Spooky Leadership: 3 Frights That Haunt the Workplace (and How to Fix Them) …

Spooky Leadership

Do one thing everyday that scares you.

As the spooky season approaches, it’s not just ghosts and goblins giving people chills. Sometimes leadership habits can be downright spooky!

1. The Invisible Leader

Disappears when the team needs them most. No feedback, no presence, just crickets.

FIX: Show up. Visibility builds trust. A simple check-in can turn uncertainty into motivation.

2.The Zombie Communicator

Repeats the same messages with no real emotion or connection. Team meetings feel lifeless.

FIX: Revive communication! Be intentional, listen actively, and personalize your message.

3.The Vampire of Ideas

Sucks up all the credit and leaves others drained. Recognition? Nowhere in sight.

FIX: Share the spotlight. Empower your team and celebrate contributions publicly.

This season, take a moment to unmask your leadership style. Make sure you are not the one haunting your workplace and if you are, let’s connect to clear the spookiness.

Are there thoughts you would like to add? Do share. We would love to hear.

Cheers!

The Power of Paying It Forward in Leadership

Pay it Forward

If you can’t pay it back, pay it forward. ~Catherine Ryan Hyde

Standing in line at the cashier, I decided to pay with the cash I had on hand. The amount came to the exact dollar amount in my wallet, except it needed thirteen cents more. I rummaged through my handbag to cover the difference. The woman behind me said, “Hey, I’ll get it for you.”

Instead of accepting her offer, I searched frantically for the coins, only to remember that I keep my change in the car. She repeated gently, “I’ll get it.” I insisted that I would pay her back when we got outside. She simply replied, “Pay it forward.” Immediately, I understood and promised I would.

I left the store, found the coins in my car, and was about to give her a quarter as she exited. Then I was reminded of her words about paying it forward. I took a deep breath, sighed, and drove away.

How many times has this happened to me? I genuinely like to give but am always hesitant to receive. As I coach my clients, I recognize it’s important to do both—give generously and also be willing to accept graciously in return. One friend once countered my reluctance by saying, “Don’t stop my blessings.”

Leaders Struggle

This simple exchange reveals a profound leadership lesson about the grace of receiving. Many leaders struggle with accepting help, viewing it as weakness or loss of control. However, graceful receiving is actually a powerful leadership skill that creates deeper connections and empowers others.

When we refuse help, we inadvertently rob others of the joy of giving and contributing. We also model unhealthy self-reliance that can isolate us from our teams and communities. The most effective leaders understand that accepting assistance with gratitude creates a culture of mutual support and reciprocity.

Consider this: Every time someone offers to help you—whether it’s covering thirteen cents, sharing an idea, or taking on a task—they’re extending trust and care. Your gracious acceptance validates their value and strengthens the relationship.

Challenge yourself this week to practice receiving with the same intentionality you bring to giving. Say “thank you” instead of “you didn’t have to.” Accept compliments without deflecting. Allow others to contribute to your success. Remember, true leadership isn’t about having all the answers or resources—it’s about creating an environment where everyone can contribute their gifts, including to you.

Pay it forward, yes. But first, allow yourself to receive what’s being offered.

How to Answer ‘Why Did You Leave Your Previous Employer’?

“Change is not a threat, it’s an opportunity. Survival is not the goal,  transformative success is.” — Seth Godin 

I was asked the question how do I respond when asked “why did I leave my previous employer.” I decided to share the response through this scenario.

John’s longtime supervisor transferred to another region, leaving him under new management. Unfortunately, the transition wasn’t smooth—his new supervisor was inexperienced, and their working styles didn’t align. Before long, John was placed on a performance plan with reasons that weren’t clearly defined.

As the situation unfolded, John was given the option to either continue under the plan or move on. After thoughtful consideration and advice from trusted mentors, he chose to resign.

While the experience was challenging, John views it as a turning point. It clarified the kind of environment in which he does his best work—one with clear expectations, collaborative leadership, and mutual respect.

Why did you leave your previous employer?

In interviews, the inevitable “Why did you leave?” question can be answered truthfully yet professionally. In John’s case, he felt overwhelmed and contacted his coach to identify how to appropriately respond. The focus should be on what he learned and how he’s now positioned to contribute more effectively in a role that aligns with his strengths.

Stay Truthful Without Oversharing

How someone frames their exit can make a huge difference in how a future employer perceives them. If an employee was asked to resign, the goal is to stay truthful without oversharing, keep it professional, and pivot the conversation back to strengths and fit.

