20 Reasons Success Eludes Some

Why do some people succeed, while others don’t? It’s simple. Success means hard work, dedication, and the drive to achieve goals. Athletes, entrepreneurs, and high achievers do not just rise up and achieve success. No…they are products of resilience… that never-give-up attitude. In this season of Olympics pump, many are inspired by the stories of athletes around the world who have joined the ranks of the best of the best globally. Success Vista’s founder Ibibo Justin‘s invitation for guest post tugged at the reminder of the reasons success eludes some people.

Many have explored the paths to success to unveil the answers for those whose appetites long to devour its true meaning. To those standing at a crossroad uncertain of which way to go; and to those who hide beneath the Surface their feelings of fear, apprehension, and apathy, success seems distant.

Shane is not alone in her writings that success leaves clues, trails and signs. Whatever the goal …be it to achieve success in business, personal relationships, sports or more,  we should strive through thick and thin. Most well-known successful people including my favorite writer Stephen King, never gave up when the going got tough. They stuck to it through thick and thin. That said, we reflect on success that at its core refers to the achievement of wealth, honors or the like. Failure on the other hand refers to the lack of success, or more specifically the omission of expected or required action.

So here are 20 insights into the behaviors and actions of people who Success seems to elude. These have been pulled from a few individuals including the likes of Kayiba Mpoyi, Stephen Guise, Deborah Shane, and my own book on Success Strategies as gleaned from phenomenological study.  Ibibo revealed the top 6 Qualities of Successful People. Here, we look at the reasons people fail to succeed:

  1. Underestimate time management.

Successful people learn how to say No.  They know which commitments to take on to achieve great success in areas of their lives.

  1. Have misaligned Goals.                                                                                                                    They mistake busyness for productivity. They want to be a part of everything and in the process do nothing that aligns with their goals. This undermines success.
  1. Have self-imposed limitations

People who are not successful often say things like “I’m not good with numbers”; “I hate studying”; and “I can’t run a successful business”.

  1. Have little social IQ.

They don’t know how to treat others and say things like “well at least I’m being honest”, or “this is just the way I am, deal with it”. It’s said that you can judge a man’s character by watching how he acts when standing in a very long line and is met with bad service; or by how he reacts when you ruin his expensive items.

  1. Procrastinate.. Never take action 

They think, and think, and think…  a lot. They Dream big but lack the courage to go out and get things done.  My mantra…Get up! Show up! Just Do Something!

6. Can’t face adversity

Overcoming challenges not only bring us closer to our goals but they turn us into someone we never imagined. Don’t be afraid to conquer your fears and embark on new terrains. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself.

  1. They don’t plan                                                                                                                                They do not have a complete vision of their intentions. They are not specific which goes a long way in the execution of our goals.
  1. They always Give up

They get discouraged and apathetic when they fail. Essentially, they have a failure mindset long before they even started.

10.They are scared.

They freeze just like the deer that stands fixed before the car hits.

  1. They are always in the wrong place.

Wrong job. Wrong state. Wrong country. Everything they do they complain is wrong. It is important for them to know when to to move on to something else. Mpoyi’s observation is for real….humans do not have the capacity to be successful at all things.

  1. They don’t care

Apathy can infect any area of our lives and when it strikes it produces failure. The scariest part is how contagious it is. It spreads to other areas of our lives. Beneath the surface, apathetic friends can also infect us.

14. They are unwilling or too slow to change

15. They become irrelevant.

16.They have a bad attitude

17. They have skill gaps.

18. They have not developed a unique personal brand.

19. They lack discipline, focus and balance.

20. They lack a deep sense of belief in themselves

People who success eludes are more numerous than we can imagine. More importantly, it’s sad to see people with amazing potential …give up. Really it is. But not so obvious are individuals who internalize things and therefore their true feelings may not always be evident. As Myopi said very well, sometimes it is the guy in the cubicle with the $90K salary, who accepts misery because it comes with a fat paycheck.

Today, make a change. Be inspired. Stop thinking. Take action. Then success…how ever you define it… is highly guaranteed. Make that move right now.

Cheers!

 

Rio: The Road to Success

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What do athletes participating in the 2016 olympics have to do to get there? Great question! First of all … they all are already winners! Here’s why.

They dreamed. Set Goals, made a plan, prepared themselves and got ready through practice, practice, practice. They worked hard, believed they could do it, and most important they never gave up! 

As you look at the Road to Success in pictures here, how do you prepare yourself for major goals in life?

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Dream! Believe! Achieve!

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Explore. Renew…Then Admire


Plan, see, explore, renew…then Admire the benefits of widened expanse of experiences. Minds are relieved, energies boosted, and the pens of writers move in sprints across the page.


