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Why Smart Leaders Get Stuck at Crossroads & How to Move Forward
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The Power of Paying It Forward in Leadership
Pay it Forward
If you can’t pay it back, pay it forward. ~Catherine Ryan Hyde
Standing in line at the cashier, I decided to pay with the cash I had on hand. The amount came to the exact dollar amount in my wallet, except it needed thirteen cents more. I rummaged through my handbag to cover the difference. The woman behind me said, “Hey, I’ll get it for you.”
Instead of accepting her offer, I searched frantically for the coins, only to remember that I keep my change in the car. She repeated gently, “I’ll get it.” I insisted that I would pay her back when we got outside. She simply replied, “Pay it forward.” Immediately, I understood and promised I would.
I left the store, found the coins in my car, and was about to give her a quarter as she exited. Then I was reminded of her words about paying it forward. I took a deep breath, sighed, and drove away.
How many times has this happened to me? I genuinely like to give but am always hesitant to receive. As I coach my clients, I recognize it’s important to do both—give generously and also be willing to accept graciously in return. One friend once countered my reluctance by saying, “Don’t stop my blessings.”
Leaders Struggle
This simple exchange reveals a profound leadership lesson about the grace of receiving. Many leaders struggle with accepting help, viewing it as weakness or loss of control. However, graceful receiving is actually a powerful leadership skill that creates deeper connections and empowers others.
When we refuse help, we inadvertently rob others of the joy of giving and contributing. We also model unhealthy self-reliance that can isolate us from our teams and communities. The most effective leaders understand that accepting assistance with gratitude creates a culture of mutual support and reciprocity.
Consider this: Every time someone offers to help you—whether it’s covering thirteen cents, sharing an idea, or taking on a task—they’re extending trust and care. Your gracious acceptance validates their value and strengthens the relationship.
Challenge yourself this week to practice receiving with the same intentionality you bring to giving. Say “thank you” instead of “you didn’t have to.” Accept compliments without deflecting. Allow others to contribute to your success. Remember, true leadership isn’t about having all the answers or resources—it’s about creating an environment where everyone can contribute their gifts, including to you.
Pay it forward, yes. But first, allow yourself to receive what’s being offered.
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The Power of the In-Between: Leading Through Life’s Transitions
Sometimes God brings times of transition to create transformation. ~Lynn Cowell
Transition is not a sign that something’s gone wrong.
It’s often a sign that something deeply right is trying to emerge.
Whether you’re navigating a career pivot, stepping into leadership, returning to yourself after raising children, grieving a loss, starting over, or simply outgrowing who you used to be — you are not lost.
You are in motion.
And motion is sacred.
Transitions Aren’t Detours
So many of us have been taught to treat transitions like detours. Inconveniences. Delays.
But in my experience — and maybe in yours too — transitions are not detours. They are invitations.
Invitations to pause.
To listen.
To lead our lives more deliberately.
There’s a quote I love:
Sometimes when you’re in a dark place, you think you’ve been buried but actually you’ve been planted
So if you’re feeling buried right now — by uncertainty, or fear, or change — know this:
You’re not stuck.
You’re becoming.
Whether it’s career change, motherhood, empty nesting, loss, or reinvention — transitions are not delays. They’re sacred invitations to pause, realign, and step into something deeper.
Who You Are Becoming is Just as Important as What You’re Doing
Our default in transition is to rush into action.
Update the resume. Apply for roles. Rebrand the business. Hustle harder.
But what if the first step wasn’t “What should I do?”
What if it was: “Who am I becoming?”
Because clarity doesn’t come from more motion.
It comes from alignment. From asking:
- What do I no longer want to carry?
- What am I being called to step into?
- What version of me is ready to emerge?
This is your opportunity to shape your next self, not just your next job title, or business pivot, or life chapter.
You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone
One of the hardest things about transitions? They can feel so lonely.
Especially for women who are used to being the strong ones, the fixers, the go-to for everyone else.
But here’s what I want to say to you today:
You are not alone. And you’re not the only one feeling “in between.”
Let this season be one where you ask for help.
Where you find community.
Where you give yourself permission to rebuild — slowly, honestly, bravely.
Because you don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward.
You just have to decide you’re worth the becoming.
Wrapping it Up
So if you’re in transition today — good.
