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Starting Over At 50. Finding Purpose Again

Midlife transitioners face feelings of sadness especially when work, independence and purpose feel out of reach. This is a common scenario I have found in my coaching practice amongst mature women. They complain, sulk and feel ‘why bother’ (as in the case of a recent discussion). For women experiencing these feelings, here are 7 thoughtful strategies of how 50+-year-old women in this situation can begin moving forward. Adopting these strategies can help them regain control of their life, emotionally, practically, and spiritually.

1.Start With Emotional Healing

Before any external progress, healing the inner voice is key.

  • Acknowledge your feelings; grief, frustration, even shame, as valid. You’re not alone; many older adults feel invisible or “left behind” as the four stages of elimination in life profess.
  • Seek emotional support: a counselor, therapist, or support group for midlife depression can help rebuild self-worth.
  • Practice daily motivation and affirmations: “My life still has purpose.” “I am capable of starting again.” Small mindset shifts add up.
  • Faith & reflection: If you’re spiritually inclined, journaling prayers or reading devotionals about renewal (e.g., Isaiah 43:19… “Behold, I am doing a new thing…”) can anchor your hope.

2.Rebuild Self-Worth and Confidence

Depression often comes from feeling “useless,” so rediscovering value is important.

  • Revisit strengths and experiences. Make a list of past achievements, career skills, and life lessons.
  • Volunteer or mentor. Helping others (e.g., tutoring, mentoring younger professionals, or supporting community causes) reminds her that her wisdom matters.
  • Refresh her image. A new hairstyle, headshot, or wardrobe doesn’t just change how others see her — it helps her feel renewed.

3.Redefine Purpose and Direction

You may be entering a new season, not the end of your working life. Shift from “job-seeking” to “value-offering.” Instead of asking “who will hire me?” you should ask, “where can my experience help someone solve a problem?”

Consider flexible or freelance work:

  • Virtual assistant or remote admin work
  • Customer service, tutoring, or caregiving
  • Consulting in your former field
  • Selling crafts, baked goods, or eBooks online
  • Take free online courses (Coursera, Google Digital Skills, LinkedIn Learning) to update your skillset and confidence.

4.Improve Her Job Search Strategy

Age can be an advantage when presented with confidence and skill.

  • Update your resume and LinkedIn profile. Focus on experience, reliability, and mentoring skills rather than long timelines.
  • Network quietly and personally. Reach out to old colleagues or community connections; many opportunities come through relationships, not job boards.
  • Target age-friendly employers (AARP’s “Employer Pledge Program” lists companies committed to older workers).

5.Stabilize Finances and Environment

Small changes can ease immediate stress.

  • Seek community or senior resources: local housing or utility assistance programs, food banks, or financial coaching through nonprofits.
  • Budget for empowerment, not punishment. Even small control (like managing one bill or goal) restores agency.
  • Explore part-time or gig work (e.g., Instacart, pet-sitting, or online micro-tasks) as temporary bridges.

6. Build a New Daily Routine

Structure gives life purpose.

  • Morning: prayer, gratitude, short walk
  • Midday: job search, learning, or volunteer time
  • Evening: journal one positive action from the day
    Even a simple daily rhythm can counter the “stuck” feeling.

7. Believe in Renewal


It’s never too late to rebuild. Many people in their 50’s and beyond start new careers, businesses, and callings. Your story isn’t over…it’s shifting.
Be encouraged. See yourself not as “unemployed,” but as “relaunching.”

Reflection:

“If I could start fresh today, what small step would make me feel proud by the end of this week?”

Hope these strategies help you overcome these feelings of apathy. If you’re not in that sphere and know someone who might be, please share with them. We are also here to help women regain confidence for their new chapter.

Cheers!

What Are You Harvesting This Fall?

What’s an Author and Leadership Coach presenting at a Garden Fall Festival? Aah but there are similarities. My work is about Personal Growth. Just like farmers plant seeds, all of us plant Goals.  The idea is to water and care for them just like we do plants.

Personally, I love plants but I’m a ‘plant killer’, be it orchids or other beautiful plants. They all end up withered. As time passed, I started gifting them or hiring professionals to care for them. That’s a gift that I didn’t get.

Against that background, here I share 3 points that I hope will help you reflect this Fall.

1.Plant with Intention

Every great harvest begins with a seed, and so do your dreams. Whether your goal is to start a business, write a book, get healthier, or grow spiritually, you must plant it intentionally. Don’t just wish, sow. Choose what you want to see in your future and begin with small, consistent actions.

2.Nurture with Patience

 A seed doesn’t sprout overnight. It takes watering, sunlight, and care. Likewise, your goals need patience, persistence, and faith. You may not see progress immediately, but don’t stop nurturing your vision. Keep showing up, keep learning, and trust the process.

