personal-development – Page 48

What’s It Gonna Be?

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Even if you cannot change all the people around you, you can change the people you choose to be around. ~R.T. Bennett

What do you feel is important to deal with your professional and personal life? Some often focus on too many values. Others seem not to give it a second thought. But when someone crosses that line, some hurt and even become bitter, and suddenly values are exposed.

What Are Your 4 Core Values?

Damon Johns asked the question “what would you say are your four (4) core values?” Responses were similar yet varied:

Honesty
Empathy
Concern for the world
Family
God
Integrity
Character
Passion Results
Loyalty
Honor
Work ethic
Love
Confidence
Consistency
Quality Assurance
Reliability

21 Core Values from Leadership

Here is a list of values shared from leadership studies. Select your top 4 values to focus on. As James Clear reminded, if everything is a core value then nothing gets priority.

Authenticity
Achievement
Autonomy
Balance
Challenge
Creativity
curiosity
Determination
Faith
Humor
Leadership
Learning
Optimism
Openness
Peace
Recognition
Reputation
Service
Success
Trustworthy
Wisdom

Missing any? Don’t hesitate… add yours!

Cheers!

Job And Career: Is There A Difference?

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What is the difference between a job and a career? Is there a difference and if so, what is it? Are you looking for a job, career, or a calling? What is your goal? Here are a few definitions to guide your evaluation.

Work

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Work is defined as activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result.

Job

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A job is just about making money ….a paid position of regular employment. It is basically short term.

Career

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A career is feeling good about yourself as a sense of satisfaction …what you do… something that is your identity. A careeer is an occupation undertaken for a significant period of a person’s life and with opportunities for progress. Essentially, it is long-term.

Calling

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Your calling pertains to leaving your mark on the world…a strong urge toward a particular way of life.

Which of the above depicts you? Think about it. Is it a job, career, or a calling? Do share! We would love to hear!

Cheers!

Pondering The Crossroad…

You can’t cross the sea merely by standing and staring at the water.

I Was Failing From Success…

“I was suffering from success because I was winning but I myself was suffering for the win. I said, ‘this is what success is all about’? So instead of working hard I started working smart”. ~DJ Khaled

How many of us have been there. Workaholics we call it. Grinding away and end up suffering personally. We don’t take the time to relax and chill. Just do nothing, or play with kids, or our four-legged friends. DJ Khaled calls it “suffering for the win”.

The point is in our quest for Success, Balance is important. When we get there and there’s no joy, there’s no meaning. Find that balance.

Cheers!

Goals: Show. Don’t Tell…

Don’t tell them your goals and dreams. Show them.

The 3 Signs Your Friends And Loved Ones Keep You Stuck…

Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck where you do not belong. ~N.R. Nanyana Murthy

Many of us have been there. We have dreams, goals and aspirations. But we must share such desires with those closest to us to get their buy-in…and in some cases their approvals. But while we wait, it can create tension, sadness, and disappointment that causes us to become stuck. Stuck because what we want to do seems way beyond our scope of accessibility.

But there’s hope if we recognize the signs of how our loved ones and friends can hold us back from realizing our dreams.

3 Signs They Are Holding You Back

1.Their expectations

Your loved ones and friends can’t imagine you dong anything else. A colleague of mine spoke about having to convince his parents that he wanted to change careers and become an entrepreneur. He was hindered by them because they were proud of him being in his prestigious job that took care of his family. How could he walk away from that? How will they (his parents) introduce him to their friends? What’s this entrepreneurship endeavor… they asked.

2. Their Investment

Often our loved ones hinder us because they are invested in us and expect us to stay put. Are you the main breadwinner? Will you now be putting them at risk? Is it a co-worker whose job ties closely into your own? Who will they rely on if you walk away? How will they survive?

3. Envy

The worst case occurs when friends, family, or co-workers discourage your progress simply because they envy you. They want to step out themselves but have always been afraid. They don’t have the guts to do it, so they discourage you.

Today, may you find the courage to get up and do what you have always wanted to do. Step out. In some cases it might be necessary to ‘keep your mouth shut‘. Keep your plans to yourself. Then once you have put your plans in place and are ready to go, share your decision. You’ll be guaranteed of moving on to that exciting state where change thrills as you make the leap!

Cheers!

When Things Change…

Things Change …

When things change … when you’re thrown off life’s treadmill without notice, it knocks you off-balance. A friend was working with the same company for over 25 years and recently lost her balance when she was told that the job no longer existed. Though the writing was on the wall, when it happened it was like a sharp blow. Separation like death was strange. It was final.

I thought about how I could or should comfort her. But what could I say? What are the right words? Are there any right words? Questions, questions, questions.

As an HR practitioner working in the field for over 20 years I thought about what could I say to her. Here I share a few thoughts:

Rest

First, get some rest. It’s important to face the reality of the situation. After ‘grinding the mill’ for many, many years, it’s important to take some time out to relax.

Reflect

While relaxing, reflect on the next steps. What do you want to do? Why do you want to do it? Does the ‘why‘ provide an opportunity to make a change in career path? A change in location? A change in mindset? Begin with the end in mind. Where do you see yourself in the next chapter of your life? Picture yourself 5, 10, or more years down the road accomplishing your goal, then work backwards.

Make A Plan

Prep The Next Steps. Once you decide on where you want to go, make a plan. Prepare for the next steps. Do you have skills that you could sell to someone else as an entrepreneur? What about exploring a different area of work. Know that the novelty of a new career endeavor is exciting. Prep that plan. Write it down.

Step Out

Step out. Act. Act on the plan that you came up with. When you start acting on the plan, review it often…at regular intervals to ensure you stay on track.

So if you have been there, lost your job and remain disappointed, dejected, or even stuck, get with the plan today. Start acting. Talk with a professional coach if needed and get your life back in order. Need help? Lets connect.

Cheers!

Painful. Staying Stuck Somewhere You Don’t Belong…

Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere that you don’t belong. ~Goalcast

How Will You Know If You Have Never Tried?

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How will you know if you’ve never tried? That’s the question asked by Psychologist Dr. C. Watson. I couldn’t agree with her more. Too often we rationalize why things won’t work. But we will never know unless we try. At times we may look at the experiences of friends, colleagues, coworkers and even family members and use their experiences to judge our own.

Often we are even stuck in our fear of failure. But good things come to those who make the attempt.

Today I implore you to be bold. Step out. Try. Attempt to do the thing that you have always been afraid to do. Who knows? You may surprise yourself and accomplish great things!

Try it today!

Cheers to your success!

Do It. It’s That Simple…

“If you can imagine it, you can dream it. Dream it and you can become it.” – Walt Disney

For years Walt Disney’s quote…”If you can imagine it you can do it”, hung on my wall at home. I was able to see it every day. It stayed with me during all my dreams which became goals which later became reality. My studies, writings, books, and more, all became real because of my dreams.

Dreams Don’t Come Through by Themselves

But dreams don’t just come through by themselves. We have to plan, then work it. With hard work, dedication, persistence, and the will to achieve, they become real.

From a young age, my niece always wanted to do her best at making others beautiful. After graduating, she began working with a renowned makeup organization. She learnt from the best and with her innate desire for excellence, she has excelled and now makes celebrities beautiful for their appearance at major events. Indeed, she makes me proud to see her journey realized.

On the other hand, sometimes after we have achieved, we want to move on to other things. Some may be bigger; some may be smaller (as in downsizing). Others may be to let go, relax, and enjoy the little things.

Today, whatever your goal, be sure to know that you can achieve it with the imagination, and the will to see things come through.

Today, do you.

Cheers!