It means you’re alive.
It means something inside you is shifting. Growing. Healing.
Honor that.
You don’t need to go back to who you were.
You are being invited to rise into who you’re becoming.
And I promise — she is worth the wait.
Going through a transition and feeling confused? Let’s connect
Cheers!
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7+ Ways To Prepare For A Public-Facing Leadership Role
Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.” —Jack Welch
More than two decades ago I started my first leadership role. Always facing an audience through years of athletic performance, the arts, other leadership roles, I was always confident. But this was different. In my HR Leadership role, I faced responsibilities on behalf of the company. No more hiding behind other senior leaders. My boss gave me no choice but to step up to my full responsibilities.
After going through a bout of nervousness that lasted months, I found that it got easier each time. Before long, I prepared for each meeting when I had to address employees performance, achievements and areas of development across the region with confidence.
On observation these days, we see politicians and society’s leaders in public service assuming new roles. Consequently, the question was raised; “can a person from behind the scenes excel in a new public-facing role?” The answer is absolutely!
Public-facing means a role where the (individual) exercises managerial authority or control of an entity’s activities.
Here are 7+ points to prepare for a public-facing leadership role. Focus on:
1.Communication Skills
- Develop clear, compelling public speaking abilities
- Practice articulating complex ideas simply
- Learn media training techniques
2.Personal Brand Development
- Build a professional, authentic public image
- Be consistent across different platforms
- Develop a strong personal narrative
3.Continuous Learning
- Stay updated on industry trends
- Understand diverse stakeholder perspectives
- Cultivate emotional intelligence
4.Professional Appearance
- Dress appropriately for your industry
- Project confidence through body language
- Work on your on-camera and in-person presence
5.Media and Presentation Preparation
- Take media training workshops
- Practice handling tough questions
- Learn crisis communication strategies
6.Networking
- Build relationships with key industry influencers
- Develop a supportive professional network
- Seek mentorship from experienced public leaders
7.Digital Literacy
- Manage social media presence professionally
- Understand digital communication etiquette
- Be mindful of online reputation
Bonus: Resilience and Adaptability
- Develop thick skin for public scrutiny
- Learn to handle criticism constructively
- Maintain composure under pressure
Consistent practice and self-reflection are the keys to becoming an effective public-facing leader.
What has been your experience with getting ready for a leadership role? Did you use any of the above strategies? If so, what worked for you? Any other strategy that comes to mind? Do share, we would love to hear.
Cheers!
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Why Year-End Triggers Career Reflection
You can get excited about the future. The past won’t mind. ~Hillary DePiano
The end of the year naturally invokes a period of career reflection, which serves as a psychological milestone that compels professionals to pause and assess their journey. As the calendar approaches its final weeks, individuals are instinctively drawn to introspection, triggered by a combination of cultural traditions, personal goal-setting practices, and an innate human desire for growth and meaning. This time of reflection is fueled by the contrast between the year’s accomplishments and unfulfilled aspirations, creating the opportunity for honest self-evaluation (hint …that common ideal weight loss plan).
Also read: Conquering Transition Doubts
The approaching new year symbolizes renewal and potential, encouraging professionals to reflect on their career trajectory, measure progress against past objectives, and recalibrate their professional vision. Factors like annual performance reviews, financial assessments, industry shifts, and personal life changes converge during this period, making it an ideal time to critically reflect on career satisfaction, skill development, alignment with long-term goals, and potential opportunities for growth or transformation.
Consequently, here are a number of pointers that discusses this period of reflection along with recommendation. Not a self-starter , we can help.
Natural Evaluation Period
- Annual performance reviews
- Reflecting on past year’s achievements
- Setting new personal goals
- Psychological reset moment
Emotional Triggers
- Holiday season brings perspective
- Family gatherings prompt life discussions
- Increased time for self-reflection
- Motivation from new year anticipation
Professional Burnout
- Accumulated workplace stress
- Desire for meaningful change
- Recognizing current job’s limitations
- Seeking personal fulfillment
External Evaluation
- Social conversations about resolutions
- Seeing others make bold moves
- Increased motivational content
- Feeling inspired by potential
Strategic Approach
- Budget reassessment
- Career growth opportunities
- Market trend observations
- Personal development planning
Motivational Approach
- Embrace fear as growth signal
- Start with small, low-risk steps
- Build confidence gradually
- Seek professional guidance
- Create solid transition plan
Recommended Actions
- Self-assessment
- Skill inventory
- Informational interviews
- Part-time exploration
- Professional coaching
- Continuous learning
Are you experiencing any of these signs? If so, it’s time to do something about it. Adapt the motivational approach along with the recommended actions. But if you need the expertise of a coach who can help. Better yet, purchase a gift certificate for a friend experiencing these signs and help him/her kick off the new year with a difference.
