Be master of your petty annoyances and conserve your energies for the Big, worthwhile things. It isn’t the mountain ahead that wears you out…it’s the grain of sand in your shoe. ~Robert Service
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Do Not Let Your Fear Hold You Back From Your Destiny…
You Cannot Let Your Fear Hold You Back From Your Destiny. You are to feel the fear and do it anyway. Do it broke. Do it scared. Do it nervous. Do it trembling. Do it with help. Do it on your knees. Do it with courage because you don’t want to end up wondering what would have happened if you had more courage. ~T.D. Jakes
What Advice Would You Give To Your Younger Self? 17 Professionals Share…
If you could give advice to your younger self, what would it be?
Life changes. We evolve, make decisions, choose careers, relationships, and enlarge our own space to embrace and create our own circle of influence including nuclear families. Recently I came across the common question about life and pondering the changes you would have made if you had the chance to advise your younger self. In deep thought I decided to ask professionals what their thoughts were. Most reflected. Here are excerpts of those who quickly chimed in:
- Stop and smell the roses. Life passes by in a flash. Children grow up. Relationships mature, evolve, change. Enjoy life. Appreciate the little things.
- Take more adventures. Let go of traditions.
- Enjoy life more along my journey. To be fearless and take more risks.
- Slow down, travel, start a business, invest, read more.
- Things don’t need to be perfect or need the approval of others. Dream big and go after your dream.
- Believe in Yourself
- Start walking with the Lord earlier
- Take great risks. Step out in faith. It has put me in a shrunken box…away from a life I was used to….but I am satisfied and firmly believe I will get to the dream I desire, despite the tough road I tarry. Perhaps I would not have known God the way I now do.
- Always have courage as life is not linear. Even if you don’t think it makes sense stop reflect and listen to the universe. The path is already defined
- Be bold
- Don’t give up and push for the reality of your dreams
- Be bolder in your steps. Everyone is trying to pave a path for themselves in life and are also facing their own doubts and struggles. They may act out in both love and hate so don’t react to either and never be discouraged when you don’t always hear what you want or allow naysayers to erode your confidence.
- You’ll get there. Everything doesn’t have to happen right away. Don’t dwell on the worst parts
- Pray more and listen to people less.
- Experience Peace and happiness always
- Be more patient. Do not feel so rushed all of the time. Give things a chance.
- Put your energy into things that can truly change or improve. Don’t spin your wheels on dead-end projects.
What about you? What advice would you give to your younger self? Do share. We would love to hear!
Cheers!
My Alexander Terrible Horrible Bad Day…
So it was one of those Alexander Terrible Horrible bad day.
1.Disagreement with boss
2.Bigger boss got mad at other boss because of a crazy issue
3.Both upset so everything went wrong after that
4. Rushed out later to return my iPhone
5. Reached post office and iPhone wouldn’t delete my info, smh
6.Tried for over 45 mins (I never give up)! Oh silly me.
7.Rushed into post office continuing manual deletes
8.Did most of it after standing there for another 15 minutes (empty post office but don’t want it to close on me). Delete. Delete. Delete. Slowly but surely …delete.
9. Finally decided to approach the clerk who looked at the box because I asked. He replied “Sorry this is USPS. You need UPS”.
10.Heart failed! Shocked! But laughed out loud! Omgeee! What a crasses!! (Island peeps will understand)
11. My 5 min FB live for book promo done without a caption (important for me).
12. My Heart sank
13. Had to take it down even though it started getting attention
14.Went up to Walmart to pick up a quick item to exchange for another. They said they couldn’t do it at that location. Smh
16.Went home after a long day.
17. Still have iPhone. Gonna try to return another time.
18.Then first thing the next morning I heard of a family returning from Georgia. Parents, teenage twins and another child….drove into a truck. All died.
Then there’s Hurricanes and other natural disasters that create havoc for those in their path.
So today I thank God for my Alexander Terrible Horrible bad day.
May this encourage you that there’s always someone worse than whatever you’re going through.
Cheers!
The Hikes of Success
Hiking is like life. The Journey requires you to put one foot in front of the other …again and again. And if you allow yourself to be present throughout the entirety of the trek, you will witness beauty every step of the way, not only at the summit. ~Unknown
Traveling in the slow lane, I get angry. I get upset. Forgetting that I’m traveling in the slow lane. My progress is slowed. My destination eludes me and seem to get further away. My anger grows. My frustration… like a fuse lights up, ready to explode!
But that’s how it is with life. Missed steps, missed deadlines, procrastination. Failed business, exams, twisted careers, and more cause us to feel like we are driving in the slow lane. Our goals, dreams, aspirations seems unreachable. We get angry, frustrated, feel punished. But that’s because we have gone off course. We fail to plan. We fail to focus. We fail to keep our eyes on the goal. Milestones recede…ebbs away in the distance. One by one. We procrastinate saying I’ll get it done tomorrow…, but tomorrow never comes.
But all is not lost. Achieving our goal is like a Hike. If carefully planned our long…
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I Hate My Life. I Hate My Life…
I hate my life. I hate my life. I hate my life. That’s the chant I heard her saying as I approached her. Why would anyone say that? Such negative thought.
