I hate my life. I hate my life. I hate my life. That’s the chant I heard her saying as I approached her. Why would anyone say that? Such negative thought.
She had lost her husband. Her job. Her house. Her children. Her sense of independence. She felt she had nothing to live for. Beautiful. Smart. Educated professional she was, life had handed her difficulties. She thought she could never overcome life’s storms.
What were the right words to say to someone such as this?
- When life throws you lemons, make lemonade.
- Only the strong survive.
- Hold on, never give up.
- The tide will change. Keep going.
- Stay positive.
- Meditate. Pray.
- While there’s life there’s hope.
Will she find solace in any of these? I’m sure. Your thoughts? Do share. We would love to hear.
The fear they seek becomes their own
The Qualified are haunted and hunted by the overqualified syndrome. One recruiter even went so far as to say she would not hire someone who she believes is ‘over-qualified’ for the job. But has that recruiter examined the reason the so-called over-qualified applicant is searching? It could be for a career change. It could be to start a family and the person chooses to take a step back. It could also be an empty nester with a desire to simply slow down.
Give the Peeps a Chance
Here’s where it becomes necessary for the well-experienced candidate to use strategies to convince recruiters that you have no intention to come in to wreak havoc. Your desire is to join forces and work hard for the organization and/or department’s benefit.
Be warned Recruiter, one day you may be get there and then you will understand…when you’re misunderstood.
4 Strategies to Overcome
In her Wall Street Journal article the overqualified trap can hit you at any time, Sue Shellenbarger shared several strategies to combat the syndrome. Here I share my top 4 favs:
- Explain upfront why you’re applying for a position that seems beneath you
- Be consistent in explaining your reasons for applying throughout all interviews for the job
- Line up references who will vouch for your commitment
- Network with contacts who also know insiders at the target company
As a HR practitioner myself, I tend to be open to diverse applicants and our society certainly expects it. However, not all organization’s search process is without idiosyncrasies. So if you are an experienced job searcher as The power of Resilience when things go wrong in this depiction, the strategies listed before will help.
If you are on the hunt and find that there’s something that works for you, do share, we would love to hear.
Writing is usually done in a private space… as in a cave all by ourselves. We tell no one unless we choose to share with those close. Oft it can even be top secret or shouted from the mountain top as happens when some celebrities write. It’s entirely up to you.
It’s Your Prerogative
Writers commit a month, a year, 2, 3 or more to their Writing process. It’s your prerogative. It all depends on you. No need to attend a retreat, until or unless you’re ready and you can always remain silent in the background listening to others speak. At a writers Retreat, some talk. Some don’t.
Spend time doing what you want to do before, during and after the retreat.
People approach me to share my knowledge and (writing) experience with them. That’s the whole point of doing a Retreat. Facilitators or Hosts often incur a loss or just barely meet the expense for meals and accommodation for a small group retreat when it’s done for aspiring local authors. Over the years, it becomes more profitable.
But it’s worth it because of the satisfaction it brings. Often though some aspiring authors who actually need the help tend to hesitate to go the extra mile to acquire the knowledge. For me, before I wrote my first book about my phenomenalogical study on leadership and success, I attended a writers event and it helped me a lot. I invested resources to attend and like a sponge was happy to hear from the facilitators on their experiences. Before that I attended many writing events held throughout the industry and on campus to boost my craft.
Personally, I tend… to attend both good and bad’ sessions. Essentially, I love to compare what’s happening in the marketplace. From the ‘bad’ I learn what NOT to do. From the good…well that’s self-explanatory. I want to do better than the best while helping others achieve their best potential, whatever that is.
All in all, Writers have to test what works. Each individual differs. What works for one person may not work for the other.
What works for you? Do share. We would love to hear!
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Heal the World. Make it a Better Place. ~Michael Jackson
Save a Life. For my Birthday, I Donated. You should too.
When they born we read to them. They played outside. We avoided tech toys. But as they grew my daughters 2 sons were introduced to …yep … tech toys. Beyblade, Fortnite, YouTube games, and more. It’s now proving difficult to get them back-to-the-books.
I decided to search for help. Here’s what I found and particularly liked Grade Power Learning 13 Strategies for them to change to reading love! Here I share those I like:
- Pick the right books
- Read aloud
- Choose books that he/she is interested in
- Encourage all forms of reading
- Listen to audio books
- Let your reader choose
- Start a Series
Those were my top favs to transition non-readers into book-lovers. Any resonate? Are there more you can add? Do share. We would love to hear.
