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Fear. Overcome It…

Play the fear game. That’s what we do. At the onslaught of a challenge, we become afraid. We binge-watch the issue in our minds over, and over, and over again. We can’t sleep. We play the Fear game.

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Don’t Dwell On it.

My daughter text and said “Mommy, I‘m afraid”. I asked “what are you doing”? She replied “watching the news all day and social media. Now they’re talking about the effects of past hurricanes.”

Stop. Turn the TV off, or change the channel.

Aren’t we all like that? When we fear something challenging coming up, we become afraid. We binge-watch the issue in our minds over, and over, and over again. We can’t sleep. We play the Fear game.

It might be nervousness for an impending interview, it might be a change in position and we feel ‘they’re going to find me out’. For sure they’ll discover that I’m a fraud….I can’t manage the work for the promotion.

It might even be that you’re getting married. The closer you get to the date, fear or anxiety sets in the midst…

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Know When To Let Go…

Let go or be dragged. Those were the words of Ashley Stahl, and I could not agree more. Here’s more of her thoughts. Take a read. It might be worth it if you are holding onto something that you should have let go long ago.

Make that decision to let go now before you’re forced to Swallow.

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Cheers

The Past. Wish But Don’t Dwell…

The Past. Wish but don’t dwell.

The Future is Agile. It’s What’s Important.

A Moment Of Weakness… Ain’t No Lollipop..

A moment of weakness. Devastating consequences.

A father was seen hitting his son. Onlookers called the cops. The rest is as we know it. The father was barred from seeing his son in order to protect the child’s perceived safety. This despite cries from his wife and others that he is a great dad.

A drink or two at a party, then getting behind the wheels to drive home. Impaired… it’s called. Driving under the influence impairs our ability to function well. Accidents happen causing injuries; sometimes fatalities.

A moment of weakness. Enrollment in college goes asunder. Future’s impacted as dropout rate catapults.

A moment of weakness. The common intimacy. Resulting consequences…unwanted pregnancy. Abortion. Sadness. Childbirth without care. Impacts negatively on relationships, marriages…, divorce ensues.

A moment of weakness often impacts goals. Maintain focus. Develop the ability to say No. No to the drink. No to the advance. No to the things that distracts, and painstakingly drags you off the direct path toward your goals.

A moment of weakness. Think before you act. Aint no Lollipop.

Stay strong.

Cheers!

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Self: It’s About Time…

To thine ownself be true

Selfie is the great craze! Our society’s phenomenon making waves over the past few years! We take pictures of ourselves at home, in the car, at work, at play and everywhere you can imagine. We Congregate and reach out to capture celebrities at public events to take that selfie to highlight our latest feat! It says we are cool. Way cool!

The selfie stick makes it even easier. With ease we are able to capture photos of ourselves in a crowd, at great heights on mountain tops, and even in the depths of the seas! The Wall Street Journal tell stories of injuries and even fatalities caused by this craze. Narcissitic mentality they called it. Yup these days we are filled with the craze! It’s all about ourselves. But is it really?

Self-Reflection

What about our inner desires? When was the last time you sat and took stock of where you are in life? Are you where you want to be? What are you most proud of? What do you like the least? Today, I encourage you to find some time alone to take stock of yourself.

Dr. Lillian Glass suggests looking at it mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. As the saying goes—to thine own self be true. So be honest and assess yourself from your present situation to your ideal situation. Think of it as though there was nothing to stop you from achieving your dreams and making them a reality. Then list all the steps that you would need to take in order to make the dreams in your life situation come true.

For example, if you are single and wish to find a partner, at times you may feel lonely, empty, and sad. Your ideal situation may be to find a man/woman of your dreams—someone who speaks kindly to you, and treats you with respect.

The steps to make this come true are:

Tell your friends that you are available
Join a dating service, or a singles’ organization
Give dinner parties and ask your friends to invite members of the opposite sex who are their friends
Go out more often
Get involved in classes or sports
Ask your minister or clergy for assistance
Be more open and friendly to people whom you meet
Be more assertive; smile, and say hello

Do Something Different!

Even though it is scary and you may feel a little Clumsy at first, do some things that you have never done before…yikes! Take trips by yourself; go to the movies alone; or have a cup of coffee solo. These things can build your self-confidence even if you are a bit nervous at first. You may also consider creating new adventures for yourself and doing things that are out of character. Get a new haircut, or a new color. Grow a beard. These will not only make your life much more exciting but also prevent you from feeling sorry for yourself.

In essence, it’s about time. Step out. Take risks—and when you do, don’t be afraid to feel silly, awkward, or of being rejected. Find comfort in the saying “nothing ventured, nothing gained’.

Cheers to the new you!