What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do…

clearing your mind of the dissonance so common to times of transition.

Years ago I bought a book titled What to do when you don’t Know What to do. I was going through a period of transition. I didn’t know what to do, or where to go. I wandered into a bookstore and started searching for something…anything. After browsing for about an hour, I saw that title and it spoke to me. Without thinking I bought the book.

Another time I was at the airport traveling on business and needed something to read. Then I saw it …a book titled Sometimes you Win, Sometimes you  Learn by John Maxwell. Another travel search – God Will Make a Way. Sometimes just reading the title draws me in and makes me buy the book. I have learned that books speak to us as though it were divine intervention, Lovingly shouting” here I am, buy me”! So writers, write on! Even your titles sell books!

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Times of Transition

In essence, whenever you’re going through stuff…be it on the job, in your business, relationship, friends or family that causes you to Tremble, go to your quiet place and whisper. The silence will draw you into that place where you can experience quiet, loving solitude and inner peace. If time away does not help, then speak with a coach, or a professional who can assist you with clearing your mind of the dissonance so common to times of transition.


4 Barriers To Change…

We don’t know what lies ahead and that causes fear, apprehension and dissent

Change. It hurts.

Change hurts and that’s the reason so many hate it. Some change is good. Some bad.  The news report of the Boston Marathon bombing was just terribly awful news. It caused pain, anarchy, sadness and fear. It changed lives in many, many ways. The scars are borne by those who were present, and those miles away at a distance.

Arising from that terrible tragedy where people died, hundreds were injured and some maimed, there were good news. Some of which included the resilience of many survivors, inspirational stories, and more. However, two stories stand out. One pertains to the return of dancer Adrianne Haslet-Davis who recently returned to the stage on prosthetic leg. The other illuminates Roseann Sdoia now engaged to wed the fireman who saved her. Certainly stories of love’s triumph over tragedy or dare I say in spite of.

So how do we get the courage to face the ugly face of change when it hits like a ton of bricks right in the face? How do we get the strength to go on…to fight…to survive? Here are some barriers that impede our desire to change.

4 Barriers to Change

1.Fear of the Unknown. We don’t know what lies ahead and that causes fear, apprehension and dissent that sometimes retards our ability to move ahead or even causes us to get stuck.

  • Solution:  Face your fear. Make the move. Act in spite of fear.

2.Power Struggle. Power especially in organizations or personal relationships creates struggles that ignites disharmony because of threats and resistance. Some people can be physically intimidating, highly vocal or difficult to deal with. This can be because of their position as in management, stature as in a bully, or financial acumen as in being the main bread-winner in a family.

  • Solution: Understand position whether it’s in the organization or in relationship. Understand each individual’s place in the situation. All are important.

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3.Communication. Lack of communication or trust. Communicating disrespectfully creates barriers.

  • Solution: Be open. Encourage open respectful discussion. Share what’s happening on both sides and most important…listen. This will help with breaking the barriers to communication and build trust.

4.Trust.  Why Change? What is the rationale? Why is it necessary? Do you stay in the situation? Will fighting and resisting help?  In most instances not at all.

  • Solution. Stop fighting. Face the situation. Try to understand what is happening around you and try to do something about it. If it is something that you can help, then do it. If not, find someone more experienced that can help you with the change as in the case of unexpected job loss, change in business, finances, or relationship.

It’s a Process 

Recognize that change is a process. It takes time. But with effort, determination and the desire to overcome, you can do it. So be bold. Remain steadfast. Thrive and you will survive the wind of change in time.

Goals: 5 Ways to Achieve…

Be bold. Be Different.

A goal is the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result

Dreams, goals, aspirations. We all have them. We plan, we pray, we struggle, we wander. At times things seem Overwhelming. But as we focus our efforts and ambitions on our desired results, here are 5 Key Learning Nuggets to guide our strides to achieve.

5 Ways to Achieve Goals

1)Focus. Know where you want to go and what you want to achieve. It will happen even when faced with difficulties.

2)Have a plan. Work that plan.

3)Be Alert. Keep your eyes on the goal

4)Be Unconventional. Go against the odds. Not because many have done things in a particular way means you should follow. Be bold. Be Different.
5)Surround yourself with capable people who are going in the same direction.


A word of caution. As you get ready to follow these strategies… remember your VALUES. These play an important role in goal achievement. Afterall you don’t want to win against all odds …do you?

Goals–it’s Clean and clear…go get ’em!


The Trails of Success…

the entrepreneurial climb, the treks of academic acclaim, the beauty of a loving family, the longing of a beautiful relationship, or the Scent of music divine.


Trails of success.