3.Protect Your Growth

Every garden has weeds and pests—and life has distractions and doubts. Protect your goals from negativity, procrastination, and fear. Surround yourself with people and environments that feed your growth, not drain it.

4.Reap With Gratitude

When your harvest comes, whether it’s success, a new opportunity, or even lessons learned, celebrate it. Give thanks for the journey, the people who supported you, and the challenges that helped you grow stronger.

This Fall, as we celebrate the physical harvest around us let’s also think about the seeds we’re planting in our lives. Because what you plant today you harvest tomorrow.

So plant wisely, nurture faithfully and reap joyfully. Thank you, and may your harvest overflow with abundant blessings.

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Spooky Leadership: 3 Frights That Haunt the Workplace (and How to Fix Them) …

Spooky Leadership

Do one thing everyday that scares you.

As the spooky season approaches, it’s not just ghosts and goblins giving people chills. Sometimes leadership habits can be downright spooky!

1. The Invisible Leader

Disappears when the team needs them most. No feedback, no presence, just crickets.

FIX: Show up. Visibility builds trust. A simple check-in can turn uncertainty into motivation.

2.The Zombie Communicator

Repeats the same messages with no real emotion or connection. Team meetings feel lifeless.

FIX: Revive communication! Be intentional, listen actively, and personalize your message.

3.The Vampire of Ideas

Sucks up all the credit and leaves others drained. Recognition? Nowhere in sight.

FIX: Share the spotlight. Empower your team and celebrate contributions publicly.

This season, take a moment to unmask your leadership style. Make sure you are not the one haunting your workplace and if you are, let’s connect to clear the spookiness.

Are there thoughts you would like to add? Do share. We would love to hear.

Cheers!

South Florida Writers Of Color Online Literary Magazine…

I am Somebody. We are Somebody. ~ Dr. Ralph Hogges

Beyond the Bend of Trees Avenue

By Patricia Reid-Waugh

You would think that a street named ‘Trees Avenue’ would be lined with tall, manicured trees of exotic variety, standing like sentries on either side of the roadway. Strangers entering the L-shaped avenue might imagine that around the bend, leafy branches would shield them from the blistering sun, and a rustling chorus of leaves would welcome them. But such was not the street on which I lived.

My ‘Trees Avenue’ was no different from other residential roads nearby, paved in asphalt, with a strip of grass separating the roadway from the walls of each property. Neither my parents nor the other homeowners thought it important to give the street a personality matching its name. To the casual visitor, it looked tidy, pleasant, but rather ordinary.

The houses stood close to the front boundaries, verandahs stretching wide to court the evening breeze. These verandahs became living rooms in their own right, alive with laughter, morning greetings, neighborly gossip, and the occasional raised voice.

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CHERISH

By S. Ettosi Brooks

I remember my people; like a piece of sweet, firm sugar cane spilling its juice over my tongue and lips; lips framing expressions of a language of thunder and soft rain. My roots – peopled with characters of such unassuming elegance I could not really see them until, exiled, I craved remembrances like sweet sugar cane. What sweeter dance than a handcart man, lithe, muscled – swinging and dipping, black sinews rippling their way down Orange Street.

Journey to Spiritual Growth: A Path Toward Lasting Transformation

By Dr. Delores Smiley

Journey to Spiritual Growth is a Christ-centered ministry designed to guide believers toward a deeper, more intentional walk with God. Rooted in the call to “love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength,” this ministry provides practical tools and clear teachings to help individuals grow in spiritual knowledge, examine their hearts, and live out the commandments of love – preparing for heaven as the ultimate home. It recognizes that faith is not a single event but a lifelong journey that calls us to grow in understanding, surrender our hearts, and live out the commandments of love.

The Power of Paying It Forward in Leadership

Pay it Forward

If you can’t pay it back, pay it forward. ~Catherine Ryan Hyde

Standing in line at the cashier, I decided to pay with the cash I had on hand. The amount came to the exact dollar amount in my wallet, except it needed thirteen cents more. I rummaged through my handbag to cover the difference. The woman behind me said, “Hey, I’ll get it for you.”

Instead of accepting her offer, I searched frantically for the coins, only to remember that I keep my change in the car. She repeated gently, “I’ll get it.” I insisted that I would pay her back when we got outside. She simply replied, “Pay it forward.” Immediately, I understood and promised I would.

I left the store, found the coins in my car, and was about to give her a quarter as she exited. Then I was reminded of her words about paying it forward. I took a deep breath, sighed, and drove away.

How many times has this happened to me? I genuinely like to give but am always hesitant to receive. As I coach my clients, I recognize it’s important to do both—give generously and also be willing to accept graciously in return. One friend once countered my reluctance by saying, “Don’t stop my blessings.”

Leaders Struggle

This simple exchange reveals a profound leadership lesson about the grace of receiving. Many leaders struggle with accepting help, viewing it as weakness or loss of control. However, graceful receiving is actually a powerful leadership skill that creates deeper connections and empowers others.

