If I am an advocate for anything, it’s to move. As far as you can, as much as you can. Across the ocean, or simply across the river. The extent to which you can walk in someone else’s shoes or at least eat their food, it’s a plus for everybody. Open your mind, get up off the couch, move. ~Anthony Bourdain
Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck where you do not belong. ~N.R. Nanyana Murthy
Many of us have been there. We have dreams, goals and aspirations. But we must share such desires with those closest to us to get their buy-in…and in some cases their approvals. But while we wait, it can create tension, sadness, and disappointment that causes us to become stuck. Stuck because what we want to do seems way beyond our scope of accessibility.
But there’s hope if we recognize the signs of how our loved ones and friends can hold us back from realizing our dreams.
Your loved ones and friends can’t imagine you dong anything else. A colleague of mine spoke about having to convince his parents that he wanted to change careers and become an entrepreneur. He was hindered by them because they were proud of him being in his prestigious job that took care of his family. How could he walk away from that? How will they (his parents) introduce him to their friends? What’s this entrepreneurship endeavor… they asked.
Often our loved ones hinder us because they are invested in us and expect us to stay put. Are you the main breadwinner? Will you now be putting them at risk? Is it a co-worker whose job ties closely into your own? Who will they rely on if you walk away? How will they survive?
The worst case occurs when friends, family, or co-workers discourage your progress simply because they envy you. They want to step out themselves but have always been afraid. They don’t have the guts to do it, so they discourage you.
Today, may you find the courage to get up and do what you have always wanted to do. Step out. In some cases it might be necessary to ‘keep your mouth shut‘. Keep your plans to yourself. Then once you have put your plans in place and are ready to go, share your decision. You’ll be guaranteed of moving on to that exciting state where change thrills as you make the leap!
Cheers!
Good Writing is Rewriting ~Truman Capote
Laughter, tears, joys, exhilaration. These are some of the emotions felt as we write. But it’s in re-writing that we find the good.
Keep writing! ✍️
Cheers!
“If the book is true, it will find an audience that is meant to read it.”
—Wally Lamb
Getting started, getting done, the book failing. Those were some of the comments to the question asked in a forum:
Here I share Flaunted excerpts of the many who chimed in:
As a writer, do you share any of these fears? Any missing? Do share! We’d love to hear!
Cheers!
Failure isn’t fatal, but failing to change might be. – John Wooden
Paul sat alone at home depressed. Why does this keep happening to him? He had lost his job last month and sat contemplating what he was doing wrong. There must be something he is missing because he had been terminated from his last 2 jobs in the same way. Though he tried, success seemed to keep a distance.
Paul is not alone. Many, including Entrepreneurs find themselves in similar Dominant situations, often without understanding the reason(s) for loss of a contract or job dismissal. Here I share 9 Reasons People fail.
Want more Candid details? Read article 20 Reasons Success Eludes Some published before yet things have not changed for some people. Apathy can infect any area of our lives and when it strikes it produces failure. The scariest part is how contagious it is. It spreads to other areas of our lives and causes us to get stuck.
If any of the above resonates with you, take the time today to do something about it. Need help? Let’s Connect.
Cheers!
It’s Definitely a Tough Blow to be Fired
A colleague received a call that her mom had to undergo emergency surgery due to an injury. By the time she got to the hospital, the leg had to be removed. Naturally, this was a Shock as her life was immediately turned upside down. She had no choice but to voluntarily resign from her position to be by her mom’s side. She had to be there to assist in any way she could. That was her voluntary decision.
You may not have had the choice. Things happen. You lose your job because of restructuring, organization change, personal issues, and more. All involuntarily. You’re sad. Filled with remorse, and totally depressed.
Don’t get stuck. Take hold of your situation and learn the strategies to:
When life throws you lemons, make lemonade. That’s the saying, and its true. When things stand still…move. Do what you can to get back on your feet. It’s called life…things happen. Don’t let it get you down. Get the courage, the strength. Force yourself to stand up and do something about it.
Need help? Let’s Connect!
Cheers!
When he was fired he not only lost his job, he lost his mind.
The quoted statement is so true of many who have suffered job loss. Society’s perils and pleasure encourages many to link the meaning of life as the very grain of their existence. Too often it is indeed so. Jobs provide a means of livelihood. At the lower level, some provide the basics of food, shelter, and such essentials of life’s needs. Higher paying jobs provide for higher needs that often includes fame, fortune, and all the flashy stuff that make those who hold them the envy of society. But oh the stress and strain caused when blindsided by sudden job loss.
