Rushing To A Place Where You Don’t Want To Be. The Answer Is In The Why…

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I go to seek a Great Perhaps. ~Francois Rabelais

Rushing to a place where you don’t want to be. Why? Why do you do that? Why do you spend your life rushing around? Rushing to work? Rushing home to a place where you do not want to be. Rushing to water a failing relationship with family, friends or foe? Rushing to do what others want you to do?

Then after all the rush…when you finally arrive at your destination, you are miserable. Life seems hard. Unfair.  So many questions. Why do you do it? Is it because you can’t do any better?

The Answer Is In The Why

You rush to the job because you need to pay the  rent-to have shelter. A place to rest. A place where you want to feel the solace of those who care. You need food. Independence. You need to feel worthy. To avoid the shame.  To avoid the dread of what others may think.

Forget Them 

Forget them. Take the steps needed to do you. To go after that dream. Make a plan. Work that plan. Keep it at the forefront of your mind. And when the going gets rough…work it even harder. You will get there… someway, somehow.

Here are a 7 tips to help you when you feel stuck. Need help? Let’s connect.

Cheers!

Don’t Confuse A Season For A Lifetime…

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You have to stop thinking that you’ll be stuck in your current situation forever. We feel like our hearts will never heal, or we’ll never get out of this impossible struggle. Don’t confuse a season for a lifetime. Even your trials have an expiration date. You will grow, life will change, things will work out. ~Brittney Moses

7 Things To Do When Stuck…

You know those things you have always wanted to do, you should go do them.

What is it that thing you have always wanted to do? Change job? Start a family? Enroll on that degree? Learn a new skill? Take that vacation?

Life gets hard at times. Chances are with everything happening around us at work, home, school, it can knock us off our feet. The result often is being stuck. Not moving. As in a state of shock, standing still. Below are 7 Things you can do when you are stuck.

  1. Do something! Step out! Complete that application! Try something new!
  2. Plan an escape rather than daydream about different scenarios. Go on a trip to relax and reboot your thoughts.
  3. Switch up your daily activities.
  4. Don’t envy and compare yourself to others.
  5. Do one positive thing for yourself today.
  6. If you want to change your life, Pray. Change your environment.
  7. Find a mentor or coach. Ask for help.

Today, step forward. Be bold. Go do that thing that you have always wanted to do. Sure you may be scared, afraid, even terrified! But still do it….even when afraid. Don’t leave your future wondering ‘what if’.

Need help? Let’s connect

Cheers!

 

What Have I Done? This is Crazy!

New job offer. Relocation. Tons of change. Excitement in the midst of fear.  But it comes with the territory. Getting up and going to another land…faraway. Giving up the familiar …

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Stay Focused. Go after your dreams and keep moving toward your goals.      ~LL Cool J

What have I done? This is crazy!

New job offer. Relocation. Tons of change. Excitement in the midst of fear.  But it comes with the territory. Getting up and going to another land…faraway. Giving up the familiar is no snack. It is scary… but when we do it, we learn new things about ourselves and about others.

Moving From One Place To The Next

Have you ever watched HGTV’s House Hunters International? Well if you have, you would know that those who take on moving from one country to the next have brave hearts. They give up jobs, family, friends, and often wish they could take their home culture with them. Often they must give up a lot. China! New Zealand! Paris! Japan! The Caribbean! and more for those fascinating new ventures!

We often say we want a change yet we want to hold onto the familiar. It’s normal. In my early career managing international HR, I had the task of sending executives to relocate overseas. It intrigued me so much that I studied Cross Cultural Management. It was often a challenge for those who took the step. But those who embraced the host culture survived beyond the honeymoon stage. They became acclimated to the new culture filled with its languages, people, food, and new experiences.

It Works. Stick With It

But like anything else, it works if we stick with it. Naturally if you find yourself among those who don’t like the experience after you’ve done it, no problem. At least you can still say “I did it“!

Only the adventurous can gleefully say “what have I done? This is crazy!” with a smile and the satisfaction of new learnings, and exposure.

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Cheers to the new adventurous you!

Move. As Far As You Can. As Much As You Can…

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If I am an advocate for anything, it’s to move. As far as you can, as much as you can. Across the ocean, or simply across the river. The extent to which you can walk in someone else’s shoes or at least eat their food, it’s a plus for everybody. Open your mind, get up off the couch, move.                                                                                                                                                                              ~Anthony Bourdain

The 3 Signs Your Friends And Loved Ones Keep You Stuck…

Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck where you do not belong. ~N.R. Nanyana Murthy

Many of us have been there. We have dreams, goals and aspirations. But we must share such desires with those closest to us to get their buy-in…and in some cases their approvals. But while we wait, it can create tension, sadness, and disappointment that causes us to become stuck. Stuck because what we want to do seems way beyond our scope of accessibility.