When we refuse help, we inadvertently rob others of the joy of giving and contributing. We also model unhealthy self-reliance that can isolate us from our teams and communities. The most effective leaders understand that accepting assistance with gratitude creates a culture of mutual support and reciprocity.

Consider this: Every time someone offers to help you—whether it’s covering thirteen cents, sharing an idea, or taking on a task—they’re extending trust and care. Your gracious acceptance validates their value and strengthens the relationship.

Challenge yourself this week to practice receiving with the same intentionality you bring to giving. Say “thank you” instead of “you didn’t have to.” Accept compliments without deflecting. Allow others to contribute to your success. Remember, true leadership isn’t about having all the answers or resources—it’s about creating an environment where everyone can contribute their gifts, including to you.

Pay it forward, yes. But first, allow yourself to receive what’s being offered.

How to Answer ‘Why Did You Leave Your Previous Employer’?

“Change is not a threat, it’s an opportunity. Survival is not the goal,  transformative success is.” — Seth Godin 

I was asked the question how do I respond when asked “why did I leave my previous employer.” I decided to share the response through this scenario.

John’s longtime supervisor transferred to another region, leaving him under new management. Unfortunately, the transition wasn’t smooth—his new supervisor was inexperienced, and their working styles didn’t align. Before long, John was placed on a performance plan with reasons that weren’t clearly defined.

As the situation unfolded, John was given the option to either continue under the plan or move on. After thoughtful consideration and advice from trusted mentors, he chose to resign.

While the experience was challenging, John views it as a turning point. It clarified the kind of environment in which he does his best work—one with clear expectations, collaborative leadership, and mutual respect.

Why did you leave your previous employer?

In interviews, the inevitable “Why did you leave?” question can be answered truthfully yet professionally. In John’s case, he felt overwhelmed and contacted his coach to identify how to appropriately respond. The focus should be on what he learned and how he’s now positioned to contribute more effectively in a role that aligns with his strengths.

Stay Truthful Without Oversharing

How someone frames their exit can make a huge difference in how a future employer perceives them. If an employee was asked to resign, the goal is to stay truthful without oversharing, keep it professional, and pivot the conversation back to strengths and fit.

Here are some ways they can respond depending on the situation:

1. Frame It as a Mutual Decision

  • “The role turned out not to be the best fit for my strengths and career goals. After discussions with leadership, we mutually agreed it would be best for me to move on.”
    This works well if they don’t want to sound negative or defensive.

2. Emphasize Reorganization / Role Misalignment

  • “The company was restructuring, and my role was impacted. While I gained valuable experience, it was the right time to look for opportunities better aligned with my skills.”
    Neutralizes blame and shows adaptability.

3. Focus on Growth & Future

  • “I realized that the position wasn’t the right long-term fit. I decided to transition out so I could pursue opportunities where I can contribute at a higher level.”
    Reframes the resignation as intentional rather than forced.

4. Highlight Lessons Learned

  • “That experience taught me a lot about [communication, leadership, project management, etc.]. I’m now looking forward to applying those lessons in a new environment where I can thrive.”
    Shows maturity, resilience, and a forward-looking attitude.

5. Keep It Brief & Positive

If pressed further:

  • “I’d prefer to focus on the value I can bring to this role. I’m confident the skills I developed will be an asset here.”
    Avoids being dragged into negativity or long explanations.

Avoid:

  • Speaking negatively about the past employer.
  • Using words like “fired,” “forced,” or “terminated” unless directly asked (then explain calmly and factually).
  • Sounding evasive—short, honest, positive answers work best.

If you are in this situation, we hope this helps as a brief guide on how to handle the situation as you transition into new role.

On the other hand, have you ever experienced a case like this? How did you handle this rather sensitive career journey? Do share, we would love to hear.

Empowering Quotes for Entrepreneurs: Fuel Your Journey

Start by doing what’s necessary l; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you’re doing the impossible. ~St. Francis of Assisi

Starting something new takes courage. Whether it’s launching a business, chasing a career dream, or stepping into the unknown, the journey can feel exciting—but also overwhelming. Fear, doubt, and challenges often show up uninvited, tempting us to give up before we’ve even begun.

That’s exactly why I created my newest book, 101+ Empowering Quotes for New Entrepreneurs.

This isn’t just another quote collection. It’s a daily dose of encouragement designed to remind you that setbacks are temporary, obstacles are stepping stones, and success is possible when you keep moving forward.

Why This Book Matters

Every entrepreneur and dreamer knows the reality: there will be days when you question yourself. This book is here for those exact moments—when you need that spark to reignite your drive.