What can we do if we fall prey to such occurrence? Here I share a few strategies:
If you can’t get pass the hurt and pain, read Stuck: The 5 Signs…
Don’t go it alone. If you need help, let’s connect.
Cheers!
With the rapid growth of technology and the ease with which we can obtain goods and services online, one writer asked a Customer Service Rep, “where will the cashiers go?” She replied, “I️ don’t know. I️ hope I’m dead by then”.
I️ began thinking…do we watch trends? And if we do, are we prepared for them? When things change, what do we do? Do we cry, get depressed, or give up?
Definitely not. We need to learn when to let go, and when to hold on.
My followers know that I often refer to the fictional Ms. Havisham from the book Great Expectations. Left at the altar, she determined to remain stuck for the rest of her life. Like an Egg, she was afraid to move on. Decades later, she was still wearing her wedding dress.
Indeed sad. But how many of us are like that? We lose a contract or a job and we remain stuck, whining about the circumstances of the loss. We fall prey to a failed relationship, and we sit back for years…waiting, waiting, waiting. Someone did us wrong and we complain for the rest of our lives. We fail to realize that we are hurting only ourselves as the person has moved on and in some cases, do not even remember the circumstances.
If any of these situations pertains to you, shake it off as Tayor Swift sang. Just Shake it off. Move on. There’s more in life for you, if only you change your perspective.
So how do you discern when to hold on? There’s a fictional cartoon of two men digging to find gold. Suddenly one hits the jackpot! The other hearing his screams of joy in the distance, turned away from his own digging despondent. Onlookers were privy to seeing what was happening, realized that if only he had continued, he would have discovered that his own jackpot was right there. But sadly he turned away, and missed a tremendous opportunity.
How many of us are like that? When the going gets rough, you give up. Acquiring degrees or certifications ain’t no easy feat. When the assignments build; when the work/life balance goes out of whack; when the child rebels, when the bills pile up, when the Panacea of sickness steps in, when an ailing parent moves in… so many give up. Only to regret it later when things change.
To those who are digging for their “goal“, I encourage you to hold on. Don’t give up. Keep plodding. You will achieve and value it more when you look back and reflect on the path you took.
Discouraged? Need help? Let’s connect. Cheers!
Steve heard that his company had been sold. What should he do? Wait forever expecting that call? Get sick because of the impending job loss? He, like so many others, remained stuck, steadfast, unmoveable…waiting.
Need a change? What do you do? Getting married, what do you do? When you have an exam, what do you do? When a storm watch is on what do you do? When a mother is expecting, what does she do?
The above are Avid life situations that are common to us. So what do we do when these situations draw near? It’s simple…we prepare, we act. It’s no different when other unfamiliar situations approach.
Steve heard rumors that his company had been sold. 60 percent of the employees would be integrated into the new company. Unfortunately, he was not contacted by the new management so it was highly unlikely that he would go with them. In that situation what should he do? Wait forever expecting that call? Get sick because of the impending job loss? He, like so many others, remained stuck, steadfast, unmoveable…waiting.
Today, Zip it up! Be Brilliant. Just do something. Don’t leave your future in the hands of someone else. It’s Your life. Make it count.
Cheers!
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Ever been caught between a rock and a hard place? You ask yourself “should I, or should I not?”The choices we make in life are sometimes good, sometimes bad; at times right, at times wrong. But kudos to you when you make a choice!
STUCK
Making a choice is not always easy. We hesitate, deliberate and become stuck. To be stuck means to be trapped in something. Not being sure which direction to take. Have you ever been there? You experience sadness, complacency, a loss of care. Even when you do care, you feel caught, remain steadfast-unmovable…not sure what to do. Remember our beloved child actor McCaulay Culkin? We want him to remain a child forever. We want to be able to watch Home Alone during the holidays and have him remain as he was without changing to feed our fantasies of the ideal family vacation during the holidays!
But life isn’t like that. As we contemplate where we are now in our life, in our career, relationship, health…, we often come up short. Few of us find satisfaction that where we are now is where we want to be.
So today, take some time and reflect. Are you where you want to be in life… and if not, why? Then take action. This will help you get unstuck and back on track. Drop that fork of procrastination! Start moving to achieve your dreams, goals, and aspirations! Before you know it, you’ll Rock!
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