There Was A Season When I Said “Yes” To Everything

There was a season when I said “yes” to everything.

• Yes to leading.
• Yes to supporting.
• Yes to helping.
• Yes to solving problems that weren’t mine to solve.

And I told myself it was because I was being kind. But in reality, I was also overextending, over-giving, and undervaluing my time.

One of the turning points came while building programs for a local community partnership. I loved the mission. I loved the people. I loved seeing people gain confidence and direction.

But at some point I had to ask myself:

If I’m doing professional-level leadership work, why am I treating it like a casual favor? That moment changed how I lead.

• I didn’t stop serving.
• I didn’t stop giving.

I simply began doing it with structure, boundaries, and sustainability. Because I’ve learned this:

• You can be a generous leader without becoming a doormat.
• You can be kind without being depleted.
• You can serve your community without abandoning yourself.

And if you’ve been carrying too much “because you’re capable” this is your reminder:

Boundaries aren’t selfish. They’re leadership.

Join the Boundary Lab seminar. Create your own boundaries.