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Ahh Coaching: Trouble The Comfortable
The interesting thing about coaching is that you have to trouble the comfortable and comfort the troubled.
Ric Charlesworth
Professional development involves coaching. It is a process of self-awareness, application and reflection. Improving yourself through learning and training has advantages. Just as great sportsmen hire coaches, professionals can improve their craft with a personalized and objective coach.
That said, people’s perceptions of coaching necessity vary and there are myths, but there is a growing recognition of its value in professional development.
- General perception: There’s been an increasing trend towards viewing coaching as valuable, particularly in corporate settings. However, it’s not universally seen as “necessary.”
- Executive coaching: A survey by the International Coach Federation (ICF) found that about 86% of organizations saw a return on investment from coaching. This suggests a high perceived value among those who have experienced it.
- Leadership coaching: Many large companies now include coaching as part of leadership development programs, indicating its perceived importance.
- Career coaching: The demand for career coaching has grown, especially with the rapid changes in the job market and increased career transitions.
- Percentage who think it’s necessary: It’s challenging to give an exact percentage as perceptions vary widely across industries, cultures, and individual experiences. However, here are some relevant statistics:
- A study by the Harvard Business Review found that 48% of CEOs who had coaching said they were open to changing their behavior as a result.
- According to a report by PwC, 50% of firms surveyed used coaching as a key part of their learning and development programs.
These numbers suggest that while coaching is increasingly valued, it’s not universally seen as “necessary” by everyone. The perception tends to be more positive among those who have experienced coaching or work in organizations that regularly use coaching services.
It is important to note that these figures can change over time and may vary significantly depending on the specific context (e.g., industry, individuals, company size).
So there you have it. Different perceptions of coaching and it’s necessity. Many understand and appreciate its value. Are you one of them? What’s your own perspective? Do share. We would love to hear.
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30 Common Side Hustles To Choose From …
It’s not how much money you make, but how much money you keep, how hard it works for you, and how many generations you keep it for.
Robert Kiyosaki
Women often face unique financial challenges due to various societal, economic, and cultural factors. These challenges have been exacerbated especially since the pandemic. To become financially independent simple solutions through participating in additional income streams can help.
There are many side hustles people pursue to earn extra income. Here’s a list of common and popular options.
- Freelance writing or editing
- Virtual assistance
- Social media management
- Online tutoring or teaching
- Web design or development
- Graphic design
- Photography or videography
- Rideshare driving (Uber, Lyft)
- Food delivery services (DoorDash, Uber Eats)
- Pet sitting or dog walking
- House cleaning or organizing services
- Personal shopping or errand running
- Selling handmade items on Etsy
- Dropshipping or e-commerce
- Blogging or vlogging
- Podcast hosting
- Affiliate marketing
- Renting out a spare room on Airbnb
- Selling items on eBay or Amazon
- Online surveys or user testing
- Transcription services
- Voice acting or voiceover work
- Personal training or fitness coaching
- Lawn care or landscaping
- Car detailing
- Bookkeeping or accounting services
- Resume writing
- Translation services
- Music lessons
- Event planning or coordination
Before You Choose
When considering a side hustle, it’s important to:
- Assess your skills and interests
- Consider the time commitment required
- Evaluate the potential income versus effort
- Ensure it doesn’t conflict with your primary job
- Research any legal or tax implications
Did any of the above side hustles appeal to you? Here’s hoping you got a few ideas to choose from. The only caution is to make sure that your skills are up to par with the side hustle selected. And also to be mindful of your work/life balance.
Happy Hustling!
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Overcome Imposter Syndrome in Leadership
I did it!
