You’ve got to work hard for your success and you’ve got to have a steady presence. That’s the secret. ~Kid Rock
Must. Go. Faster. So said the Ad. But in this case they were talking about getting away from a tyrannosaurus chasing themin the movie Jurassic Park.
But I’m thinking if it from life as we strive towards our goals. Must. Go. Faster.
But there’s a difference. Seeking goals is not about speed but steadiness…as in studying to getting an education. Just stick to it. Speed create mistakes as in microwave marriages these days. Jump in before knowing the person. What of education? Would you like a surgeon to operate on you knowing he got his degree in a month? One would question that.
And even a stellar athlete /Olympian. It takes years of practice to achieve the success that lasts.
So today be mindful of your goals. Speed is not the real deal …unless you’re running to save your life from creatures like a tyrannosaurus.
Thoughts? Do share. We would love to hear.
Inspired. Informed. Educated. An iconic life exceptionally captured in one piece by author and educator Tiffani Knowles.
Excerpt cited. Read Tiffani’s full piece here
It was 1965, after splitting from Harold, when she began her career as an editor at Random House where she was instrumental in publishing American writers and luminaries such as Angela Davis, Henry Dumas and Muhammad Ali.
Yet, she knew there was a story that still needed to be told, one she hadn’t read or seen before.
At first, she was private about her own writing and would do so as a pastime very early in the morning before her boys would wake.
“I remember reading the ‘Bluest Eye’ and thought it was wonderful,” said Robert Gottlieb, a Random House colleague and the chief editor of the Alfred Knopf sub-division.
When Random House got wind of the fact that she was publishing, they wanted to keep her work in house and so, with the exception of one book, Gottlieb got to edit all of her books while they were published through Knopf.
Her first book, as Morrison claimed, intentionally eliminated the white gaze without “codes or notes explaining things to white people,” as she decided to put the entire plot on the first page.
“Quiet as it’s kept, there were no marigolds in the fall of 1941. We thought, at the time, that it was because Pecola was having her father’s baby that the marigolds did not grow.”
It was 1970 and “The Bluest Eye” boasted a story inspired by a conversation Morrison had had with an elementary schoolmate in Lorain many years before.
Her friend told her she had been asking God to give her blue eyes and he never did.
“How painful … can you imagine that kind of pain?” Morrison recounted for filmmaker Timothy Greenfield-Sanders in the “The Pieces I Am” documentary. “So, I wanted to say, this kind of racism hurts. This is not lynchings and murders and drownings. This is interior pain. It’s so deep to know that an 11 year old would think that if only she had some characteristic of the white world, she would be OK.”
Some days are just a mess. It’s even worse during prolonged Quarter or month-end report preparations or during times of change. It’s at those times that anything we can do to lessen the stress is welcomed. I fell aghast when I bumped into Amy Jackson’s 10 tips to beat workplace woes repeated by writer Ariana Huffington. Read the full piece here. For those who gotta have a quick peek, here I share the abbreviated list.
- Brighten up your Desk (make it personal)
- Do Something you enjoy during your Lunch Break (not errands)
- Plan things to look forward to (weekend getaways, vacations)
- Eat & Drink to boost your mood (water is good)
- Meditate (breathe)
- Make use of Perks (if you’re lucky to get them…check HR to see what exists)
- Chat to your Colleagues
- Laugh (look at memes or YouTube video)
- Look at your work life balance
- Identify if there’s an underlying problem
I found this list interesting to beat the workplace woes and I hope you will too. Any burning tip missing? Do share! We would love to hear.
Years ago I stepped out of my comfort zone. Having not been in the job market for a long time I began my search for a new and meaningful opportunity. With great elation a dream company reached out to me. It was always a goal to work with them. It had great salary, great benefits, and most important – meaningful work. But I would have had to relocate. No problem for me as I didn’t have a chick nor child (as the saying goes…hint kid in college). I could hardly wait to get started.
A senior level position, I had to go through a 5-level-interview process with different senior level teams. Nailed the toughest two. Then the onto the third. Nailed it! Or so I thought. The interviewer thought otherwise. They replied thanking me for my time but they decided to move on. This after being interviewed for almost a month. I was confident that with my qualifications and experience I was sure to get the job. I didn’t. Though an interviewer myself, I was very disappointed. I questioned myself… what did I do wrong? How could I have done better?
Not Every Opportunity Is For You
Then came the reassurance from a quiet inner voice. Not every opportunity is for you. What seems ideal may not be for you. Keep looking. The right change is in store. Learn to wait. And while you’re waiting, keep strong.
Here I share things to do to bounce back after any kind of rejection, be it job, entrepreneurship or relationship.
5 Things To Do To Overcome Rejection
- Learn from the Experience
- Talk to a trusted mentor, coach, or friend. Share your disappointment.
- Don’t dwell on the situation. Affirm it. Accept it and move on.
- Acknowledge it as evidence that you’re trying. You are pushing your limit.
- Keep going
Have you had a disappointing experience during a job hunt, or a key contract for your entrepreneurship endeavor? Do share. We would love to hear.
I procrastinated. Year after year I’d say …I’ll do it next year. But then in my early 20s, during a heated conversation about salary increase my boss shouted “you don’t even have a degree!” That hit me like a ton of bricks. I promised myself that I’d never ever let anyone say that to me again. I was not only gonna get a first degree but also a second.
That’s How You Do It
Today, I have two Masters and a Doctorate.
That’s how you do it. I’m one for a challenge to not only achieve but also exceed. So even though at the time I had several diplomas, certifications and had never stopped studying, I fell short of that industry’s ultimate standard. I limited myself and did not go after the best.
My parents never thought of …nor encouraged me to get a degree. They never had it themselves. What’s more, while I studied those years, my dad kept saying “that godamn girl won’t stop studying”. He never understood my drive.
Do Not Let Anything Stop You
Today I encourage you to go after your dreams. Don’t let anything stop you from achieving.
- Not the negatives from those who hate.
Do not let anything stop you from going after your dreams.
Remember where there’s a will, there’s a way.
When we push through, the hard beauty can be found on the other side. ~Joanna Gaines
I’M TOO OLD
I’m too old for a new career
I’m too old for changing what they say
I’m too old for finding sweet love
I’m too old for my dreams to come through
I’m too old
I’m just too old
You’re never too old to live your dreams
You’re never too old to change your life
You’re never too old to go after your heart’s desire
You’re never too old to do anything you want
You’re never too old.
Never. Ever. Too Old.
~Dr. Shelly C
Such a thrill when dreams come through. My Book GreenLight is now available in-store Barnes & Noble, Broward Mall, Plantation, Florida. Pick up your copy in-store today or order online then pickup in-store.
It’s the perfect gift for yourself or someone who will be overjoyed for a boost of daily inspiration.