The biggest enemies of willpower: temptation, self-criticism, and stress. These three skills —self-awareness, self-care, and remembering what matter most— are the foundation for self-control.
-Kelly McGonigal
The Biggest Enemies of Willpower…
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Social Distancing. 21 Things To Do…
With the influx of the pandemic worldwide many regular activities have come to a halt. Kids are home from school. Businesses have closed or implemented work-from-home with only a skeletal staff in office. Things are just basically at a standstill. What can you do when the work stops? When maintaining Social Distance confines you to your home? Beauty Bites and Radical Transformation Projects gave a few tips. Here I share my personal favs of 21 things that you can try:
- Sleep. Go ahead. You’ve always wanted to do it. Now you’ve got the time. Do it
- Listen to an audio-book
- Create a vision board of your dream life and hang it where you can see it
- Read a book
- Start a blog
- Watch motivational speeches online
- Make a self-care kit for when you feel down
- Write poetry
- Plan your week, month, year!
- Learn a new recipe
- Write a list of things you are thankful for
- Dance! Dance in your home
- Go for a walk.
- Enjoy nature
- Make a list of things you’re grateful for
- Learn a new language
- Make a list of the places you would like to visit
- Declutter your phone
- Plan to do something different every month for the rest of the year
- Update your resume…just in case
- Connect spiritually
Try something new!
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Read. Write. 27 Things I Like…
As I look over the circus of things I like, I realize that though I enjoy them and they bring me satisfaction, I find myself not doing them as much and in some cases at all. For over two decades I have been caught up in work, work, work. So this prompt helped me pull away and ponder the things I once enjoyed, or get to enjoy on a rare occasion.
But even as I finalize the list I realize that life’s not promised, so I intend to start doing the things I like and stop leaving them for …one day soon.
Watch The Waves By The Sea
That said, the things I like are:
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- People watch
- Explore the world
- Simple things
- Enjoy a good laugh
- Acting | Participating in drama presentations
- Wearing a smile
- See people mentored achieve their best potential
- Watch movies
- Write, ponder, reflect
- Decorate the house
- Go shopping
- Watch HGTV | Travel channel
- Learn new things
- Read
- Cook
- Enjoy the company of my two young adult kids
- Dream of Venice | Alaska
- People watch in downtown Disney, Washington DC Parks
- Watch the waves by the beach
- Nature – stare at birds, squirrels, and circus of trees
- Christmas Lights
- Look out at the horizon from a hill or mountain
- Capturing candid photos (new experience)
- Finding a new route after getting lost in a new place (yikes!)
- Quiet time
- Solving a mystery or a problem
- New baby hugs
- Listening to that Still Small Voice Of Faith
Any of the above resonate. Do share. We would love to hear.
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The Passion Test…
When my life is, I am………………That’s the statement that helps you find your passion. Chris and Janet Attwood developed The Passion Statement which can help you to identify our passion. You are encouraged to start with the phrase:
When My Life Is…
“when my life is ideal, I am……………
You are expected to write the statement 15 times and fill in the blank by each statement starting off with that phrase. Once done, you select the top 5 that you feel is most important. Then review it closely to see whether you are living your ideal life. That will help you identify your passion.
For a clear picture, Jack Canfield shared his top 5
- My life is ideal when I’m being of service to massive numbers of people.
- My life is ideal when I’m helping people with their vision.
- My life is ideal when I’m speaking to large groups.
- My life is ideal when I’m being part of a spiritual leaders network.
- My life is ideal when I’m creating a core group of ongoing trainers who feel identified with my organization.
Why not try this simple test. It’s a sure way to help you find your purpose
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Living In The Past. Looking Through The Rear View Mirror…
Living in the past. Just looking in the Rear view mirror. What good does that do? It seems 5, 10, 15 years after leaving one of the best careers ever you end up just existing. Just stuck. Thinking about the big job that you had in the past. The relationship ended 5, 10, 15 years ago, yet you’re still holding on. Face it darling…it’s over. Stop reflecting. Stop pining way. It’s unhealthy.
It’s Time To Move On
It’s time to move on. It’s time to make a change. It’s time to forge full speed ahead. Start living. Start being who you would like to be. How do you do that? If you want a new career, then apply to jobs in that field. Something will rise up for you.
If you want to be an entrepreneur then do what you need to do. Do what it takes to get your business out there to let others know what product or service you are selling. If you don’t like what you’re doing now, make plans to stop. Set a date and stick to it. Stick to it no matter what.
Sometimes You Will Fail
Know that sometimes you will fail. Yes that happens. Life is a risk. You win some, you lose some. But it means you are trying. Just being stuck in the past is not going to help you to forge ahead so you must start doing something different. Start today. Just start doing something different today. Make a move. Stop resisting. Stop living in the past. Stop worrying about what was.
The Stops
Stop worrying about what was.
Stop wishing
Stop living in a wish list ….
Wish I was this, wish I was that
Wish I could do this
Wish I could that
Stop wishing and just do it
Omgeee…
This Time Next Year
This time next year where do you hope to be? This time next year what would you like to see? To experience? This time next year what do you want to be doing? Take the steps so that this time next year you will be doing what you want to do … and you would be where you want to be. Seek the help of others if needed. Ask a friend who has your best interest at heart to hold you accountable. You could also enlist the services of a mentor or coach to be your guide. Now go out and do it. Get it done.
Need help? Let’s connect.
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Self-Care: The 4 Attributes…
Take care of you. A member of the writers group and a university administrator complained of a tummy ache, went to urgent care, then rushed to ER. She died of a heart attack by morning.
