Years ago I stepped out of my comfort zone. Having not been in the job market for a long time I began my search for a new and meaningful opportunity. With great elation a dream company reached out to me. It was always a goal to work with them. It had great salary, great benefits, and most important – meaningful work. But I would have had to relocate. No problem for me as I didn’t have a chick nor child (as the saying goes…hint kid in college). I could hardly wait to get started.
A senior level position, I had to go through a 5-level-interview process with different senior level teams. Nailed the toughest two. Then the onto the third. Nailed it! Or so I thought. The interviewer thought otherwise. They replied thanking me for my time but they decided to move on. This after being interviewed for almost a month. I was confident that with my qualifications and experience I was sure to get the job. I didn’t. Though an interviewer myself, I was very disappointed. I questioned myself… what did I do wrong? How could I have done better?
Not Every Opportunity Is For You
Then came the reassurance from a quiet inner voice. Not every opportunity is for you. What seems ideal may not be for you. Keep looking. The right change is in store. Learn to wait. And while you’re waiting, keep strong.
Here I share things to do to bounce back after any kind of rejection, be it job, entrepreneurship or relationship.
5 Things To Do To Overcome Rejection
- Learn from the Experience
- Talk to a trusted mentor, coach, or friend. Share your disappointment.
- Don’t dwell on the situation. Affirm it. Accept it and move on.
- Acknowledge it as evidence that you’re trying. You are pushing your limit.
- Keep going
Have you had a disappointing experience during a job hunt, or a key contract for your entrepreneurship endeavor? Do share. We would love to hear.
When we push through, the hard beauty can be found on the other side. ~Joanna Gaines
When my life is, I am………………That’s the statement that helps you find your passion. Chris and Janet Attwood developed The Passion Statement which can help you to identify our passion. You are encouraged to start with the phrase:
When My Life Is…
“when my life is ideal, I am……………
You are expected to write the statement 15 times and fill in the blank by each statement starting off with that phrase. Once done, you select the top 5 that you feel is most important. Then review it closely to see whether you are living your ideal life. That will help you identify your passion.
For a clear picture, Jack Canfield shared his top 5
- My life is ideal when I’m being of service to massive numbers of people.
- My life is ideal when I’m helping people with their vision.
- My life is ideal when I’m speaking to large groups.
- My life is ideal when I’m being part of a spiritual leaders network.
- My life is ideal when I’m creating a core group of ongoing trainers who feel identified with my organization.
Why not try this simple test. It’s a sure way to help you find your purpose
I know I am meant to something but what is it? What is it?
That statement from a young man whose heart stopped beating for over 20 minutes. He came back to life when doctors and neighbors gave him CPR after he was electrocuted.
Caused me to Reflect on how you can find your purpose. Many ask the popular question…. what am I here for? What is my purpose. Who knows? Only the almighty does. But you can read more from my past discussion on 13 Ways To Find Your Purpose. Here are a few more thoughts on the subject.
How To Find Your Purpose
- Stop resisting the unknown.
- Act. Try New things
- Do what you love. Follow your passion
- Visualize where you want to go. Jack Canfield says it very well,
Every time you express a preference for something, you are expressing an intention. A table by the window, front row seats at a conference, first-class tickets, a room with an ocean view, or a loving relationship. ~Jack Canfield
Have you found your purpose? Do share. We would love to hear.
“That cross-trainer you’re wearing; one look at the distinctive swoosh on the side tells everyone who’s got you branded. That coffee travel mug you’re carrying…ah, you’re a Starbucks woman! Your T-shirt with the distinctive Champion “C” on the sleeve, the blue jeans with the prominent Levi’s rivets, your fountain pen with the maker’s symbol crafted into the end” … and we could go on, and on. So said Brand Guru, Tom Peters.
Branding is the experience that individuals have when they do business with other individuals. Now as I consider my own brand, my vision becomes clear. To motivate and inspire others to go after their dreams. The impetus is for them to believe; to achieve; and to succeed.
