How Can You Know What Your True Dreams Are?

When Dreams tug, let it flow.

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A dream is a cherished aspiration, ambition, or ideal.

How can you know what your true dreams are? That was the question a 22-year-old asked. An interesting question that has troubled hearts for centuries.

How Can You Know It’s a Dream?

It never goes away. It stays with you. You go to the left…it’s there. You go to the right…. it’s there. It never leaves until you confront it. Until you come face to face with it. Sometimes our dreams are so big they scare us. But that’s when we need to take a step back.

Let’s think of Steve Jobs. Everything we do now can be done through a little device – the cellphone. Be it text, talk, scroll, have sleepless nights because we’re too connected; talk with a doctor; device-in-hand, head down… we walk around as if in a trance. It all became a reality because of…

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Why Do You Do What You Do? Here’s How To Find Out…

What’s that one word that encourages you to do everything you do?

Evan Carmichael

Here are Questions Carmichael proposed to get you started to find your own One Word that will help define everything you do in life.

5 Core Questions To Ask Yourself

  1. What makes you happy?
  2. What connects your happiness?
  3. What trait do you hate?
  4. What’s your constant?
  5. Is this really who you are?

Limiting Beliefs

  1. It’s too Hard
  2. What do you think?
  3. Someone else is doing it
  4. It’s too Simple

Take a moment and find your one word. Trust me, you won’t regret it. Already know what drives you, do share, we would love to hear!

Cheers!

Goals. Every Move Must Be Strategic…

The essence of strategy is choosing what not to do.

Michael Porter

When I started Playing the Word game I usually just think of a word and simply moved. For me it was just to play my turn whether it was a solo game or playing with a family member. My purpose was to simply keep connected. However I found that my sister (though I know she loves me), played defensively. Every move she made was strategic. So I began doing the same. Losing cannot always be the end result. I began to play with the end in mind. I asked myself… what do I want to achieve? It turned out to be 1) learning or being exposed to new words which extended my vocabulary; 2) keep connected to my family virtually; and finally 3) to win. With those goals in mind, every move I now make was for a purpose. Not only did I want to remain connected, but I also wanted to win.

Every Move Is For A Purpose

As I reflected, I began applying this to life. How can we apply that same strategy to achieve our lifelong dreams and goals to make sense? How can we ensure that every decision we make impacts our desire to achieve? Is it career selection, job change, entrepreneurship endeavor, business investment, relationships or starting a family? How can we ensure every decision is strategic?

There have been many household names who made major business decisions to form a partnership such as the McDonald’s Fast Food chain, or as Steve Jobs did with Apple. It may even be as simple as keeping connected with our kids or elderly parents. Whatever we do, it should be for a purpose.

Think About It

My personal charge is for you to think about it. Think about every decision you make. Think about the little things. Think about the big things. How can each move you make in life lead to your desired goal?

Need help? Lets connect.

Cheers!

Top 34 Advice To Succeed…

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Share your best advice to Succeed…34 others did. None too Shallow

  1. I believe in you
  2. Study the Greats
  3. Never lie to yourself
  4. Be kind
  5. Trust no one
  6. Know Your worth
  7. Breathe. Now keep going
  8. Never Give up
  9. Worry less. Pray more
  10. Overthinking kills happiness
  11. Trust God’s timing
  12. Mind your own business
  13. Do what you want
  14. Change your mindset
  15. Pay it forward
  16. Just go for it
  17. With Faith anything’s possible
  18. Always Push Forward
  19. Let it go!
  20. Pain is temporary
  21. Just do you boo
  22. Always live on purpose
  23. Seize the opportunity
  24. Pay off your debt
  25. Dont settle for less
  26. Be your own boss
  27. Be you! Do you!
  28. It’s gonna be alright
  29. Stay away from negativity
  30. Life Goes on
  31. Never Settle
  32. Work hard. Be Patient
  33. Do it!
  34. Now it’s your turn

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Read. Write. 27 Things I Like…

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As I look over the circus of things I like, I realize that though I enjoy them and they bring me satisfaction, I find myself not doing them as much and in some cases at all. For over two decades I have been caught up in work, work, work. So this prompt helped me pull away and ponder the things I once enjoyed, or get to enjoy on a rare occasion.

But even as I finalize the list I realize that life’s not promised, so I intend to start doing the things I like and stop leaving them for …one day soon.

Watch The Waves By The Sea

That said, the things I like are:

    1. People watch
    2. Explore the world
    3. Simple things
    4. Enjoy a good laugh
    5. Acting | Participating in drama presentations
    6. Wearing a smile
    7. See people mentored achieve their best potential
    8. Watch movies
    9. Write, ponder, reflect
    10. Decorate the house
    11. Go…

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Strengthen The Writer In You…

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Strengthen the writer in you.