Imposter syndrome is a persistent unjustified feeling that one’s success is fraudulent. Imposter syndrome is characterized by doubt in one’s abilities—despite a record of achievement or respect from one’s peers—and a fear of having one’s unworthiness exposed.
Britannica
Congratulations on your promotion! Yet, as you step into your new role, you may find yourself grappling with feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. This phenomenon, commonly known as imposter syndrome, can plague even the most accomplished individuals, especially when thrust into unfamiliar territory without proper training or support.
As a new manager, you may be questioning your abilities, second-guessing your decisions, and fearing that at any moment, someone will expose you as a fraud. These feelings are not uncommon, but they can hinder your performance and diminish your confidence.
But don’t be afraid, for there is a way forward. With the right guidance and coaching, you can forge your way through these periods of uncertainty and emerge as a confident and capable leader. Through targeted strategies and personalized support, you can learn to silence your inner critic, cultivate self-assurance, and embrace your newfound role with authenticity and resilience.
During coaching sessions, you explore the root causes of your imposter syndrome, identify limiting beliefs, and develop practical techniques to overcome them. From effective communication and decision-making skills to building strong relationships and managing expectations, you will be equipped with the tools and mindset needed to thrive in your leadership journey.
Remember, you were chosen for this role for a reason. You possess unique strengths, experiences, and perspectives that have prepared you for this moment. Let’s connect. Together, we will unlock your full potential and empower you to lead with confidence, integrity, and authenticity.
It’s time to banish the doubts, embrace your strengths, and step into your leadership with conviction. Let’s embark on this transformative journey together.
Cheers!
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10 Thoughtful And Practical Gift Ideas For Women Leaders This Mother’s Day
The Perfect Gift for Her
Some gifts are big. Others are small. But the ones that come from the heart are the best gifts of all.
Tinku Razoria
Celebrations, Birthdays, Mother’s Day, Selfcare Days…. no matter the occasion, it is always hard to find the ideal gift for the perfect mom, sister, co-worker, best friend to encourage or simply to say Thanks to one who did a kind deed. Here are 10 thoughtful and practical gift ideas for women leaders.
Gifts for Her
- Professional Development Books: Gift a selection of books on leadership, personal development, or career advancement. Choose titles that align with the recipient’s interests and goals, such as “Ditch It, Switch It“, “Lean In” by Sheryl Sandberg or “Dare to Lead” by Brené Brown.
- Journal or Planner: A stylish journal or planner can help women leaders stay organized, set goals, and track their progress. Look for a high-quality notebook with inspirational quotes or customizable sections for reflection and planning.
- Online Course or Workshop: Invest in an online course or workshop that aligns with the recipient’s professional development goals. Whether it’s leadership skills, negotiation tactics, or public speaking, there are plenty of options available to enhance their skills and knowledge.
- Executive Coaching Sessions: Provide the gift of personalized coaching sessions with a professional executive coach. This one-on-one support can help women leaders overcome challenges, set strategic goals, and accelerate their career growth.
- Membership to Professional Networks: Consider gifting a membership to a professional organization or networking group tailored to women leaders in their industry. This provides opportunities for networking, mentorship, and access to valuable resources and events.
- Tech Gadgets or Accessories: Surprise her with a stylish and functional tech gadget or accessory that enhances productivity and efficiency, such as a smartwatch, wireless headphones, or a sleek laptop bag.
- Self-Care Package: Put together a self-care package filled with pampering essentials like scented candles, bath salts, herbal teas, and skincare products. Encourage women leaders to prioritize their well-being and recharge their batteries.
- Mindfulness or Meditation Tools: Help women leaders manage stress and promote mindfulness with gifts like a meditation app subscription, aromatherapy diffuser, or a set of meditation cushions.
- Personalized Leadership Assessment: Invest in a personalized leadership assessment tool or 360-degree feedback survey to help women leaders gain valuable insights into their strengths, areas for improvement, and leadership style.
- Inspiring Artwork or Decor: Choose a piece of artwork or decor that inspires and motivates women leaders in their workspace. Whether it’s a motivational quote print, a vibrant painting, or a decorative desk accessory, find something that resonates with their aspirations and values.
These gift ideas for women leaders combine practicality, inspiration, and personalization to support their professional growth and well-being.
Which gift pulls you in? Is there another or a few that you would like to add? Do share. We would love to hear.