Inside, you’ll discover:
✨ Quotes that challenge fear and fuel confidence
✨ Encouragement to push through hard days and keep showing up
✨ Wisdom from timeless voices that inspire resilience and growth

Whether you’re building a business, pursuing a new career path, or simply in need of a reminder to keep going, these words of encouragement will meet you where you are.

Pre-Order Your Copy Now

101+ Empowering Quotes for New Entrepreneurs will be available September 29, but you can pre-order your copy now!

Here’s how you can support and spread empowerment:

  1. Order your copy today and be among the first to receive it.
  2. Leave a review once you’ve read it—your feedback encourages others to join the journey.
  3. Gift a copy (or two!) to the entrepreneurs, creators, and go-getters in your life who could use a reminder that giving up is never an option.

Final Thoughts

Dreams are built one step at a time. Challenges are part of the process. And sometimes, all you need is the right word at the right time to keep moving forward.

This book is that reminder.

Don’t wait—101+ Empowering Quotes for New Entrepreneurs now. Join me in fueling a movement of empowered entrepreneurs who choose courage over fear and persistence over giving up.

One Love: The Challenge..The Meaning

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One Love is universal. My perspective ….curled up on an island with a good book. Can’t help but to think of the legendary Bob Marley’s song …One Love.

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Take the Leap

  
The challenges of life can often be scarey. But you know what’s worse? Not having tried at all. Today, let’s be encouraged to take the leap! Go after your dreams! Goals! Aspirations! Whichever way, you will be a success for having tried. 

Go ahead….leap!

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Survive! Desert Island Must Haves

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Daily prompt: A classic question, revisited: what are the five items you must have on a deserted island?

The results are in! 5 Desert island essentials polled are:

  1. Water &/or filtration bottle for purification
  2. Tent
  3. Knife
  4. lighter or matches
  5. Warm clothes

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If I had 6 hours….

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If I had six hours to chop down a tree, I would spend the first four hours sharpening my axe.                                                                                                   Abraham Lincoln

How I Became a Human Resource Manager

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I never dreamed of a career in Human Resources. From an early age, I would look to the stars and dream of being involved in healthcare, or the airline industry. Of course these are two very different industries but my passion for people was evident from then. After graduating high school, I got the dream call for an interview as a flight attendant. I am always punctual, but for some strange reason I ended up being 10 minutes late for the interview, and was ‘disqualified’ from that opportunity.

I took it as a sign when I was hired by one of the nation’s big commercial banks. That opened the doors to human resource management for me; or as it was called back then—personnel management. I was exposed to benefits administration, performance management, and more. Being the fast learner that I am—I learned, and learned, and learned.

This boosted me into the next position with a major international pharmaceutical company, that further exposed me to human resource management at the global level. I learnt not only the facets of HR at the local level, but had to interpret laws and practices for different countries that fell under my portfolio of responsibility. In my job I had to travel across countries throughout the Caribbean, and Latin America.

Education

What about education? As I journeyed, I felt led to receive formal training. Armed with a Bachelors in Business Management, I pursued a Masters in Human Resource Management. I also decided to minor in HR Development, while studying Doctorate in Education, Major Organizational Leadership. This then propelled my current role as Coach, and Human Resource Consultant.

As laws, technology and people change, there is no doubt that it is an advantage to become a member of organizations such as the Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM). This syncs with organizations such as local Human Resource Associations. Personally, I continue to participate in local, and national conferences. These days I conduct personal development Success workshops, backed by my research and subsequent publishing of book on Leaders and Success Strategies.

Success and Challenges Along the Way

Naturally, there have been challenges along the way. My most challenging feat arose during my first encounter with an international merger, between two giant pharmaceutical companies. Embracing two different cultures, employee relations issues, diversity, compensation, and benefits management in different countries was a challenge, to say the least. But as I look back and reflect on the Employer of Choice award, I am pleased. This experience molded me into my love for change management today. This passion has taken me across different industries including healthcare, hospitality, and others to name a few.

Even though there have been ups and downs since then, I have never regretted my decision to enter this profession. Every time I help a client improve their business, it makes me feel totally satisfied. Hearing the frustrations in their voices when they first contact me, and then seeing the satisfaction on their faces when things improve… is exhilarating!

In addition, The Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM) shared the result of the annual compilation of the most in-demand jobs done by CareerBuilder, and Economic Modeling Specialist International. Not surprising, Human Resource jobs were included among the top 20 positions-yea! The article stated that Human Resource Managers require a college degree and that this career position has grown by over 14,218 since 2010. This confirms that yes, it is a fine time to get into Human Resources.

So if you have the people skills, the spirit of resilience, and other facets mentioned, then go for it! Despite the stresses of the position, the job is totally satisfying….and oh by the way, it pays too. So what are you waiting for? Get started today, and if you’re like me, you’ll have no regrets!

Interested in how others got into this profession, read SHRM’s https://shar.es/1CXf4p via @SHRM

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