The Rear View…

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You do not move ahead by constantly looking in the rear view mirror. The past is a rudder to guide you, not an anchor to drag you. We must learn from the past, but not live in the past. ~Warren W. Wiersbe

Stop looking in the rear view mirror. That’s what the instructor would Insist when I was learning to drive many years ago. My goal was to look back to ensure I’m prepared for those crazies when they get too close to avoid being rear-ended. Good thinking? Hmm… not sure.

But now as I get older, I apply the same principle to life. If we constantly look back at the past getting angry at those who did us wrong, or constantly remembering past mistakes, we will never be able to focus.

I am a firm believer in looking back periodically whether its monthly, quarterly, or annually to assess changes for goals and to keep track of plans ahead. However, it’s important to Simplify  and focus. Only with focus and direct steps will we be able to achieve our goals, dreams, and aspirations.

Today, take the time to reflect on your life’s goals. Whether you are an entrepreneur, writer, career enthusiast, or other, reflect on how you deviated in the past.  Then learn from it. Put it aside and steer towards the finish line. Be a distance runner. Pace yourself then head towards the finish line. You will make it at the right time with steady speed, resilience, and concentration.

Cheers!

3 Directions. Which One Are You?

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Do What you Can with What you have, Where you are.  ~Theodore Roosevelt

~Melanie is at a crossroads in life. She graduated college, got a job and has been working ‘just because‘.

~David has worked as a senior manager for over 10 years but over the past three years he has been dreaming of more. His sense of purpose has been lost. He feels he is drifting.

~It’s been 4 years since Carol lost her job due to restructuring. Since then she has worked odd jobs, has big dreams but through fear hesitates to take the step to Enroll to accomplish her goals.

~Mark dreamed of his passion. Took the steps to achieve and now enjoys the benefits of his entrepreneurial ventures. Still he seeks more ways to learn, develop his skills, and grow.

We have all been there. Life’s crossroads beckons times of reflection pushing us to search deep within our souls to find out if there’s more to life. We ponder about the next step. Where should we go? What should we do? How should we do it? or should we do it at all? John Maxwell speaks about the 3 kinds of people when it comes to Viable directions in life. These are:

3 Kinds of People in Pursuit of Goals

1.People Who Don’t Know what they would like to do.

These people are confused. They dabble, drift, with no sense of direction. If they grow, it is without focus.

2. People who Know what they would like to do but Don’t do it

These people are Profusely frustrated. They worry, they fear. They want to step out but are afraid they won’t be able to take care of their responsibilities. Sometimes they are not willing to pay the price to learn, grow, and move closer to their dream. Sadly, these people also miss out on reaching their potential.

3. People who know what they would like to do and do it.

These people are fulfilled. They possess a strong sense of passion, they achieve their purpose, they grow, they learn, they develop. As they strive for more we Chuckle thinking they are perfect but they know better as they seek continuous development.

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This was previously shared but it’s now time for a revisit. Look back on the list, which type resonates with you? Consider. Reflect. Share. Puzzled and need help? Let’s connect.

Cheers!

How They Started…Writers Tell…

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Ever wanted to write? Ever wondered how other writers got started? What’s their Funnel? We are intrigued by writing veterans the likes of Stephen King, and countless others. Many wannabe writers are scared to take the leap. So it was with a breath of fresh air that the writing tips asked the question about how writers got started. Intrigued, I dug deeply. Here I share excerpts of some of their thoughts.

I Write Because….