Here are some ways they can respond depending on the situation:

1. Frame It as a Mutual Decision

  • “The role turned out not to be the best fit for my strengths and career goals. After discussions with leadership, we mutually agreed it would be best for me to move on.”
    This works well if they don’t want to sound negative or defensive.

2. Emphasize Reorganization / Role Misalignment

  • “The company was restructuring, and my role was impacted. While I gained valuable experience, it was the right time to look for opportunities better aligned with my skills.”
    Neutralizes blame and shows adaptability.

3. Focus on Growth & Future

  • “I realized that the position wasn’t the right long-term fit. I decided to transition out so I could pursue opportunities where I can contribute at a higher level.”
    Reframes the resignation as intentional rather than forced.

4. Highlight Lessons Learned

  • “That experience taught me a lot about [communication, leadership, project management, etc.]. I’m now looking forward to applying those lessons in a new environment where I can thrive.”
    Shows maturity, resilience, and a forward-looking attitude.

5. Keep It Brief & Positive

If pressed further:

  • “I’d prefer to focus on the value I can bring to this role. I’m confident the skills I developed will be an asset here.”
    Avoids being dragged into negativity or long explanations.

Avoid:

  • Speaking negatively about the past employer.
  • Using words like “fired,” “forced,” or “terminated” unless directly asked (then explain calmly and factually).
  • Sounding evasive—short, honest, positive answers work best.

If you are in this situation, we hope this helps as a brief guide on how to handle the situation as you transition into new role.

On the other hand, have you ever experienced a case like this? How did you handle this rather sensitive career journey? Do share, we would love to hear.

Empowering Quotes for Entrepreneurs: Fuel Your Journey

Start by doing what’s necessary l; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you’re doing the impossible. ~St. Francis of Assisi

Starting something new takes courage. Whether it’s launching a business, chasing a career dream, or stepping into the unknown, the journey can feel exciting—but also overwhelming. Fear, doubt, and challenges often show up uninvited, tempting us to give up before we’ve even begun.

That’s exactly why I created my newest book, 101+ Empowering Quotes for New Entrepreneurs.

This isn’t just another quote collection. It’s a daily dose of encouragement designed to remind you that setbacks are temporary, obstacles are stepping stones, and success is possible when you keep moving forward.

Why This Book Matters

Every entrepreneur and dreamer knows the reality: there will be days when you question yourself. This book is here for those exact moments—when you need that spark to reignite your drive.

Inside, you’ll discover:
✨ Quotes that challenge fear and fuel confidence
✨ Encouragement to push through hard days and keep showing up
✨ Wisdom from timeless voices that inspire resilience and growth

Whether you’re building a business, pursuing a new career path, or simply in need of a reminder to keep going, these words of encouragement will meet you where you are.

Pre-Order Your Copy Now

101+ Empowering Quotes for New Entrepreneurs will be available September 29, but you can pre-order your copy now!

Here’s how you can support and spread empowerment:

  1. Order your copy today and be among the first to receive it.
  2. Leave a review once you’ve read it—your feedback encourages others to join the journey.
  3. Gift a copy (or two!) to the entrepreneurs, creators, and go-getters in your life who could use a reminder that giving up is never an option.

Final Thoughts

Dreams are built one step at a time. Challenges are part of the process. And sometimes, all you need is the right word at the right time to keep moving forward.

This book is that reminder.

Don’t wait—101+ Empowering Quotes for New Entrepreneurs now. Join me in fueling a movement of empowered entrepreneurs who choose courage over fear and persistence over giving up.

I Write Because….

I now write with that sense of urgency to get what’s inside of me ….I write because I have learned from the mistakes and mishaps of others.

I Write Because….

6 Thinking Traps Holding You Back

You can’t grow without letting go. ~Unknown

Gaps in your thinking traps your personal, business, or career Growth.  Here are 6 reasons.

6 Reasons Your Thinking Traps Your Growth

  • The Knowledge Gap: I don’t know how to grow
  • The timing Gap: It’s not the Right time
  • The Mistake Gap: I’m afraid of making mistakes
  • The Perfectionist Gap: I have to find the best way before I start
  • The lack of Inspiration Gap: I don’t feel like doing it
  • The Comparison Gap: Others are better than me

Which one, two or more do you identify with? Think about it and share. We can’t wait to hear.

Cheers!  

