I’ll never forget the sight. Standing in line more than a decade ago with hundreds of graduates awaiting the march into the ceremony, I saw my mom and dad walking in together a little late. She, with a basket of fruits too heavy for her to bear, but far too precious not to. Him, adorned in a bright red jacket as if to say “nobody is going to make me miss this special occasion when my daughter receives her Masters degree!” I must Confess
that I thought to myself…should I acknowledge them or should I shy away from this somewhat humorous sight? I dismissed the very thought and rushed to their side hugging them both. My action was met with admiration, claps, and with sounds of “awww”, as the waiting graduates stirred. Needless to say that this achievement was for both my parents as neither had college degrees. After the ceremony, my mom hugged and congratulated me with the question “when are you going to get the Doctorate?” The nerve! How could she? But her question stayed with me for years, even after the receipt of yet another Masters degree.
Years later, I finally succumbed to fulfilling her dream. She couldn’t do it so I decided to do it for her. A year into the program whilst en route to a mandated summer conference in Orlando, I received a call that she (with whom I spoke an hour earlier), had suffered a massive stroke!
That was the start of a year-long journey to be by her side through thick and thin. Ironically both our journeys were paths of learning. Hers being to learn to talk, to walk, to eat, to do life’s simple things, and to learn the basics of living all over again. Me, to face the reality of the situation that my mother was in, and to learn the skills to adequately provide her care. Along with my two sisters (one ailing with the ravages of cancer …now passed), we brought her to live closer so we could adequately care for her return to ‘normalcy’.
As I reflect on my Dissertation journey, on one occasion I remember receiving an important call from a professor while attending to her needs. I answered the call, got the coaching from the professor then returned to finish her care. This became a routine.
I remember being by her side at the hospital for hours, days, and weeks. She was my morning motivation. I couldn’t start the day without her knowing that I cared. It was the same at nights. I couldn’t end the day without visiting her, without her knowing that I was there for her. At work, the leaders knew that if they wanted my best then I needed an hour to be with my mom which was the fuel for the rest of my day. I happily worked that back during lunch or after hours. This went on for a year but sadly she never recovered. We later discovered that her body was wreaked with cancer unknown to our family. It was too much for her to bear.
After she passed this was my driving force. I had to finish my studies for her. I had to accomplish her dream, something she couldn’t do herself. I had to finish to show my two girls that you can accomplish whatever you set your mind to. I had to finish and leave something tangible behind. This culminated in my research that tracked the paths of immigrant leaders and their journey to success to achieve the American Dream. I accomplished that feat two years after she passed away.
My mom was someone who wanted and accomplished much, even after she had gone. She remains my motivation. Today I salute her. Today she receives my standing Ovation!
As you reflect, is there anyone that has influenced your life? Do share, we would love to hear!
10 thoughts on “My Mom…My Journey”
This is such a beautifully inspirational story; thank you!!
You are a warrior, you are inspiration, so proud of you
What a beautiful tribute to your mother! I know that she is smiling at you every morning and every evening because she still cares, and she is smiling with pride at your accomplishments.
I’m deeply moved by this inspirational tribute. Thanks for sharing.
Blessings in abundance Shelly.
You are such an inspiration and motivation to others. May you continue soaring to new heights everyday! Blessings
Thanks for sharing this journey. I’m sure mom is overwhelmed with joy seeing dreams come to life. You are a true inspiration
Beauty Abounds – Seeing beauty in everything around you, is the key to seeing beauty in yourself. Thank you for sharing. Blessings!
Shelly….proud of you and feel so blessed to have you as a friend…a great friend. This is an inspiration and shows the true meaning of endurance to achieve big dreams. Your Mom is proud and may her spirit remain with you as a guardian angel…always !!
Thanks for sharing, God in His wisdom created these special creatures. Jesus’s Father, God Himself, Divine, His mother a humble woman of the human race ,called Mary. Mothers are special, but some more than anyone can imagine, your mother belong to that extraordinary group.