Think before you speak. Read before you think. ~ Fran Lebowitz
Here’s a list of INC’s 20 books Ted speakers think you should read this summer. From the list, below are my top 7 favs that I find intriguing.
4. Becoming by Michelle Obama
A dream is a cherished aspiration, ambition, or ideal.
How can you know what your true dreams are? That was the question a 22-year-old asked. An interesting question that has troubled hearts for centuries.
How Can You Know It’s a Dream?
It never goes away. It stays with you. You go to the left…it’s there. You go to the right…. it’s there. It never leaves until you confront it. Until you come face to face with it. Sometimes our dreams are so big they scare us. But that’s when we need to take a step back.
Let’s think of Steve Jobs. Everything we do now can be done through a little device – the cellphone. Be it text, talk, scroll, have sleepless nights because we’re too connected; talk with a doctor; device-in-hand, head down… we walk around as if in a trance. It all became a reality because of Job’s resilience. Steve’s dream was big! But he couldn’t accomplish it without taking a step back. That opportunity came when he was fired from the very company that he started. Depressed at first… he didn’t let it last long. He examined his dream….closer. Then voila! Things changed!
Same too with the biblical Joseph. He had a dream but it wasn’t clear. Then years later the vision became real. He was able to connect the dots. Later he was then able to walk in his purpose.
What To Do When You’re Not Sure About Your Dream
- Seek clarity in your quiet time.
- Talk to a mentor, coach or friend who’s got your best interest at heart.
- Be aware…track it
Some dreams are clear and concrete as in a career as a physician. There’s nothing to do but enroll on a course of studies. Follow the path; invest the time, study, graduate and start your practice. It’s the dreams like what Dr. Martin Luther King envisioned that baffles. It creates sleepless nights and can prove harmful. But still…it is a dream. A divine intent that only you can accomplish.
We all have dreams. But dreams take time. They should never be rushed. They need to be examined, nurtured, watered, then they will grow. Just like a new born. Growth takes time. Listen carefully. Go; follow your dream by taking it a-step-at-a-time.
Dreams will come through if we let them.
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Oh what a feeling! 🎶
My book GreenLight will be in-store! Yes Barnes & Noble, Plantation, FL.
Its the place You want to Go this Summer for books and reading. So go pick up a book or 2 to read as you relax this summer and while you’re there pick up a copy of my book GreenLight: When God says Go. With its short stories, It’s sure to inspire you or a friend.
Living in the past. Just looking in the Rear view mirror. What good does that do? It seems 5, 10, 15 years after leaving one of the best careers ever you end up just existing. Just stuck. Thinking about the big job that you had in the past. The relationship ended 5, 10, 15 years ago, yet you’re still holding on. Face it darling…it’s over. Stop reflecting. Stop pining way. It’s unhealthy.
It’s Time To Move On
It’s time to move on. It’s time to make a change. It’s time to forge full speed ahead. Start living. Start being who you would like to be. How do you do that? If you want a new career, then apply to jobs in that field. Something will rise up for you.
If you want to be an entrepreneur then do what you need to do. Do what it takes to get your business out there to let others know what product or service you are selling. If you don’t like what you’re doing now, make plans to stop. Set a date and stick to it. Stick to it no matter what.
Sometimes You Will Fail
Know that sometimes you will fail. Yes that happens. Life is a risk. You win some, you lose some. But it means you are trying. Just being stuck in the past is not going to help you to forge ahead so you must start doing something different. Start today. Just start doing something different today. Make a move. Stop resisting. Stop living in the past. Stop worrying about what was.
Stop worrying about what was.
Stop living in a wish list ….
Wish I was this, wish I was that
Wish I could do this
Wish I could that
Stop wishing and just do it
This Time Next Year
This time next year where do you hope to be? This time next year what would you like to see? To experience? This time next year what do you want to be doing? Take the steps so that this time next year you will be doing what you want to do … and you would be where you want to be. Seek the help of others if needed. Ask a friend who has your best interest at heart to hold you accountable. You could also enlist the services of a mentor or coach to be your guide. Now go out and do it. Get it done.
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A young Mom passed away after her dream of getting the right body back after having three children. Her own mom (kids’ grandmother) told how she worked 2 jobs for a year then finally had saved enough money. She scheduled and went to the surgery but unfortunately stopped breathing during the procedure.
The Right Focus
Make sure your goals are the right focused. Her three kids must now go on to live a life without their mother. Chances are the same situation existed while she was doing the two jobs. They are now without her for good after she succumbed to the very surgery she worked so hard to have.
No criticism here.
We all want the perfect things. Hey… that’s why we set goals. In the case of that young mother she worked hard, did what she had to do. Sometimes it works out. Sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes you fail. if you have the opportunity to try again. Go ahead and do it.
Just one thing …Remember you’re beautiful just the way you are. Take care of you. It’s the only you, you have. Survive so you can enjoy the goals, dreams and aspirations you worked so hard for.
How about you? When was the last time you Reflected on the purpose of the goal you set? Do share. We would love to hear.