As I look over the circus of things I like, I realize that though I enjoy them and they bring me satisfaction, I find myself not doing them as much and in some cases at all. For over two decades I have been caught up in work, work, work. So this prompt helped me pull away and ponder the things I once enjoyed, or get to enjoy on a rare occasion.
But even as I finalize the list I realize that life’s not promised, so I intend to start doing the things I like and stop leaving them for …one day soon.
Watch The Waves By The Sea
That said, the things I like are:
- People watch
- Explore the world
- Simple things
- Enjoy a good laugh
- Acting | Participating in drama presentations
- Wearing a smile
- See people mentored achieve their best potential
- Watch movies
- Write, ponder, reflect
- Decorate the house
- Go shopping
- Watch HGTV | Travel channel
- Learn new things
- Enjoy the company of my two young adult kids
- Dream of Venice | Alaska
- People watch in downtown Disney, Washington DC Parks
- Watch the waves by the beach
- Nature – stare at birds, squirrels, and circus of trees
- Christmas Lights
- Look out at the horizon from a hill or mountain
- Capturing candid photos (new experience)
- Finding a new route after getting lost in a new place (yikes!)
- Quiet time
- Solving a mystery or a problem
- New baby hugs
- Listening to that Still Small Voice Of Faith
Any of the above resonate. Do share. We would love to hear.
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The Entrepreneur business series shared Thai Nguyen’s 5 Daily activities that will boost your brain power. I tried a few of them and it got me…well thinking! Then I thought I’d share!
- Do Something with your less dominant hand. You could brush your teeth with your left hand, or do like me and try writing the alphabet with your left hand. And yes, it got me thinking!
- Look up in the sky and describe the cloud. It’s a childhood game but it was liberating like not a care in the world… except praise!
- To boost focus and concentration, close your eyes and take 10 breaths out, without a thought intercepting your breathing.
- Work on memorizing something. It could be your favorite quote, or poem. Memorize one line each day and you will be surprised at the result.
- Add a new word to your vocabulary each day.
Immediately, I did 4! How many can you do? Do share. We would love to hear.
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I write because there’s something in me that needs to come out. I am at peace when I write. Writers write for many different reasons. Some personal, experiential, or environmental. Christine Caldalzo created a pictogram of 10 reasons writers write. Here I share 10:
10 Reasons Writers Write
- They love to write
- To express their thoughts
- To communicate
- To share experiences
- To tell about events
- To share their feelings
- To persuade
- To teach
- To Ask Questions
- They want something
Does any of the above resonate with your reason(s) to write? Any missing that you would like to add? Do share. We would love to hear.
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Who are you fooling? Can you write a book in 2 days? Absolutely! But only if you are inspired with the words just flowing like milk and honey from what’s deep down inside. It might be an experience that tugs at your heart through inspiration, trauma, dreams or more. No edits, just letting the words flow.
The Stress To Write
I was chatting with a fellow author at a recent book festival and he shared that he does not write under stress or duress but by inspiration. Me too! I write best from inspiration and not under the stress-to-write. I share that because at the upcoming 2 Days to Write Retreat, you will find the space to getaway! A mini retreat. This will be more about sharing your writing project with a group of like-minded writers where you can receive feedback on your writing project. After all, your work will be shared by the mass and not just for you only (though some choose to go the me-only route).
Participants are encouraged to challenge themselves to a writing project that can be shared at the event. It might be a cadre of poems, short-stories or excerpts of a longer writing book project. Share. Get critiqued. Append. Share again. It will be well worth your writing project as you push through your goal.
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Stop. Sharpen the saw. Then move ahead. What does it mean too sharpen the saw? The concept arose from celebrated Author Steven Covey who wrote the best selling book Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. He shared this story to clarify his point:
Suppose you were to come upon someone in the woods working feverishly to saw down a tree.
“What are you doing?” you ask.
“Can’t you see?” comes the impatient reply. “I’m sawing down this tree.”
“You look exhausted!” you exclaim. “How long have you been at it?”
“Over five hours,” he returns, “and I’m beat! This is hard work.”
“Well, why don’t you take a break for a few minutes and sharpen that saw?” you inquire. “I’m sure it would go a lot faster.”
“I don’t have time to sharpen the saw,” the man says emphatically. “I’m too busy sawing!”
So the concept to sharpen the saw highlights the point that when you have been going, going, going, and going …and you can’t seem to see any results. Acknowledge that it’s time to stop. It’s time to refresh. It’s time for a break to get the rest you need to start thinking so you can be productive again.
So stop. Sharpen the saw. So you can move ahead.