Ahhh memories created. Don’t you just love ’em?

21 Iconic Leaders Define Success

So what does Success really mean to those who try so hard to get it, yet it moves further and further away as they draw near. Trying the short route some play the lotto… anticipating overnight success. Some marry rich. Some scheme, connive, and conspire just to taste the mouthwatering trappings of success.

Michael Jackson, Whitney Houston, Prince, Beyoncé, Adele, Will, Denzel Washington, Taylor Swift, and the list goes on. Without a doubt few will argue that these individuals experienced success. Come to think of it, Michael Jackson even produced an album 5 years after his death! Now to many…that’s success! But… is it really?

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Determined to find out Why Some Individuals Succeed While Others Don’t, I decided to research the topic of success. I conducted a phenomenological study, interviewed outstanding leaders in business, and other industries. I even wrote a book on Success, and published a peer reviewed article in the JAABC Business Journal about it.

So what does Success really mean to those who try so hard to get it, yet it moves further and further away as they draw near. Trying the short route some play the lotto… anticipating overnight success. Some marry rich. Some scheme, connive, and conspire just to taste the mouthwatering trappings of success.

Personally, I sought to educate myself not necessarily with the focus of being successful since I already was …as I defined it. I went to college earned several degrees including two Masters, and a Doctorate, combined with many years in International Business. Now some would admit that I am successful as society envisions it, but bearing the delectable scars of student loans, how many would agree? (Couldn’t resist that ..smile).

“Success is definitively defined as the attainment of wealth, honors and the like”

So I have pulled together definitions from 21 of Society’s Iconic leaders. Take a look. Reflect. Adopt one, or share your own definition.  Remember it has always been said that only you can define what success really means to you.

John Wooden

Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.

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Michelle Obama
Success is not about how much money you make but about the difference you make in people’s lives.

Winston Churchill

Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.

Thomas Edison

Success is 1% inspiration, 99% perspiration.

Steven Covey

If you carefully consider what you want to be said of you in the funeral experience you will find your definition of success.

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Colin Powell
Success is the result of perfection, hard work, learning from failure, loyalty and persistence.

Nelson Mandela

Everyone can rise above their circumstances and achieve success if they are dedicated to and passionate about what they do. Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.

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Albert Einstein
Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value

Woody Allen

Eighty percent of success is showing up.

Barack Obama

The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won’t. It’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.

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Maya Angelou
Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.

Martin Luther King Jr.

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.

Mary Kay Ash

Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, you can achieve.

Alexander Graham Bell

Before anything else, preparation is the key to success.

Ellen DeGeneres

I work really hard at trying to see the big picture and not getting stuck in ego. I believe we’re all put on this planet for a purpose, and we all have a different purpose. When you connect with that love and that compassion, that’s when everything unfolds.

Michael Dell

You don’t have to be a genius or a visionary or even a college graduate to be successful. You just need a framework and a dream.

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Oprah Winfrey
The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but significance and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on greater meaning.


Abraham Lincoln
Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.

Napoleon Hill

Patience, persistence, and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.

Mark Twain

All you need in this life is ignorance and confidence; then success is sure.

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Mother Teresa
To love others as God loves you, that is the measure of success.

 

So there you have it. 21 of Society’s Iconic leaders as they defined success. Look at them again… for a few times if necessary. Pause; reflect; adopt one; or share your own definition.

Remember, only YOU can define what success really means to you.

What’s your definition?

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Coward’s Radiate


Having you around makes me happy, makes me smile.

Having you here …but there,

Makes my smile …like clouds,

Afraid to come out.

Response

 Don’t be, I feel weird all the time.

When I come I want you to shine like the sun you are.

You pour positivity and smiles into me.

If you’re afraid to radiate we’ll both suffer.

 

(Writings to my beautiful college teen)

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Your Story. Your Truth…

 

To thine own self be true

 

Appearance is a concept that leads to perception. We envision, perceive, admire what we see in outward appearances, and cast them all as true.

Looking, believing that all things are true. That all things are for real. That things are always what they appear to be.

Love, hate, success, failure, laughs, cries, happiness, sadness, beauty, life, stillness, peace, turmoil.

Things aren’t always what they appear to be. Look deep inside yourself. Uncover the truth. All that glitters is not gold…But to thine own-self  be true.

 

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Of Clouds And Vision

Business, career, family, life and the facets that engulf our daily experiences. Clouds like scales cover our eyes that we fail to see the Vision of a future so dear. A future that’s past reminiscing what has been…, blocks the possibilities of what can be.
Open wide our eyes. See the possibilities. Reach higher. Believe. We will Achieve.

 

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