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August Birthday Celebration: Gifts of Personal Growth

Growth is the best gift you can give yourself

August birth month celebration because Growth is the best gift you can give yourself. August is my birth month – and that means YOU get the presents! Whether you’re a past client, a friend, or someone ready to take your next big step, here’s how you can join the celebration.

That Wretched Performance Improvement Plan As Leadership Changes

THAT WRETCHED PERFORMANCE IMPROVEMENT PLAN

It’s a devil. I tell you it’s the devil! You work hard. Achieve great results and are applauded for your contribution.

Then a change in leadership! Things go haywire. Goals are thwarted. Messages are confusing. Leaders don’t explain. Midst the changes, the transition in process becomes the focus backed by mixed signals.

Then comes the inevitable performance drop. A lack of clarity, missed communication. Performance improvement plan rears its ugly head. A strong performer, an all star becomes the targeted.

Where did things go wrong?

Ever experienced it? Let’s talk.

5 Leadership Lessons from Great Teachers

Dead Poets Society

Clarity builds trust and momentum

Summer is almost over and it’s time to make all those back-to-school plans. As we make those plans, lets pause for a minute. Think of a teacher or two who made a difference in your life. Personally, as I age, I think about those teaching experiences and the effect they had on my leadership journey. As I look back, I think of society’s great teachers like Erin Gruwell, Maria Montessori, and the fictional Mr. Keating (Dead Poets Society).

Here are 5 lessons leaders can learn from great teachers.

1.Clarity is Powerful

Teachers break down complex topics into simple, digestible pieces.
Leaders must do the same—clearly communicate vision, expectations, and feedback so everyone understands what success looks like.

Lesson: Say less, mean more. Clarity builds trust and momentum.

2. Patience Enables Progress

Teachers know learning takes time and that growth isn’t always linear.
Leaders should extend grace and patience during times of transition, failure, or new learning curves—whether with teams or themselves.

Lesson: Progress often looks like repetition before results.

3. Individual Strengths Matter

Great teachers recognize that not every student learns the same way.
Great leaders acknowledge that not every employee works, leads, or grows the same. They tailor support, roles, and recognition accordingly.

Lesson: Personalize your leadership to bring out the best in each person.

4. Structure Creates Freedom

Teachers use routines and structure to create a safe space for creativity and exploration.
Leaders who implement clear systems give their teams the confidence and autonomy to take initiative.

Lesson: Strong frameworks unlock innovative thinking.

5. Passion Inspires Performance

Teachers who genuinely care spark curiosity and motivation.
Leaders who lead with purpose, authenticity, and heart cultivate higher engagement and loyalty.

Lesson: When you model passion, people give their best

As school begins its opening session, the road becomes a task / lesson plan in and of itself. What are your thoughts on the top five lessons? Anything missing that you would like to add? Do share, we would love to hear.

Don’t forget to connect if you would like to discuss your own leadership growth journey.

Jamaica’s Port Royal, A Summer Must Visit

A Port Royal Tale

When most people think of Jamaica, they think of white sandy beaches and tons of fun in the sun. Yes indeed! It’s all that! And if you’ve never been, you should!

But the island is more than that. It’s filled with rich history. A land full of learning. Oh yes, Learning comes in different forms. To understand the future you have to look back.

To understand the future, you have to look back.

After Calabash Literary Festival, I visited Port Royal, the historical site tagging along with my girls. A visit I thought ‘boring’ but agreed to go. My older daughter wanted her boys to learn about the land of her birth.

Boy was I in for a surprise! The rich history that existed in that place was unfathomable. Now that I’m older, I was able to connect the dots. Here’s a brief overview.

Canons and Pirates

Initially inhabited by Pirates, canons were evident everywhere. Captain’s quarters provided full length windows showing 360-degree visuals of views from the Caribbean Sea. This was a way to prepare for potential battle while enhancing supervision from all corners.

Giddy House

Giddy House was named for the feeling visitors get when they try to stand straight inside. It was an artillery house that stored defense items. Giddy house was struck by an earthquake in 1907 and partially sank.

Trees And Secret Spots

Hundred-year-old trees provided way more than shelter. Their magnificence can’t be missed.

Secret spots were noticeable everywhere. All conducive to the life of a pirate to protect, attack, and surprise.

Earthquake’s Effects

Sadly, Port Royal suffered the major earthquake. A natural disaster that sunk the area leaving remnants of what once was.

