the picture.
I heard a TV host who was showing a young lady how to use a piece of equipment which she was actively trying to learn. She went into a what if scenario to which he retorted with the question… “are you pre-planning your mistakes?” She laughed.
It reminded me of how we often act. We think of everything that could go wrong instead of thinking of the things that could go right. What if I go after the entrepreneurship venture and fail? What if I apply to the job and they turn me down? What if I invest in the relationship and it doesn’t work out? What if scenarios play over and over in our head. It gets us nowhere. Get out of your head and take the bull by the horn (so to speak). Here’s a brief list of things you can do to get out of your head.
Recognize the signs of the negative and create an action plan to beat it
Write it down. Get the negative thoughts out of of your head
Focus on your end-goal
Watch an inspiring movie. Laugh. Comedy puts you on your lighter side.
Make a list of inspiring movies, songs, or anything that will help you beat the downward mood trend
Talk it out. Have a trusted friend that you can share your thoughts and insecurities with.
Have an accountability partner who will check in with you continuously about your goal
Let go of negative people, environment or things. Anything that holds you back.
Keep learning. Learn something new. It builds your confidence.
These are just a few of the things you can do when you start to question yourself. Remember life comes with its ups and downs. So it is important to take the time to grow in spite of the things that may try to pull you down. Keep yourself motivated to achieve.
How about you? What do you do to keep yourself motivated when the negative thoughts threaten? Do share. We would love to hear.
Think about the last time an opportunity showed up. It may have been a job, a relationship, a personal move. It was too good to be true. So you hesitated. Did your hesitation alter the end result? Did you go after it eventually or did you make your fear cause you to freeze?
It’s sad but so often we self-reject. Often we talk ourselves out of doing something we are well qualified for. Most common on the job-front. We move to a new area. Start the job hunt then when something big comes up. We feel less than qualified. We look at the requirements then decide that we won’t apply because we don’t fit one or more of the requirements. Or that company is too big, they would never hire me. We do the usual self talk. Focus on the negative and talk ourselves out of it. Ditch the negatives.
Going after something or someone we deem important. But what if they see me in a different light? What if they think that I’m not good enough? What if they say no? Ditch the negative self-talk. What if they say yes? Send the email.
Ditch The Negative Self-Talk
Life would be much easier if we focus on the positive. Ditch the self-pity. Ditch those negative self-talk. Go after your dream job, relationship, house, car, vacation. Plan it. Ink it. Do it.
Ditch It! Switch It! Yep, many are doing just that. In the book Your career, Ditch it Switch it, I encouraged you to reflect on the pandemic and switch your career. It’s the best time. Now more than ever many are doing it. Here’s CNN Headline news top tips to do it right.
A lil bird! Yep a lil tiny bird. A simple walk to get the cardio steps in, turned into a run for our lives! Sounds funny but it’s true. A little bird perched atop a light-pole swooned in above our heads. It attacked Zeus the dog first as if attempting to pick him up for a quick getaway. When my youngest countered, it went after her. She ran. Then it went after me! What in the world? We galloped running for our lives from a tiny bird! I can hardly believe it.
Life’s Little Things
Has that ever happened to you? A seemingly little thing attacks? We have all been through it when a little flu-like feeling turned the world upside down. We thought it was too little a thing to cause harm. A tiny sound taken for granted causes serious accidents to many on a highway. A newborn changes the lives of many relationships causing you to wonder who’s in charge? A simple mistake on the job has devastating consequences leaving many unemployed.
Yes life’s little things can have a great impact. For the positives we scream with joy! But when the negatives happen, we are thrown off. When fear of life’s little things happen, be confident and know that it will pass. Don’t give up on your goals. Build your resilience and look back at your learnings. Later, you’re sure to bask in your success.
Confused about a life change in your career or new business? Learn how to overcome in the book Ditch It Switch It.
Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.
Goals, write them down. Then work them. In a recent post Yendi shared her 10 Goals. Years ago when I was expecting, I went to Lamaze class where my only child at the time would play with the instructor’s teen, Yendi.
Recently Yendi reflected how she wrote down her 10-year goals. Many reveal that they cannot even think that far. In Yendi’s case her dream was to enter and win the Miss Jamaica World contest. She worked it and yep, she did it! From the entry to the steps to win it … and that she did.
So make sure that your goals are BIG so you can’t miss them when they come through!
How old are you now? What dreams are you carrying. Take the time to write them down. Then once you do, work them and there’s no doubt that you will achieve them. Don’t know where to start? Let’s connect or dive into the book Ditch it Switch It and it will show you how.
An expert? Still write the goals for your next chapter since we’re always growing.