  • I hid in my words starting at 10 to hide from the pain
  • My cousin said that I looked like someone who writes poetry. So I gave it a try, and fell in love with it.
  • I always loved reading and wanted to create stories. Then my parents took me to see the dolphins when I was 8 or 9 years old, and I wrote my first story about this adventure. After this I feel in love with writing because sometimes the stories we create or even just a part  of them can become true.
  • I was 5 years old and wrote about a superhero
  • I didn’t want to do my math homework but still wanted to look like I was being productive, and that’s how I’ve written about two books.
  • I had a dream and wanted to make a story out of it
  • I can’t remember a time I haven’t been writing! Before I could write I drew the pictures and told my parents what to write
  • What really pushed me into writing other than school assignment was role-playing
  • When I was younger I had a speech impediment the only way I could truly talk was through writing. Still to this day I write better than I can talk.
  • My baby sitter wrote stories about the group of kids from our neighborhood who were superheroes. I loved listening to her read them, my love of reading and writing was born, I was 3-4 years old
  • My siblings and I used to create the most intricate imaginary games. As I got older, I began wanting to write them down. I haven’t stopped.
  • A sixth grade narrative assignment. Upon handing it back, my teacher said I had talent and could make it as a writer. I was speechless.
  • So I could be right-brained in school while looking like I’m working on my assignments
  • I started when I was mentally at a shitty place and needed an outlet to how I was feeling. Writing became my therapy. It healed me.

Are you a writer? Let’s hear how you got started.

Cheers!

5 Things To Give Up For The Love Of Success…

Renowned author Arianna Huffington announced her top 13 Things To Give Up for success. From her list, I’ve selected my top 5. Here I share:

  1. Give up on playing it Small
  2. Give up on Excuses
  3. Give up on Perfectionism  
  4. Give up on saying YES to things that don’t support your goals
  5. Give up on Toxic People

So those are mine, what’s yours? My intention is to set up an Allergic reaction every time I deviate to keep me on track. Accountability partner, I know you’ve got my back.

Remember to be successful in life you must be willing to do more, think more, and go beyond the call of duty.

Cheers!

The Best, Only The Best …

behind the scenes work has been evident on famed and beautiful celebrities the likes of Serena Williams, BET’s Deborah Lee, Olympic Athlete Usain Bolt, Artists like Neo and…

Life….only the best is good enough. Nordia of Ffaceit Beauty and Makeup, is my niece. She has always been fascinated with beauty. After high school she embarked on a career path climbing higher and higher. Her craft and behind the scenes work has been evident on famed and beautiful celebrities the likes of Serena Williams, BET’s Deborah Lee, Olympic Athlete Usain Bolt, Artists like Neo, Music videos, TV series, and more.

Her dream and Proclivity took her to Cherished heights, and she’s still climbing.

As we approach the New Year, What’s your dream? Take some time this week to identify at least 3 goals and plan the for Steps to achieve in 2018.

As a bonus, add a plan to improve your personal development next year. We are never too old to learn. So include reading which expands the mind across the globe.

Already made plans for your goal? Do share!

Cheers!

No Doubt You Can Relate To This…

CNN Headline News revealed the list of the top 4 most annoying words from a study done.

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.

Remember the saying sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me? Not true. Words do hurt, sometimes even more than physical pain.

CNN Headline News revealed the list of the top 4 most annoying words from a study done.

Top 4 Most Annoying Words

1. Whatever

2. Fake news

3. No offense

4. Literally

5. You know what I mean

When someone says ‘whatever‘ it means they are dismissing you or whatever you have said, and they can’t be bothered.

Whenever they say “no offense” it means they are about to offend you.

It’s often said “don’t take this literally”.  Chances are… it is literal (smile).

“You know what I mean”… most often we don’t know what they mean

So if you can Relate and  find yourself saying these words or some others, remember they hurt. Resolve to think before you speak (you know what I mean, right)? Hey no pun intended (smile).

Cheers!

Writers Share The Joy and Challenges of Writing…

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Oh the joy of publishing! But before, there are the challenges.  If you’re a writer, no doubt you can Relate. Here I share a few succint Compass tales that writers tell about their perspective of the joys and challenges associated with writing.

The Challenges of Writing

  1. Finding the Time and space to write with Peace and Quiet in tuned
  2. The laments of writers Block
  3. Deciding what to write
  4. The importance of Quality writing output
  5. The pain of rejection

The Joy of Writing

  1. Most enjoyable feeling when published. Words such as elated, satisfied, accomplished were voiced
  2. If a physical book published, a feeling of Bliss when the first printed copy is received and held
  3. The Achievement of set goals
  4. The ability to make a difference in the lives of others

Advice to New Writers

More to come but in the interim, read more on the 9 Steps to writing. Also write, just write . 