The sea’s backdrop midst the sun’s heat, was nothing compared to the learning gleaned. Our family walked away with rich learning of stories told and untold.

Fish Sealed Experience

A sumptuous meal of fish and festival at nearby restaurant sealed the simple yet remarkable experience.

Plan a visit. I hear the area is now a point of renovated focus for the beautiful island of Jamaica.

Cheers!

5 Great Teachers—Real and Iconic—Who’ve Made a Lasting Impact

What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments but what is engraved in the lives of others

Pericles

Behind every great leader is a story of someone who taught them how to think, not what to think. Whether in classrooms, communities, or through powerful stories, teachers like Anne Sullivan, Jaime Escalante, Erin Gruwell, Maria Montessori, and even the fictional Mr. Keating from Dead Poets Society have left lasting legacies. They did not just impart knowledge, but they also unlocked human potential. Their bold approaches, deep empathy, and unwavering belief in those they taught offer rich leadership lessons for anyone seeking to inspire, elevate, and transform others.

1. Anne Sullivan – Teacher of Helen Keller

Why she matters: Sullivan’s unshakable belief in Helen’s potential shows the power of persistence, adaptive teaching, and emotional intelligence.

Leadership lesson: Believe in others, even when they can’t yet believe in themselves.

2. Jaime EscalanteMath Teacher, ‘Stand and Deliver

Why he matters: Taught AP Calculus in a struggling inner-city school, proving that high expectations and dedication can change lives.

Leadership lesson: Set the bar high and show people they can reach it.

3. Erin GruwellEnglish Teacher, “Freedom Writers”

  • Why she matters: Helped under-served students find their voices through journaling and literature.
  • Leadership lesson: Create a safe culture for expression and transformation.

4. Maria MontessoriFounder of the Montessori Method

Why she matters: Revolutionized education by emphasizing self-directed learning, observation, and individual strengths.

Leadership lesson: Foster autonomy and trust people to grow when given the right environment.

5. Mr. KeatingFictional Teacher, “Dead Poets Society”

Why he matters: Though fictional, Mr. Keating represents the kind of leader who challenges others to think differently, embrace risk, and “seize the day.”

Leadership lesson: Inspire people to think for themselves and lead with courage.

Which iconic teacher has made a lasting impression on you as a leader? Do share. We would love to hear.

Cheers!

What’s The Perfect Door Prize? 21 Gift Ideas for Networking Events That Shine

Show up. Let yourself be seen. ~Brene Brown

What’s a networking event without door prizes? Boring (smile). So, event organizers encourage gifts. They are a simple yet powerful way to boost engagement, excitement, and attendance at networking events. They create a sense of the anticipation and fun, making the event more memorable for participants. Door prizes also encourage people to arrive on time, stay longer, and interact more freely with others. Besides entertainment, they offer a subtle marketing opportunity for sponsors, hosts, or businesses to showcase their products or services in a positive light.

The PSL Business Club asked the question: What is the Perfect door prize to give away at networking events?” Members chimed in. Some suggested giving what you would like to receive. Others suggested giving away high-end gifts that will make you the talk of the event. Gift these over several periods and you’re sure to leave a lasting memory. Here I share key gift ideas extracted as members chimed in.

Gifts That Shine

  1. Wellness bundle energy drinks
  2. Journal, fun pen, small devotional or motivational card set
  3. Cute mugs which says “let’s connect over coffee”
  4. Pair a small gift care ($10-$15) with a handwritten note or business card enclosing a product sample
  5. Branded item that’s actually helpful
  6. Gift cards to local restaurants.
  7. Something useful like Coffee gift cards
  8. Wine or Vodka
  9. Dark chocolate and a gift card or voucher to try branded services
  10. Cool shirt
  11. Stanley or Yeti cup
  12. Gift baskets
  13. Branded swag bundle from the host company
  14. Branded items or one/two from local businesses or gift certificates
  15. Candy
  16. Homemade cookies
  17. Hand-painted items
  18. Chocolates from a chocolatier
  19. Beach accessories
  20. Fun items that’s non-business related
  21. Dot card… to make sharing information easier at networking event

High-End Gifts

Higher end gifts creates a lasting memory of your brand. Such gifts are:

  • Massage or Spa packages
  • Weekend getaway at hotel
  • Dinner for two at a high-end/classy restaurant
  • Tickets to a concert/play

There you have it! Here’s hoping it takes the guess work out of your gift giving when attending your next event.

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