Overnight Success is a Myth…


Overnight Success …. extremely quick success that comes without much effort and is typically based on being in the right place at the right time. ~Susan Gunelius

Overnight success is a myth. It doesn’t Exist.
Your Goal… Encrusted Work it, Do it, and you will achieve it.

Goals: The Sacrifices We Make…


You have to fight to reach your dream. You have to sacrifice and work hard for it. ~Lionel Messi

When you want something good, you have to make a sacrifice. That’s the saying when I was growing up. No Compromise. I followed that advice when I was at the final stage of writing my research. Naturally, this course of studies came with a huge investment, one in which I decided to push full-fledged into.

Doing so I decided to go into it full-time. It was a huge sacrifice as I had to travel by plane and ground transport to interview leaders that headed top industries. I had to make myself available at their convenience. That said, my disposable income was low. I had to be on a budget. I bought only the essentials during that time. Being a shopper, that was no small feat…. (ladies can you tell)? As a huge ‘tell all’,  when I was finally done and decided to go shopping to get some things for graduation, there was a bank alert at the store when they ran my card. You see ‘technology’ as we know it, sensed a changed habit, which set off an alarm. I’ll never forget that day. I laughed long and hard.

I’m sharing this personal incident because I believe you can benefit. If there’s a goal that you would like to achieve, you too can do it. Make that sacrifice. Go after your dream. It will be hard as you progress, but with the right attitude backed by persistence, and hard work, you will make it.

What have you decided to achieve this year? Go ahead, plan it, and just do it.

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The Top 6 Soft Skills That Will Make You Uniquely Successful….


 Soft Skills – personal attributes that enable someone to interact effectively and harmoniously with other people.

  1. Adaptability
  2. Culture Fit
  3. Collaboration
  4. Leadership
  5. Growth Potential
  6. Prioritization

Soft-Skills The Meaning defined

Adaptability refers to the capacity to be modified for a new use or purpose. Culture fit indicates the alignment of behavior between individual and organization. Collaboration is the action of working with someone to produce or create something. Leadership  entails the action of  leading a group of people or an organization . Growth potential considers the potential an individual has to grow in an organization as their rising stars. Prioritization is the ability to put things to be actioned in order of importance.

Don’t be a Rube, consider these soft skills. Do some self-reflection. How do they compare when you reflect on your relationships at work, off the job, with friends, relatives, with your family and even while networking. If you find yourself lacking in area, take the time to improve. It will be worth it.

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The Rear View…


You do not move ahead by constantly looking in the rear view mirror. The past is a rudder to guide you, not an anchor to drag you. We must learn from the past, but not live in the past. ~Warren W. Wiersbe

Stop looking in the rear view mirror. That’s what the instructor would Insist when I was learning to drive many years ago. My goal was to look back to ensure I’m prepared for those crazies when they get too close to avoid being rear-ended. Good thinking? Hmm… not sure.

But now as I get older, I apply the same principle to life. If we constantly look back at the past getting angry at those who did us wrong, or constantly remembering past mistakes, we will never be able to focus.

I am a firm believer in looking back periodically whether its monthly, quarterly, or annually to assess changes for goals and to keep track of plans ahead. However, it’s important to Simplify  and focus. Only with focus and direct steps will we be able to achieve our goals, dreams, and aspirations.

Today, take the time to reflect on your life’s goals. Whether you are an entrepreneur, writer, career enthusiast, or other, reflect on how you deviated in the past.  Then learn from it. Put it aside and steer towards the finish line. Be a distance runner. Pace yourself then head towards the finish line. You will make it at the right time with steady speed, resilience, and concentration.


Forging Ahead…

A colleague recently connected with me to share a number of options Presented to her by her employer. She was to select one and get back to them. She asked my input. I asked her to think about her options as she transitions in her life. From there, she would be able to select the option most suited to her.

Goals Must Intercept

While you must take into account employer goals especially those directly assigned, you must be sure that those goals align with your own personal development. It’s the “what’s in it for me”. Let me hasten to say that it’s not selfish, but job goals that intercept, provide meaning. They provide the motivation to jump out of bed each morning to spend hours on the job. Such personal objectives could be:

  • Financial to save for the future, or to purchase something major
  • Achieving Dreams such as vacation goals, or invest in a unique hobby
  • Education for personal development to get ahead
  • Start a family
  • Become an entrepreneur
  • Making a difference in your community

The above takes into account the selection or acceptance of goals that will help forge those Forlorn desires ahead. If you are working to only pay bills, then it doesn’t make sense, and you’ll eventually feel stuck.