For those who have achieved there is always a trail. Be it in the entrepreneurial climb, the treks of academic acclaim, the beauty of a loving family, the longing of a beautiful relationship, or the Scent of music divine.

Indeed Success does leave a trail. Retreat, step back, cease the moment. Time silently tugs. Hypothetical, real or imagined…. the journey’s path inspires serene connection.

Replace your doubts with confidence. Work hard, climb, cry if you must but don’t give up. It will be worth it when you look back at its Replacement all divinely satisfied.


The Color Yellow…

The color Yellow enhances vision, builds confidence

Beautiful, serene, inviting. The color yellow represents youth, fun, sunshine, optimism, and other happy feelings. On the other hand it also means jealousy, cowardice, and deceit.

The color Yellow activates memory, encourages communication, enhances vision, builds confidence, and stimulates the nervous system. Through its bright effect, the color yellow calls attention and when combined with black illuminates readability from distances. Hence its use on school buses, traffic signs, and more.

The color yellow tugs at the heart depicting welcome home to loved ones afar.

So today if you’re feeling blue as an entrepreneur, lack of growth at a career endeavor, of if you are at a transition point in your life, stand tall. Focus on the positive. Talk with a friend or coach. Believing for the best encourages us to achieve our goals, dreams, and aspirations. It’s that Automatic.


And Along Came Success…

I pounced upon the study of Success by accident



I pounced upon the study of Success by accident. I did so through pondering why some people succeed while others don’t. Then I took it a step further and delved deeper selecting it for my dissertation research on Successful leaders. My aim was to share it with those who seem to be living without hope.

That said, success is no Oversight. It is a result of hard work and dedication. Below I have selected 12 Quotes that provide some Exposure and motivation for those of us who dare to take the steps to succeed.

12 Success Quotes

1.Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful. –Mark Victor Hansen

2.Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. – Mark Twain

3.There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try… and those who are afraid you will succeed.
– Ray Goforth

4.Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.
– Napoleon Hill

5.You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
– Dale Carnegie

6.Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
– Arthur Ashe

7.Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success. – Napoleon Hill

8.Success comes in cans; failure in can’ts.
– Unknown

9.The best way to succeed in this world is to act on the advice you give to others.
– Unknown

10.You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.
– Martin Luther King, Jr

11. A year from now you may wish you had started today– Karen Lamb

12.To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children… to leave the world a better place… to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Life: Marathons Unseen…

Life’s uncertainties at times leave us baffled–often as if in a maze with no way out. The Unseen provides periods of confusion, apprehension, and fear.

A Marathon is a long-lasting or difficult task or operation of a specified kind

Life’s uncertainties at times leave us baffled–often as if in a maze with no way out. The Unseen provides periods of confusion, apprehension, and fear. It seems we are running a Marathon–a race that never seems to end.

But it’s at those times that our strength and character is built. If we hold on and never give up, we discover things about ourselves we never knew existed. With renewed zeal we embrace our inner desires to go on. To achieve even more goals, dreams and aspirations far beyond measure.

Today if you feel exhausted, take a break. Talk to someone. Find a Coach. But whatever you do, don’t ever give up. The light will break through at the end of the tunnel.

Keep the faith. Keep going.


Someday I’ll …

Someday I’ll do this. Someday I’ll do that.

How many of us often sit or live at the ‘wishing well’ that someday I’ll do this, or that. Someday I’ll get that perfect body. I’ll have that perfect house, job, spouse, marriage with the perfect kids; go on that dream vacation, and much more! Oh if wishes were horses so many would ride.

Someday is Today

Why not let someday be today. I reflect on the movie Hidden Figures where each of the three women at NASA — Katherine Johnson, Dorothy Vaughan, and Mary Jackson served as the brains behind one of the greatest operations in history: the launch of astronaut John Glenn into space.

The inaugural team at NASA decided to step out and do something that was never done before. From the astronaut, NASA’s president, the judge, and naturally the women. They all stepped out and did something different. And guess what? It worked! Their efforts changed the world (well outer space– orbit)!

Start Here. Start Now

Why not let your someday be today? Start here, start now. Step out. Go do that thing that you’ve always dreamed of. Become an entrepreneur! Write that book! Enrol in that course! Start that blog! Take that vacation! Leave that stressful job! You are Capable. You never know what’s out there unless you try.

May your someday be today.


Infinite Possibilities…

Your Possibilities are endless. Don’t confine yourself. Step out and by faith you will accomplish what you will today.

Your Possibilities are endless. Don’t confine yourself. Step out and by faith, with effort, you will accomplish what you will today.

Dream it. Work it. Do it. Infinite possibilities ahead.