Take Care of You
Do your best. Breathe. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Just take it easy at work, school, home. Here are four (4) key attributes to sustain you:
- Diet. Eat well
- Exercise. It is beneficial to your life
- Rest. It’s not for the lazy
- Think Pure Thoughts
Reflections
So reflect on these four (4) attributes and make an effort to focus on those areas that you need to. Then make it a habit to smile often for it goes deep into your soul. It releases positive vibes. Forget haters. Some people are there just to test you. Don’t give the enemy a foot into your being because life’s too short to dwell on the bad.
Need help? Lets connect.
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Finding Purpose On The Hill…
Reflections On the Hill. Years ago I did my research and published Book On Success Strategies of Leaders to help those rising stars find their way. Since then I became involved in the Institute of Caribbean Studies work in Washington DC. I have been on Capitol Hill, the White House, Senate and serve as Judge for the Ignite Caribbean 30 Under 30 Award. All this because I believed in a cause.
Today, I implore you to go after your goals, dreams and aspirations. Do whatever you want. With hard work and dedication it will come through.
Cheers!
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Whatever Your Dream, Don’t Give Up…
Dreams are illustrations… from the book your soul is writing about you.
Entrepreneurs know the travails of starting and growing a business. The challenges associated with carrying a business from incubation to reality. It’s no easy task.
Career transitions, college students, and goal seekers all know how difficult it is to carry the burden of studies to get to the finish line. It’s no easy task.
Parents know how difficult it is to bear the burden of the change in lifestyle as a newborn is expected. It’s no easy task.
Let’s not forget authors whose stories became known from a dream, to a thought, to a page, to a book. Published! It’s no easy task.
So it is with whatever we put our minds to. Whatever we decide to do from idea, thought, dream, goal… it is not going to be easy until it becomes a reality. Success involves dreaming; it involves planning; it involves hard work; it involves dedication, determination, commitment, and most of all resilience. Many are the athletes whose stories have been told of the journey that they had to embark on and overcome. Not only days, months but for many years, athletes stood the test of time to achieve their goal. They were able to achieve because they stuck to their dream.
Today whatever your dream is … don’t give up. Strive, put in the hard work; put in the dedication, put in what needs to be done, and your success is inevitable.. however you define it.
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Travel For Fun! 9 Things To Do To Break Life’s Monotony…
This is the beginning of anything you want.
The daily grind. Don’t you just hate it? Day after day you get up, do the same thing over and over, and over again. Alive but never really living. You dream of lazy days; or those days when you’ll be able to do just what you want to do. Be careful what you wish for though, because that too can become….. exciting? a thrill? mundane?
But if your dreams, hopes and aspirations is to break the montony… then Go for it!! Here are 9 Things to do:
Inspired To Change
1. Learn a new language.
2. Learn to play a musical instrument.
3. Travel for fun (not business).
4. Write a book.
5. Reflect on your spirituality.
6. Mentor youths (helps you stay young).
7. Become a trader (for fun). Helps keep your eye on your financial viability.
8. Get involved in your community.
9. Expand your mind, earn a PhD
Did any of these spark your interest? Can you add any? Do share. We would love to hear!
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On The Hunt? 7 Ways To Show Your Talents And Accomplishments…
Life changes. Careers that once were exciting later becomes a strain or even boring. Sometimes the organization changes or a beloved supervisor leaves and the environment becomes unbearable. Other times you may simply want more…or less as with managers who no longer wish to lead. Newly weds may want to start a family and just want to do enough to get by.
Resume Reveal
Well if you haven’t looked at your resume for a while you’ve got some work to do to capture your the journey your career has been on to start your search. Don’t rush it. Take your time to get it done. You may not get it perfect immediately, but in time you will.
Here are 7 ways authors Wendy Enelow and Louise Kursmark espoused by SHRM on updating your resume. The tips can be applied to any situation. Read the full article How to Write Powerful and Memorable Resumes
- Use a well-branded headline
- Share details about the organization you worked for
- Emphasize Achievements
- Highlight key words
- Prepare your resume for applicant tracking system (ATS)
- Share what makes you special ( what separates you from others)
- Write tight, clean and lean
Need help? Let’s connect
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Take Time To Do Nothing…
Take time to do nothing.
Sometimes you need to just relax and do nothing. Then you will be more productive.
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The Habit To Create A Habit. 21 Ways…
Good habits formed at youth make all the difference. ~Aristotle
The will to create a habit. Is it worth it? Away from home at college, I often reflect on the activities of my youngest. I was in a reflective mood and sent her a few things about creating the right habits to realize our goals. Here I share. Make it a habit to:
1. Eat right and on time.
2. Study well as you always do
3. Keep good company … avoid the bad who can negatively impact
4. Pray often
5. Spend Wisely
6. Save more
7. Keep your eye on your goals
8. Pray for God’s help when you feel weak, sad, down
9. Hydrate. Drink water.
10. Breathe. Engage in regular breathing exercises
11. Avoid anything that distracts and steals your joy (drugs, drinks, anger)
12. Exercise patience
13. Remain Humble
14. Play ignorance…let others be caught off-guard when they realize you’re wise
15. Listen to the Lord’s direction
16. Laugh often
17. Meditate. Do your devotion everyday (morn, noon or night… whenever it’s convenient for you)
18. Enjoy life quietly and responsibly
19. Love your family
20. Love yourself
21. Stay Alive to enjoy the fruit of your studies
Read this over and over until it sticks
Just sharing with y’all! Hope it helps!
Cheers!
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