Small daily improvements over time lead to stunning results. ~Robin Sharma
Inc shared Christina DesMarais 25 Simple Daily Habits That Separate High Achievers From Everyone Else Here I Share my top 11 favs from her list.
Top Habits of High Achievers
- Every morning, delegate, defer, and delete.
- Start every day very early
- Get outdoors for physical activity.
- Focus on quality, not quantity.
- Set aside 30 minutes to focus on long-term improvements
- Make time for joy.
- Start the day with meditation.
- Listen, read, and create something new.
- Never book more than half your day.
- Put creativity back on your to-do list.
- Visualize success
Of the traits the two that stand out are delegate, defer and delete. Too often we try to do everything ourselves without delegating or deferring to those aptly capable. Often too we hold onto stuff that we have been doing for years not realizing the process is no longer applicable and should be …yup…deleted.
My other fav is Never booking more than half our day with meetings. I have have known colleagues who book their entire day without thinking about when they will find time to check emails or communicate with issues awaiting their approval. What then happens is the rush to work late nights, weekends and holidays. Years ago I was as guilty as charged. Then I learnt. Balance is important.
How about you? Any that stands out for you? Do share. We would love to hear.
Where there’s purpose, there’s meaning. Reflecting on my Book Talk on Caribbean Americans and the Excerpt from Caribbean National Weekly Newspaper.
“Entering the business world in American can be a hard task when you’re a Caribbean immigrant, from navigating a new culture of commerce, to establishing your own value in the marketplace. Addressing this tricky quagmire, African-American Research Library and Cultural Center (AARLCC) hosted Dr. Shelly Cameron as she discussed her book, “Success Strategies of Caribbean American Leaders.”
The talk, explored strategies on how to be successful, inspired by effective traits from Caribbean-American business leaders, from the challenges they encountered after migration, to the factors that most influenced their success.
The project, said author Dr. Cameron, was inspired by the familiar confusion over “why some immigrants are successful yet others are still struggling?”
The book breaks down findings from a study at Nova Southeastern University, collaborating with successful Caribbean-Americans in the United States, who succeeded in business, media, healthcare, education, government, aviation, politics, and other fields.
Dr. Cameron hopes this book can help the next generation of entrepreneurs, particularly minorities.
“I wanted to outline what the youth of America and ethnic minorities could learn from those who came before, who were born under similar circumstances as they were, and yet became successful,” said Dr. Cameron.
I Thought I Made the Worst Mistake of My Career, But 3 Things Helped Me “Embrace the Suck” and Move on. ~Emile Lee
I love stories of resilience and learning and this is a great one espoused by The Business Insider. Here Emile Lee speaks about his encounter with an overseas career assignment that was not a fit. Mistaking his cultural background, he was hired on the spot for an assignment he wasn’t fit for. After mulling over the good, the bad, and the ugly, he stopped feeling sorry for himself and decided to embrace his circumstances and learn from his situation.
Looking back, he shares his learning. I have extracted the 3 key points that forged his new path.
1. Embrace The Suck
2. Use positive self-talk to open yourself up to risks and change
3. Seek out mentors and internal champions
Hope this story inspires you to keep going and never give up. Need help? Let’s connect.
If you could go back and change one part of your life, what would it be and why?
That’s the question renowned Motivational speaker Brian Tracy asked. Here I share excerpts as his audience chimed in their response.
- I would change nothing. Without them I would not be who I am today. Both good and bad situations have shaped me to be this person in this way.
- Overcoming needless fear
- Getting married to my husband in the 20’s
- Nothing, except for not having taken action earlier to start my online business
- No way would I go back to ‘rethink’ the risks I’ve taken’ they are called risks for a reason. You must be ready to risk it for the biscuit
- Being afraid to speak up
- Give all the books that I read about wealth
- Wish I never quit sports (still went to the gym, but quit football) right before turning 16. Lost a lot of social connection and overall fun
- I would read more books at an early age
- Wouldn’t change anything. Valuable lessons learned from every success and detour
- If I could get a chance to go back in time I would have changed my mindset in my 10th class and think about changing and helping people lives especially children. Thinking towards their growth and success. Focusing on building more independent owners in life
- Reading books and developing myself as a teenager before waiting until my late 20’s
- Spiritual, because everything is derived from it
- I was raised to be obedient – no questions asked. I would go back and rebel at things I knew wasn’t right for me even if I got punishment.
- Nothing. All good things build on top of the past
- The worst parts of my life are the parts that changed me the most today. I can tell you right now that if the singly worst thing that happened to me hadn’t happened, my husband and I wouldn’t be together. It’s not worth changing my past.
- Stop partying years ago
- If it meant I could have my son back who I lost about 22 years ago at the age of 17, I would roll back time and do things much differently as my entire perspective on life changed after losing and then surviving the loss of a child. Because that is not possible, I can say that the person I’ve become out of the ashes of horrible grief, despair and anger is someone that I truly like when I look in a mirror
- Taking better care of others and myself
- I wouldn’t change a thing
There you have it. Thoughts shared by the public. Are your thoughts the same? Would you change anything? Do share. We would love to hear.