Let the New Year find you with a new resolve to write, just write.

Cheers!

What Are You Afraid to Do?

Sometimes you have to step out to do the things you have always wanted to do.

I love watching HGTVs Fixer Upper! Oh the transformations! Now we are sad to hear that come next year this husband and wife team will no longer be on the series. They decided to move on to something new and exciting!

In the same way, artists in the entertainment industry have over time made the decision to step out. To forget the Fluff. To move on. Names such as Michael Jackson, Beyoncé and more, come to mind.

Making decisions to change, to do something new is always scary. But if we never step out into the unknown to do what we Prefer, we will never know the level of success we can attain. And oh…if we fail…at least we would have experienced something new, something different. Oh that we’ll be braver next time!

What are you afraid to do? Challenge yourself …even when you’re afraid.

Cheers!

21: Orange Cautions The Right Of Passage…

Growing up in the Caribbean, I was never as exposed to the flair of turning 21. In the United States it’s like a right of passage. On campus students receive bottles of liquor to celebrate as if to say ”I’ve made it! I’m grown! I’m finally 21!”

Years ago, an intern that was working with my organization so happened to have turned 21 while on the job. For him it was amazing! He drank the night away! Then to make sure he was still perceived as “responsible”, he slept the rest of the hours in the parking lot to be able to report on time at 8:00 am!

Caution

But be careful. Orange means caution. How many young adults have reached the age and realized it’s just a number? Oh yes they are now able to go to a night club without being barred from entering. Yes, they are now officially considered an adult! Yes they are able to get that driver’s license that reflects adulthood! Yes they’re able to this, or that.

But be cautious lest these things distract from your goal. Age is just a number. Make sure the things that you do… not distract from what’s important in the long-term.

The same goes for any celebration such as that bachelor/bachelorette party when getting married. It’s as though we’re saying we are giving up the past and essentially ‘freedom’.  Therefore men and women rush out the night, or the week before, for one last brouhaha!

Caution. Pause, reflect. Will it be worth your long-term goals if things go awry? What do you Prefer?

Something to think about.

Cheers!

What Does It Take To Be A Good Writer?

Don’t Waste Time Trying to Please People. -Stephen King.

Wanting to do their best work, new writers are naturally anxious. They ask questions. They probe. They Gorge. They sweat. It’s hoped they sweat while writing and not about how to start. Stephen King in his memoir titled “On Writing” stressed don’t waste time trying to please people. Indeed this is applicable in many situations as individuals attempt to develop their own Identity.

In a public authors forum, the question was asked “What does it take to be a good writer?” Writers chimed in. Here I share a few of their responses.

Writers…On Writing

  • Read a lot. Write, write a lot
  • Patience and Perseverance
  • Finding the connection between your soul and your writing hand. It will require a number of disciplines like grammar, voice, tense and genre. But the key is opening your spirit to the process. Make your writing not a craft, but an empowered purpose in your life.
  • An empathetic love of both stories and storytelling
  • To keep writing
  • Write something. Publish it. Learn from mistakes. Grow
  • A unique voice telling an untold story that everyone wants to hear
  • Passion, and drive, as well as supportive people in your life
  • Persistence, then creativity, then literacy, finally intelligence
  • Vision, creativity, persistence, stubbornness, patience, a thick skin
  • Natural ability
  • Practice, practice, practice, and more practice
  • Honesty, passion, and courage
  • A moment alone. A moment alone is where it starts
  • Willingness to receive critical feedback
  • Time, focus, imagination
  • Personal passion, self-confidence, resilience to get it done, and never give up
  • A good editor
  • Tenacity
  • Life experiences and a love for it. Put your heart and soul in it
  • The ‘write’ attitude
  • Learn, then learn more. Accept first that you always need to grow
  • Finish even when you hate it. Even when you don’t want to. Even when you’re uninspired.

Rather Interesting thoughts from authors. Can you add any? Is there any that you would omit? Do share.

Want to plan your writing goals? Join us as we retreat.

Cheers!