But there’s hope if we recognize the signs of how our loved ones and friends can hold us back from realizing our dreams.

3 Signs They Are Holding You Back

1.Their expectations

Your loved ones and friends can’t imagine you dong anything else. A colleague of mine spoke about having to convince his parents that he wanted to change careers and become an entrepreneur. He was hindered by them because they were proud of him being in his prestigious job that took care of his family.  How could he walk away from that? How will they (his parents) introduce him to their friends? What’s this entrepreneurship endeavor… they asked.

2. Their Investment

Often our loved ones hinder us because they are invested in us and expect us to stay put. Are you the main breadwinner? Will you now be putting them at risk? Is it a co-worker whose job ties closely into your own? Who will they rely on if you walk away? How will they survive?

3. Envy

The worst case occurs when friends, family, or co-workers discourage your progress simply because they envy you. They want to step out themselves but have always been afraid. They don’t have the guts to do it, so they discourage you.

Today, may you find the courage to get up and do what you have always wanted to do. Step out. In some cases it might be necessary to ‘keep your mouth shut‘. Keep your plans to yourself. Then once you have put your plans in place and are ready to go, share your decision. You’ll be guaranteed of moving on to that exciting state where change thrills as you make the leap!

Cheers!

Writing …

Good Writing is Rewriting ~Truman Capote

Laughter, tears, joys, exhilaration. These are some of the emotions felt as we write. But it’s in re-writing that we find the good.

Keep writing! ✍️

Cheers!

Writers Share Their Biggest Fears About Writing…

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“If the book is true, it will find an audience that is meant to read it.”
—Wally Lamb

Getting started, getting done, the book failing. Those were some of the comments to the question asked in a forum:

What is your one Biggest Fear when it comes to writing?

Here I  share Flaunted excerpts of the many who chimed in:

  • Getting stared
  • Blindness, Alzheimer’s, other
  • The fear of getting done and the book failing
  • Fear of being criticized rather than being critiqued
  • Getting half way through a second draft and realizing the story won’t work
  • Writers block
  • That I spend painful hours at the computer and produce garbage
  • Fear that my historical search won’t be accurate
  • Letting people read what I write
  • No one reading it. No one liking it
  • Finding a new idea
  • Not finishing
  • That they’ll just sit there forever never selling more than a few hundred copies and my life will be wasted with nothing to show for it
  • That I’m putting in a lot of work in with not a lot of return
  • No sales
  • Lost in back-story
  • Procrastination
  • That I am not any good

As a writer, do you share any of these fears? Any missing? Do share! We’d love to hear!

Cheers!

9 Reasons People Fail…

Failure isn’t fatal, but failing to change might be. – John Wooden 

Paul sat alone at home depressed. Why does this keep happening to him? He had lost his job last month and sat contemplating what he was doing wrong. There must be something he is missing because he had been terminated from his last 2 jobs in the same way. Though he tried, success seemed to keep a distance.

Paul is not alone. Many, including Entrepreneurs find themselves in similar Dominant situations, often without understanding the reason(s) for loss of a contract or job dismissal. Here I share 9 Reasons People fail.

  1. Misaligned Goals
  2. Self-Imposed limitations
  3. Procrastination…never taking actions
  4. Inability to Face Adversity
  5. Underestimating the Use of Time
  6. They Don’t Plan
  7. They Always Give Up
  8. Always in the Wrong Place
  9. They are Afraid

Want more Candid details? Read article 20 Reasons Success Eludes Some published before yet things have not changed for some people. Apathy can infect any area of our lives and when it strikes it produces failure. The scariest part is how contagious it is. It spreads to other areas of our lives and causes us to get stuck.

If any of the above resonates with you, take the time today to do something about it. Need help? Let’s Connect.

Cheers!

When Time Stands Still: Move…

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It’s Definitely a Tough Blow to be Fired

A colleague received a call that her mom had to undergo emergency surgery due to an injury. By the time she got to the hospital, the leg had to be removed. Naturally, this was a Shock as her life was immediately turned upside down. She had no choice but to voluntarily resign from her position to be by her mom’s side. She had to be there to assist in any way she could. That was her voluntary decision.

You may not have had the choice. Things happen. You lose your job because of restructuring, organization change, personal issues, and more. All involuntarily. You’re sad. Filled with remorse, and totally depressed.

Don’t get stuck. Take hold of your situation and learn the strategies to:

  • Rebuild your Public Profile (Resume, LinkedIn, etc)
  • Develop a Success Mindset
  • Match The Right Job for you
  • Learn Search Strategies

When life throws you lemons, make lemonade. That’s the saying, and its true. When things stand still…move. Do what you can to get back on your feet. It’s called life…things happen. Don’t let it get you down. Get the courage, the strength. Force yourself to stand up and do something about it.

Need help? Let’s Connect!

Cheers!