The Very Thing That I Spent Years To Build Has Turned Out To Be My Worst Nightmare…

Tis sad. As I reflect, I have come to realize that the very thing that I sought; the thing that I spent years to build; the very thing that I depleted my resources for…has turned out to be my worst nightmare.

Education

Yup it’s education. I invested my resources in education. Every last penny that I had, I invested in higher education. When that was done, I took out student loans. My thinking? I’d have a great job that will pay me more than enough to cover my loans and have more left over to live comfortably for the rest of my life.

Not So

Alarmed I now realize that it’s not so… for the very thing I sought, hides from me. They say I’m too qualified! It makes me weak to think of their mediocre thinking. Sad minds that don’t realize that the very thing they seek – qualified, experienced, good worker, committed, dedicated, forward-thinking, hardworking, results-driven, is the very thing they push away.

So what do I do?

The Future Is Bright

This rant was shared with me by a friend. Tis Sad. For her it’s education. For you it might be a relationship with your spouse, children, family or friends. It might be your house, car, assets that you have worked long and hard for.

But though my friend has a point and it’s hard when she’s going through this rough patch, the Future is Bright! Daily I encourage her to never give up. To fight the good fight. Things will get better. Through prayer, resilience, and continued fight for a better life, the revelation will come . As she seeks clarity in her path she will realize that one day soon things will get better.

Are you like my friend, frustrated with retarded career growth? Don’t go it alone. Let’s connect.

Cheers!

Travel For Fun! 9 Things To Do To Break Life’s Monotony…

 

This is the beginning of anything you want.

The daily grind. Don’t you just hate it? Day after day you get up, do the same thing over and over, and over again. Alive but never really living. You dream of  lazy days; or those days when you’ll be able to do just what you want to do. Be careful what you wish for though, because that too can become….. exciting? a thrill? mundane?

But if your dreams, hopes and aspirations is to break the montony… then  Go for it!!   Here are 9 Things to do:

Inspired To Change

1. Learn a new language.

2. Learn to play a musical instrument.

3. Travel for fun (not business).

4. Write a book.

5. Reflect on your spirituality.

6. Mentor youths (helps you stay young).

7. Become a trader (for fun). Helps keep your eye on your financial viability.

8. Get involved in your community.

9. Expand your mind, earn a PhD

 

Did any of these spark your interest? Can you add any? Do share. We would love to hear!

Cheers!

 

If We Stay Where We Are…

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If we stay where we are, where we’re stuck, where we’re comfortable and safe, we die there. We become like mushrooms, living in the dark, with poop up to our chins. If you want to know only what you already know, you’re dying. You’re saying: Leave me alone; I don’t mind this little rathole. It’s warm and dry. Really, it’s fine. When nothing new can get in, that’s death. When oxygen can’t find a way in, you die. But new is scary, and new can be disappointing, and confusing – we had this all figured out, and now we don’t. New is life.”  ~ Anne Lamott

Writers Block. Stuck In A Rut. 21 Ways To Overcome…

You can’t think yourself out of a writing block; you have to write yourself out of a thinking block. ~John Rogers

Writers block is a common phenomenon among writers. It’s the condition of being unable to think of what to write or how to proceed with writing. The question was asked and the list was compiled from advice gleaned from a Book Writers’ forum. The ideas are simple and delightfully thought-provoking. Here I share 21 of the more exhilarating.

  1. Embrace it as gestation
  2. Listen to music
  3. Take a break or work on something else
  4. Go back to what inspired you first
  5. Change your scenery.
  6. Go for a walk
  7. Write something personal
  8. Read. Get motivated. Then go back
  9. Put the pen and paper down.
  10. Leave it alone and the ideas will come home
  11. Ask questions of your stories
  12. Try writing something different
  13. Take a shower. Let the water flow and the ideas will come
  14. Free write. Write about your day. Just write
  15. Ask another writer what they are working on. The change of focus will inspire you
  16. People who succeed as writers write
  17. Take a writing course
  18. Be in a group
  19. Write about writer’s block. Something will inspire
  20. Watch a movie
  21. Get physical. Go to the gym. Break a sweat

Did any of the above resonate? Can you add any? Do share! We would love to hear!