Xavier shouted “I’m starting to get lucky dad”. His father replied “no, you’re learning son”. Isn’t that the same with us? Like a child, we often think that we are getting lucky when it’s really our trial and error when climbing the ladder to our goals that makes us ‘lucky’.

Write. The Journey. The Learning

We improve our best efforts over time. It’s in no way luck. Try, try, and try again. In so doing we make marked improvements …often without even realizing. Let’s take for example a writer.

At first we find ourselves with writers block, sometimes caused by doubting whether we can get to the finish line. We ponder questions such as will I ever finish the blog? That book? How can I write a book when I cannot even write a page? We don’t realize that we get to the end result by first writing a sentence. Then a paragraph. Then 2 or 3 paragraphs until we get to a page. Before we know it, we have written a chapter. Then another, and another, until the book is complete.

Our writing craft improves as we progress. In time our muscles strengthen and before long we get compliments from others about our writing.

Stress is an Enabler

So all in all, we strengthen our best efforts over time. Acknowledge that stress is in fact an enabler. But know that the stress is lessened over time as we get constant practice. Then our confidence rises and we can confidently acknowledge that we are starting to get ‘lucky‘.

Happy Writing!

Cheers!

 

 

The Tale Of Travel As Things Reopen Amidst Corona. How They Protect Us…

“Any kind of crisis can be good. It wakes you up.” Ryan Reynolds

“When are you available to travel?” I was excited about the business opportunity but was apprehensive about traveling in the midst of the Pandemic. Two weeks later at the first sign of approval to reopen, I agreed to the visit. Questioned by many about my experience being among the first group of persons to travel as things slowly yet cautiously reopened, I decided to share my experience.

Traveling During A Crisis

Ground Travel

Uber anyone? Yep there’s Uber but that too came with it’s fair share of exposure so I got a ride to the airport.  Things changed. It was spooky. Being a big international airport, the number of persons traveling was noticeably low. No surprise here.

As I made my way to the departure lounge, most shops were closed. Customarily, I’d saunter to the bookstore to get a book that I’d customarily finish reading during my 3-hour flight. No such luck. The cemetery of closures spooked the air.

Boarding

As I approached the Gate to board, the announcement came in droves. Ladies and gentlemen we have made a few changes.

  • 6 Ft. apart as Social Distancing was required
  • Passengers were encouraged to get a meal or refreshment before embarking on flight as they have curtailed their in-flight services
  • Passengers were asked to scan their own boarding pass (self-explanatory indeed)

No choice but to follow the rules laid out. As I looked around, my own mask affixed, there were a few individuals wearing what I’d refer to as spacesuits. Their own way of taking extra precautions.  Others were adorned in masks of many colors with many showing their personality.  Yet there still remained a few whose faces were bare. The simple and obvious protection was missing.

In-flight

During our walk to board the aircraft we were constantly reminded about safe distancing and on entry were presented with a white-gift-bag, which later I discovered contained a small bottle of water and a tiny pack of cookies / assorted biscuits. A sign that no food would be served as flight attendants also attempted to protect themselves. Later it was pleasing to note that they did collect garbage.

As I sat down, I found two others passengers in the same row as me (a, b, c). I pondered the question… why would there be so many precautions taken as we boarded, yet it was a still a full flight. Luckily the young lady next to me decided to cover her face with her sweat shirt and went to sleep. This gave myself and the other passenger close by a sense of ‘semi-precaution’.

Hours later we landed and I disembarked and ran to my other flight with the same procedures being repeated. This time I was thrilled that I was able to move to another seat because there was room for true safe distancing.

 Off-boarding

After yet another 3-hour commute, I disembarked, received temperature check by security and made my way to pick up my car. Apprehensive about driving because I wasn’t sure of the precaution taken by the rental company. Not much to worry about as I was one of only two persons in the entire area. I picked up my car and armed with gloves and cleaning wipes, I wiped down the inside before driving away.

Hotel Stay During Pandemic

As I arrived at the hotel, I was greeted at the front desk with a letter stating services reduced. It read that my room was fully stocked and that I should leave garbage bins by the door to be emptied and returned in the mornings. Cleaning and in-room services were reduced, if any at all. I complied. No problem for me as I resigned myself to taking care of my room as I did at home for the next few days.

Things Are Different

By the time of my return trip, things were different. By then, masks were mandated to be worn throughout the airport and in-flight. Passengers became annoyed if they saw anyone with mask pulled down. Personally, I tried my best to snack and drink while wearing my mask. It became a true work of art (smile).

