You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it. Period.
“The whole of life becomes an act of letting go, but what always hurts the most is not taking a moment to say goodbye.” Pi
Under The Tuscan Sun
Terrible Idea…Don’t you just love them?
Eat Pray Love
There are many more movies that inspire us to believe in our dreams. Movies that encourage us not to give up when the going gets rough. Movies that move us beyond the Horizon into self-discovery… a place where the sky is the limit.
George approached his manager asking for a raise. Said he had been with the company for years and was in dire need, unable to meet his personal expenses. He just had a child and threatened that he would resign if it was received.
Sounds familiar? At times many find themselves searching for that Loophole to earn extra cash to supplement their disposable income to do the things you would like to do. Things such as get married; buy your first place; get a larger home for your new and growing family; or simply to getaway on that dream vacation.
But accomplishing these goals is not as easy as most would like. It is then that creativity jumps in as I shared in a recent article on 20 Ways to Earn Extra Income. In that article I promised to share the how to ask your boss for a raise (yikes!). But while this method of increasing your income is upfront, and center (basically right under your nose), it’s not the easiest for us to do. We get nervous, shake, get angry, scared, have sleepless nights, all in our efforts to come up with the most plausible reason why we deserve the salary/rate increase .
15 Ways To Ask For A Raise
Having managed Human Resources internationally for over two decades dealing with issues like this, I’ll share a few pointers on how to do it ‘right‘. How to Evoke the response that will not remain Static with your employer, boss, supervisor–whichever pertains to you.
Here I share:
Prepare yourself for the ask.
Timing is everything.
Consider your company’s policy on salary reviews.
Evaluate the financial situation of your employer.
Take on more responsibility.
Demonstrate your wins, and added values
Share your goals and ask for feedback
Request a face to face meeting. If you’re in a different location, use your internal communication channel. Whatever you do, don’t do the initial ask by email.
Focus on the ‘why‘ not the ‘need’. Why you deserve the increase (not why you need it)
Practice your pitch and anticipate questions
Don’t use other colleagues as your argument (he/she received an increase and so should you). That’s the worse thing you can do.
Don’t discuss workload
Do your research…know what the market pays
No, no, no. Be prepared to hear no. It happens. Decide to ask for other things such as bonus, incentives, or personal development opportunities. Be confident that once you’ve asked, you’ve taken that giant step and the request stays in your boss’ mind.
“Why does this keep happening to me?” This question is often asked by those down in the dumps, or who have a stream of ‘bad Luck ‘ that seem to follow them. Charlene was always late. Late for exams, late for work, late for appointments, late for time with her family…she was late for just about everything. Yet she utters these words when she is fired, dumped, kids faltered etc. But is there something she’s doing wrong that causes these stream of ‘bad luck’ to follow her? Let’s give her the benefit of the Doubt.
Most of us can think of situations that are like that of Charlene’s. People will tell you to follow old wives fables such as throwing salt over your left shoulder, burning incense, carrying protective charms, lighting a few candles of specific colors, and much more to change streams of bad luck. But life is more…
I write because…hmmm…I don’t know (smile). I have never really given much thought to it. Maybe it’s because it’s in me and I love doing it! I’m at peace when I write. I write because maybe there’s a Focused sense of urgency. Throughout my life I remember my mom ‘writing‘ her book. Her story. She wrote in hardcover note books, pieces of paper, typewriter. Then years later she died with her story still inside.
I write because my sister too wanted to write her story. Ravished by cancer, she was hardly able to concentrate. A teacher by profession, she wrote in journals, in her phone, computer, anything she could get her hands on. Then as death drew near, she voiced her writings.
But for me as I reflect on this prompt, I now write with that sense of urgency to get what’s inside of me ….what I’m pregnant with……
A Goal is defined as the object of a person’s ambition or effort, an aim or desired result.
Dreams, goals, aspirations! Don’t we all have them? At the end of each year most reflect on where they are, and where they wish to go. Here I share millenials thoughts on what they hope to achieve in 2018.
Creating the most epic new job that is aligned with my soul
Professional and personal ventures
Jump into my authentic self and apply for a dream role that will involve more if I am chosen
Starting a therapeutic farm
Jump into success
Jump into adventure
Jump into independence
Publish great original writing
Start strategy and marketing consulting business
Jump into God’s plan for my life in 2018
Finding and developing a career that impact the lives of others that inspires me to learn
A new life
More me-time and more international travel
Jump into a new pair of jeans and a few creative jobs with even more creative clients
Turn my new opportunity into something I am proud of
Finishing my Masters
Finding myself again
Leading a group for women who feel stuck or lost focused on building confidence and an action plan
Wow! Brilliant, lots of jumps! Do any of the above resonate with you? Do share!
A colleague recently connected with me to share a number of options presented to her by her employer. She was to select one and get back to them. She asked my input. I asked her to think about her options as she transitions in her life. From there, she would be able to select the option most suited to her.
Goals Must Intercept
While you must take into account employer goals especially those directly assigned, you must be sure that those goals align with your own personal development. It’s the “what’s in it for me”. Let me hasten to say that it’s not selfish, but job goals that intercept, provide meaning. They provide the motivation to jump out of bed each morning to spend hours on the job. Such personal objectives could be:
Financial (as in salary) to save for the future, or to purchase something major
Achieving Dreams such as vacation goals, or invest in a unique hobby
Education for personal development to get ahead
Start a family
Become an entrepreneur
Making a difference in your community
The above takes into account the selection or acceptance of goals that will help forge those Forlorn desires ahead. If you are working to only pay bills, then it doesn’t make sense, and you’ll eventually feel stuck.
So invest some time now to think seriously about what you want; the direction for your life so you can indeed forge ahead this year.
Ever wanted to write? Ever wondered how other writers got started? What’s their Funnel? We are intrigued by writing veterans the likes of Stephen King, and countless others. Many wannabe writers are scared to take the leap. So it was with a breath of fresh air that the writing tips asked the question about how writers got started. Intrigued, I dug deeply. Here I share excerpts of some of their thoughts.
I hid in my words starting at 10 to hide from the pain
My cousin said that I looked like someone who writes poetry. So I gave it a try, and fell in love with it.
I always loved reading and wanted to create stories. Then my parents took me to see the dolphins when I was 8 or 9 years old, and I wrote my first story about this adventure. After this I feel in love with writing because sometimes the stories we create or even just a part of them can become true.
I was 5 years old and wrote about a superhero
I didn’t want to do my math homework but still wanted to look like I was being productive, and that’s how I’ve written about two books.
I had a dream and wanted to make a story out of it
I can’t remember a time I haven’t been writing! Before I could write I drew the pictures and told my parents what to write
What really pushed me into writing other than school assignment was role-playing
When I was younger I had a speech impediment the only way I could truly talk was through writing. Still to this day I write better than I can talk.
My baby sitter wrote stories about the group of kids from our neighborhood who were superheroes. I loved listening to her read them, my love of reading and writing was born, I was 3-4 years old
My siblings and I used to create the most intricate imaginary games. As I got older, I began wanting to write them down. I haven’t stopped.
A sixth grade narrative assignment. Upon handing it back, my teacher said I had talent and could make it as a writer. I was speechless.
So I could be right-brained in school while looking like I’m working on my assignments
I started when I was mentally at a shitty place and needed an outlet to how I was feeling. Writing became my therapy. It healed me.