Even though I have studied leadership and success at the post graduate level, and subsequently published book on Success Strategies, there still needs to be beauty and style in the platform used to interact with others. That’s where my Blogging and use of social media comes to the rescue! The intention is use these medium (twitter, facebook, instagram) to fuel the traction to build trust and solidify the brand’s reputation. The goal is to enhance success to grow the following and reach those new entrepreneurs and individuals in transition.
It’s about all motivation, leadership, inspiration and success.
Burning the midnight oil…literally, figuratively, or virtually. It’s all the same. Staying up late studying, working, or playing the role of parent to a newborn. That’s the meaning of the phrase burning the midnight oil. It originated from the 1600s practice of literally staying up late to finish work.
Today it’s meaning extends to waiting in line to get the latest release of the iPhone or other noteworthy–or should I say wait-worthy item. You then scream to the world that you are among the forerunners to get the envied product!
Whatever your dream; whatever your goal; burn that midnight oil and achieve it! It’s those who sacrifice much that achieve much. There’s Success in store for sure.
Don’t destroy the key that opens the door. ~RJ Calder
Words spoken by a 9-year old. He was watching the movie ‘King Kong‘ when renowned Actor Samuel Jackson in his role as army mission leader became vengeful to Kong for harming his men. In ignorance, Jackson didn’t realize that Kong was only defending his territory and Jackson and his troops needed to rely on him for survival from deadly creatures.
That’s when little RJ exclaimed… “don’t destroy the key that opens the door”.
So true. Too often we sabotage our Goals, dreams, aspirations and relationships by destroying the very thing that will help us progress. Today, take the time to think before you act.
A dream is a cherished aspiration, ambition, or ideal.
How can you know what your true dreams are? That was the question a 22-year-old asked. An interesting question that has troubled hearts for centuries.
How Can You Know It’s a Dream?
It never goes away. It stays with you. You go to the left…it’s there. You go to the right…. it’s there. It never leaves until you confront it. Until you come face to face with it. Sometimes our dreams are so big they scare us. But that’s when we need to take a step back.
Let’s think of Steve Jobs. Everything we do now can be done through a little device – the cellphone. Be it text, talk, scroll, have sleepless nights because we’re too connected; talk with a doctor; device-in-hand, head down… we walk around as if in a trance. It all became a reality because of Job’s resilience. Steve’s dream was big! But he couldn’t accomplish it without taking a step back. That opportunity came when he was fired from the very company that he started. Depressed at first… he didn’t let it last long. He examined his dream….closer. Then voila! Things changed!
Same too with the biblical Joseph. He had a dream but it wasn’t clear. Then years later the vision became real. He was able to connect the dots. Later he was then able to walk in his purpose.
What To Do When You’re Not Sure About Your Dream
- Seek clarity in your quiet time.
- Talk to a mentor, coach or friend who’s got your best interest at heart.
- Be aware…track it
Some dreams are clear and concrete as in a career as a physician. There’s nothing to do but enroll on a course of studies. Follow the path; invest the time, study, graduate and start your practice. It’s the dreams like what Dr. Martin Luther King envisioned that baffles. It creates sleepless nights and can prove harmful. But still…it is a dream. A divine intent that only you can accomplish.
We all have dreams. But dreams take time. They should never be rushed. They need to be examined, nurtured, watered, then they will grow. Just like a new born. Growth takes time. Listen carefully. Go; follow your dream by taking it a-step-at-a-time.
Dreams will come through if we let them.
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Oh what a feeling! 🎶
My book GreenLight will be in-store! Yes Barnes & Noble, Plantation, FL.
Its the place You want to Go this Summer for books and reading. So go pick up a book or 2 to read as you relax this summer and while you’re there pick up a copy of my book GreenLight: When God says Go. With its short stories, It’s sure to inspire you or a friend.