Looking back my trip was indeed memorable. As I reflect on the changes brought on by the pandemic and how businesses and society dealt with keeping a safe distance, I pray this will pass soon.

For me, my next trip might by a road trip to ensure true safe distancing. But for sure life goes on and we have to do what we can to survive.

Stay safe y’all.

37 Ways To Help You Build Trust And Credibility…

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Trust usually takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair. If you want to succeed, you need to be concerned with cultivating trust and credibility. ~Lolly Daskal

Of Daskal’s 99 Simple Things That Will Help Build Trust, here I share my top 37 Favs:

  1. Do the Right thing
  2. Say what you mean and mean what you say
  3. Show commitment
  4. Follow through on your promises
  5. Eliminate ambiguity
  6. Be yourself
  7. Care for the people around you
  8. Cultivate confidence
  9. Keep secrets (when others share them with you)
  10. Learn by listening
  11. Act in the best interest of others
  12. Be accessible
  13. Remember names
  14. Vulnerability is strength (let people see your human side)
  15. Under-promise (so you can over-deliver)
  16. Value differences
  17. Show empathy
  18. Acknowledge other people’s efforts
  19. Don’t take people for granted
  20. Share information
  21. Communicate effectively
  22. Don’t hide bad news
  23. Focus on delivering (actions that produce results)
  24. Perform small acts of kindness
  25. Inspire confidence in others
  26. Speak from the heart
  27. Don’t abuse privileges
  28. Give feedback
  29. Give credit
  30. Accept criticism
  31. Give without being asked
  32. Help people whenever you can
  33. Don’t try to be perfect (it doesn’t exist)
  34. Go above and beyond the call of duty
  35. Value long-term relationships not short-term connections
  36. See beyond yourself
  37. Make a difference

 

Trust is important to Success. Hope these tips will help build your personal growth as you strive to develop your own leadership abilities.

Cheers!

 

 

13 Things Will Happen When You Decide To Live Your Dream…

Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

When you decide to live your dream things will happen! You will start seeing the things everywhere! Notice when you decide to lose weight, you start seeing gyms, healthy food, people jogging etc., etc.? If you have decided to extend your family and become pregnant you start seeing a mother or a father holding a child? It just happens!  Benjamin Hardy shared the 31 things that happen when you decide to live your dreams . Of the 31, I liked 13. Here I share:

  1. You will see it everywhere
  2. You will have boundless energy fueled by purpose
  3. You will realize all your previous fears were unfounded allowing you to embrace future fears
  4. You will stop worrying about and anticipate the future
  5. You will progress quickly at anything you undertake
  6. People will enter your life to…

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Remote Work. Which Affects You The Most?

Remote Work comes with gains, benefits and challenges. Which affects you the most?

  • Collaboration and communication
  • Being in a different time zone
  • Loneliness
  • Distractions at home
  • Staying motivated
  • Vacation time
  • Reliable WiFi
  • Not being able to unplug

Do share. We would love to hear.

Cheers!

A Nod And A Smile Among The 4 New Ways That Replaced The Handshake…

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Is the traditional handshake a thing of the past? Has it been replaced by fear? Caution reigns with its mighty power. Yep, the worldwide Pandemic has infiltrated business and traditional code of ethics for greeting colleagues, business partners, interviewees and networking. But as things change we need to adapt. The Society of HR Managers (SHRM) shared its 7 Alternatives. When next we connect in person, it might be a nod and a smile ingrained in a touch of social distancing in the midst. Here I share my top 4 pulled from the SHRM list.

Handshake Alternatives

  1. Offer a Nod and a Smile
  2. Make a Good First impression … a pleasant wave will do
  3. Focus on eye contact
  4. Develop a workplace code (corporate cultural adjustment)

It’s the new normal. From the list above which do you intend to use? Do share. We would love to hear.

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Fear. Overcome It…

Play the fear game. That’s what we do. At the onslaught of a challenge, we become afraid. We binge-watch the issue in our minds over, and over, and over again.  We can’t sleep. We play the Fear game.

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Don’t Dwell On it.
My daughter text and said “Mommy, I‘m afraid”. I asked “what are you doing”? She replied “watching the news all day and social media. Now they’re talking about the effects of past hurricanes.”
Stop. Turn the TV off, or change the channel.
Aren’t we all like that? When we fear something challenging coming up, we become afraid. We binge-watch the issue in our minds over, and over, and over again.  We can’t sleep. We play the Fear game.
It might be nervousness for an impending interview, it might be a change in position and we feel ‘they’re going to find me out’. For sure they’ll discover that I’m a fraud….I can’t manage the work for the promotion.
It might even be that you’re getting married. The closer you get to the date, fear or anxiety sets in the midst…

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