So invest some time now to think seriously about what you want; the direction for your life so you can indeed forge ahead this year.

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Entrepreneurs Speak…

What’s the Biggest Lesson Learnt in the Last 12 months?

The question was asked of entrepreneurs and business owners. What is your biggest lesson learnt in the past 12 months? More than 1,300 individuals replied. I’ll share excerpts.

  • You’ve gotta push beyond your comfort zone
  • Just do it. Don’t think too much, and don’t let your fear overcome you and stop you from taking the step
  • Money is just an illusion
  • Humility
  • Gratitude
  • Appreciate and value people in your circle
  • Patience
  • We become what we think
  • Don’t trust people
  • Reduce your debt. Dont borrow to buy luxury
  • You are responsible for everything, including most importantly yourself
  • Life will hit you with a brick on the head at the most unexpected times. Don’t panic, stay positive, and move on.
  • Focus on what’s ahead
  • Don’t be afraid of changes
  • Stop being a people pleaser
  • Read, read, read
  • Time waits for no one…regrets hurt more than anything
  • I’m stronger than I thought
  • Not everyone you lose is a loss
  • Never Give up
  • Learn to let go
  • Don’t be afraid to start new
  • Enjoy the process

What’s your thoughts? Can you add anything?

Vince Lombardi, former head coach of the Green Bay Packers said that if you’re not keeping score, then you are just practicing. It will be worth it to Memorize that Quote. While practicing is important, most of our goals in life need to be focused on achievement. If we intend to get to where we want to go, then we need to keep a tab on our progress…be it studying, new homeownership, marriage, starting a family, new career, new entrepreneur…whatever it is, keep a tab on it.

Today, reflect on your own path that you have trekked over the past year. Make changes if needed. Celebrate small and/or big wins. Then keep going. You’ll be glad you did.

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If Your Life Was A Book What Would The Title Be?…

This Question was posed and received over 4K visceral responses. Some synchronized, while others…

This Question was posed by Think & Grow Prosper. It sparked my interest so I decided to read a synopsis of the over 4K Visceral responses. Some Synchronized, some humorous, while others left readers in deep thought. Here I share:

  • No Apologies
  • I don’t know
  • God’s Journey
  • Nope,Wrong Book
  • Sunshine
  • Dreamer
  • Fate of Tragedies
  • Where’s the Donut?
  • Burnt Desires with regrets
  • Journey of Mistakes
  • Uprising
  • The Chronicles of Surviving in Today’s Society
  • The Endless Possibilities of a Life Lovingly Lived
  • Why me?
  • Wasted Years
  • Don’t Have your Children 16 Years Apart and Here’s Why
  • Never Ending Circle of Struggle
  • And the Caterpillar Became a Butterfly
  • The Great Forever
  • No Limits
  • From Concrete to a White Picket Fence
  • Life Happens
  • Hot Mess Empress
  • The Conqueror of Fears
  • Just Go With the Flow
  • Incredible
  • This Thang Called Life
  • Still searching
  • Rising from the Ashes
  • Masked
  • This Girl Just Want to Have Fun
  • My Journey to…
  • Unknown
  • Trust Me it’s Real
  • Over sleeping. Over Eating. Over Thinking
  • When God Has a Grip on You
  • Life is a Mystery
  • Peaks and Valleys

Again rather interesting question. Now it’s your turn. If your life was a book, what would your title be?

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If Only…


A junior in college, my daughter felt ill while on her internship program. She called two friends to drive her back to campus. As fate would have it, they met into a serious accident significantly damaging the car.

But they were alive! Praises!

Later, I spoke with her friend (the driver) who was extremely sad and kept saying … if only…if only….

If Only…that’s a regret. Accidents happen. Life happens. Change happens. But we have to roll with the punches. Learn. Move on. To stay in a state of piety and Prickle regret while wallowing in self-pity and the ‘if only‘ syndrome, will keep us stuck…unable to move.

Today, if you are in a state where you’re frustrated because of something that has happened in your life; if you are feeling depressed, I urge you to get up, dust yourself off, and keep moving towards your goal. Do it even when you don’t feel like it. Only then will you reap the benefits of change….and as you progress… only then will you be able to smile again.

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