Connect now to gift that personalized gift of Executive Coaching or personalized leadership assessment today. It is the gift that keeps on giving.
Cheers!
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Excellence In Public Service Award …
This award for Excellence in Public Service took me by complete surprise! It’s such an honor to be recognized for the work done in our communities at home and abroad.
Hmmm… 🤔 as I wondered why, it caused deep reflect…
As an author of several books, the topic of leadership, success and its impact on America and the contribution of successful Caribbean American immigrants (eg Colin Powell) in media, politics, education, aviation, entertainment, intrigued me. As such I invested years interviewing top leaders in organizations. That research has been a valuable Coaching resource that helped inspire, motivate and empower aspiring leaders.
I reflect on my work within pharmaceuticals, healthcare and the hospitality industry with HR Leaders where I spent a decade contributing to bold initiatives that made a positive impact on organizational leaders through identifying speakers making vast change to society.
I also pondered my work with the Institute of CAribbean Studies in Washington, DC through the platform of White House champion of change Dr Claire and Dr Nsombi, I invested time to lead a team to find talented individuals under 30 years old, making outstanding achievements in academics, leadership, advocacy, entrepreneurship… essentially rising stars who at a young age have impacted our wider society in their communities. Over the years since the 30 Under 30 program’s inception, many have gone on to do great things.
Let me not forget my involvement in ministry, where I have also written books on encouragement, worked on health fairs, Coached career development, traveled globally to speak on personal development and its impact on leaders afar.
Yes, as I look back, I am pleased and humbly accept this distinguished award from the Writers of Color, South Florida. A Group led by Dr. Ralph Hogges, Dr. Benjamin Cowins and Dr. Delores Smiley.
Cheers to fellow colleagues Dr Susan Davis and Dr Thea White for your partnership.
Service is in my DNA. I will continue.
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Achieve In Months What Might Take Years On Your Own …
Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.
Dr. Roopleen
Whether you feel stuck in your career, overwhelmed as a supervisor or simply want to maximize your performance, coaching could be the key to achieving in months what might take years alone. The top signs you will benefit from working with a coach are discussed in the video.
- You feel stuck and unable to move forward.
- You are struggling to Balance work, life and personal commitments.
- You are in a Leadership role but feel out of your depth.
- You are going through significant life or career transition.
Invest less than 10 minutes to watch this video and discover the power of coaching for yourself! The returns could change the trajectory of your personal and professional life.
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New Entrepreneurs Growing Pains: 5 Factors To Consider
Entrepreneur Growing Pains
Joy was excited about launching her business and she did! Now six months later, she has been finding it difficult to survive financially. With rising debt and living expenses, she is unable to make ends meet. She reached out for coaching to tackle her inner stress while pondering if she had made a mistake.
This situation is common to many first-time entrepreneurs. Statistics show that many small businesses fail during the first year. Most ponder giving up or staying the course. The decision between working on their new business or getting a job often depends on various factors. Here are a few:
- Financial Stability: If an entrepreneur’s financial situation is precarious and their business isn’t generating immediate income, getting a job might be necessary to cover living expenses and support the business financially.
- Business Stage: Early-stage businesses might require time and effort before becoming profitable. In such cases, working on the business while having a part-time job or a source of stable income could be a feasible option.
- Learning Curve: New entrepreneurs might benefit from working in the industry they’re entering. A job can offer insights, experience, and networking opportunities that can be invaluable for their business.
- Time Commitment: Running a business demands a significant time commitment. If the business requires full-time attention to get off the ground, working solely on the business might be necessary initially.
- Risk Tolerance: Some entrepreneurs prefer to dedicate all their time and energy to their business, even if it means financial strain initially, while others might opt for a more gradual approach to reduce financial risk.
In many cases, a hybrid approach—working part-time or freelancing while gradually growing the business—can strike a balance between financial stability and business development. It allows entrepreneurs to sustain themselves while dedicating time to their entrepreneurial venture.
Ultimately, it’s crucial to assess individual circumstances, weigh the pros and cons, and make a decision that aligns with both the financial needs and the growth potential of the business.
Are you a new entrepreneur experiencing first year growth pains? Which of the above will you adopt and apply to your situation? Are there any others that you have considered? Do share. We would love to hear.
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