She had lost her husband. Her job. Her house. Her children. Her sense of independence. She felt she had nothing to live for. Beautiful. Smart. Educated professional she was, life had handed her difficulties. She thought she could never overcome life’s storms.
What were the right words to say to someone such as this?
There’s Hope
- When life throws you lemons, make lemonade.
- Only the strong survive.
- Hold on, never give up.
- The tide will change. Keep going.
- Stay positive.
- Meditate. Pray.
- While there’s life there’s hope.
Will she find solace in any of these? I’m sure. Your thoughts? Do share. We would love to hear.
Cheers!
The Thing About Depression And Suicide: The 10 Signs…
When all seems hopeless
In their careers my friend and her hubby deal with fatalities everyday. She shared an incident of a woman whose car was severely damaged when it crashed into a Guard rail. The woman reported that she was trying to commit Suicide. She survived.
On the other hand my friend’s hubby who is in law enforcement shared reports about a man who after investigation, authorities discovered it was attempted Suicide. He succumbed to his injuries and died.
A Pastor in his message recently shared statistics of the number of police officers who have committed suicide since 2019, in New York. An unbelievable rate of 24% as at mid-year.
Those Who Smile
I share this to ask prayers for those who SMILE or laugh out loud with us outwardly but deep down inside are hurting or depressed due to finances, job loss, relationships, or for one reason or another. Comedian Robin Williams is an example. Anthony Bourdain, celebrity author and travel documentarian is another. Not to mention the silent ones who go crazy with mass shootings of the innocent. All suicides. Sad indeed.
The Signs
WebMD shared these Behavioral warning signs. Read their complete article for further details.
- Excessive sadness or moodiness
- Hopelessness
- Sleep problems
- Sudden calmness
- Withdrawal
- Change in personality or appearance
- Dangerous or self harmful behavior
- Recent trauma
- Making preparations
- Threatening suicide
If you are among the depressed, please seek help. Using wisdom, if you recognize the signs in a Friend, relative, or co-worker, don’t wait. Do something. Get the person the professional help they need. Usually they can’t think clearly.
When All Seems Helpless, Pray
And while you’re doing all of the above Pray. Pray, and pray even more. Prayer changes things. There’s no doubt about that.
Let’s together do what we can in our small corner. But above all, Keep the Faith.
For God has not given us a spirit of Fear but of Power, Love and a sound mind.
Living In The Past. Looking Through The Rear View Mirror…
Living in the past. Just looking in the Rear view mirror. What good does that do? It seems 5, 10, 15 years after leaving one of the best careers ever you end up just existing. Just stuck. Thinking about the big job that you had in the past. The relationship ended 5, 10, 15 years ago, yet you’re still holding on. Face it darling…it’s over. Stop reflecting. Stop pining way. It’s unhealthy.
It’s Time To Move On
It’s time to move on. It’s time to make a change. It’s time to forge full speed ahead. Start living. Start being who you would like to be. How do you do that? If you want a new career, then apply to jobs in that field. Something will rise up for you.
If you want to be an entrepreneur then do what you need to do. Do what it takes to get your business out there to let others know what product or service you are selling. If you don’t like what you’re doing now, make plans to stop. Set a date and stick to it. Stick to it no matter what.
Sometimes You Will Fail
Know that sometimes you will fail. Yes that happens. Life is a risk. You win some, you lose some. But it means you are trying. Just being stuck in the past is not going to help you to forge ahead so you must start doing something different. Start today. Just start doing something different today. Make a move. Stop resisting. Stop living in the past. Stop worrying about what was.
The Stops
Stop worrying about what was.
Stop wishing
Stop living in a wish list ….
Wish I was this, wish I was that
Wish I could do this
Wish I could that
Stop wishing and just do it
Omgeee…
This Time Next Year
This time next year where do you hope to be? This time next year what would you like to see? To experience? This time next year what do you want to be doing? Take the steps so that this time next year you will be doing what you want to do … and you would be where you want to be. Seek the help of others if needed. Ask a friend who has your best interest at heart to hold you accountable. You could also enlist the services of a mentor or coach to be your guide. Now go out and do it. Get it done.
Need help? Let’s connect.
Cheers!
The Mistake. Frustration. Experience. The Learning…
I Thought I Made the Worst Mistake of My Career, But 3 Things Helped Me “Embrace the Suck” and Move on. ~Emile Lee
I love stories of resilience and learning and this is a great one espoused by The Business Insider. Here Emile Lee speaks about his encounter with an overseas career assignment that was not a fit. Mistaking his cultural background, he was hired on the spot for an assignment he wasn’t fit for. After mulling over the good, the bad, and the ugly, he stopped feeling sorry for himself and decided to embrace his circumstances and learn from his situation.
Looking Back
Looking back, he shares his learning. I have extracted the 3 key points that forged his new path.
1. Embrace The Suck
2. Use positive self-talk to open yourself up to risks and change
3. Seek out mentors and internal champions
Hope this story inspires you to keep going and never give up. Need help? Let’s connect.
Cheers!
Brian Tracy’s 7 Steps To Success…
Would you like a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn’t at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that’s where you will find success.” ~ Thomas J. Watson