Cheers!

 

Rushing To A Place Where You Don’t Want To Be. The Answer Is In The Why…

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I go to seek a Great Perhaps. ~Francois Rabelais

Rushing to a place where you don’t want to be. Why? Why do you do that? Why do you spend your life rushing around? Rushing to work? Rushing home to a place where you do not want to be. Rushing to water a failing relationship with family, friends or foe? Rushing to do what others want you to do?

Then after all the rush…when you finally arrive at your destination, you are miserable. Life seems hard. Unfair.  So many questions. Why do you do it? Is it because you can’t do any better?

The Answer Is In The Why

You rush to the job because you need to pay the  rent-to have shelter. A place to rest. A place where you want to feel the solace of those who care. You need food. Independence. You need to feel worthy. To avoid the shame.  To avoid the dread of what others may think.

Forget Them 

Forget them. Take the steps needed to do you. To go after that dream. Make a plan. Work that plan. Keep it at the forefront of your mind. And when the going gets rough…work it even harder. You will get there… someway, somehow.

Here are a 7 tips to help you when you feel stuck. Need help? Let’s connect.

Cheers!

Top 20 Companies To Work For…

Success is no accident

Years ago I managed the process that led to GlaxoSmithKline capturing the coveted Employer of Choice Award. It was indeed a great place to work. Since then I have always been encouraged by other companies who achieve the same feat and become the envy of many who long for a great place to work…somewhere you can’t wait to jump out of bed in the mornings to get to.

Fortune 100 Best revealed its list of the top 100 Best companies to work for in 2019. Here I share the top 20.

  1. Hilton
  2. Salesforce
  3. Wegmans Food Market Inc
  4. Workday
  5. Kimpton Hotels & Restaurants
  6. Cisco
  7. Edward Jones
  8. Ultimate Software
  9. Texas Health Resources
  10. The Boston Consulting Group Inc
  11. Stryker Corporation
  12. Publix Super Markets Inc
  13. American Express
  14. Quicken Loans
  15. Orrick
  16. Baird
  17. JM Family Enterprises
  18. Kimley-Horn
  19. Camden Property Trust
  20. Cooley LLP

 

Didn’t see your company’s name? Check the list to see where they fall.

Cheers!

 

Living Your Life As A Mask…

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A new writer shared her Instagram name. It was nowhere close to her real names . I beckoned to her… smile in tow…”you do make it hard, don’t you? In haste she retorted “it’s so my employer can’t find me”.

I smiled.

Our Lives In Compartments

How many of us are like that? We live our lives in compartments trying to separate our true selves from what those around us see publicly.

To Hide…To Be

It’s a hard choice but sometimes you have to hide in order “to be“. I pray one day that you will be able to just be. To reveal your true identity and just be the you that you want to be.

Cheers!

This Secret Of Mine…

 

A group of writers were challenged to a Write In, Write Out Session. After free writing for an hour, Akiim Jarrett  wrote this spoken word that characterises his gift. Here I share:

Screams, Shrieks and Secrets

 

it screams – this secret of mine-

hidden heartbreak and soul-stirring agony,
so I crave peace.

a peace which remains unbothered

a peace ne’er t’be interrupted;

but these days dreams don’t get fulfilled and life rolls you along with the punches at whim.

 

it shrieks – this secret of mine-

divine calamity a beautiful harmony

can you see it in catastrophic splendor?

a jaw dropping visage,

an image and event to die for-

a living truth I’d reluctantly lie for.

it sounds off – 

like the loud silence insecurities decorate-

a masterpiece that doubt artfully paints

can’t you see?

or will you see how this feels like it’s been before,

karmic justice settling the score-

quote raven or mock the peacock

choose that which haunts less is all I implore

secrets aside – lies do thrive

tis better to release than bury inside.

it can be different

things need not be the same

you can produce the change 
from the inner stain of shame

that brought you much pain.

just be – you – in its entirety

and all good things will follow-

beloved, it’s merely a formality

By Akiim Alqhumizta