Don’t tell them your goals and dreams. Show them.
The 3 Signs Your Friends And Loved Ones Keep You Stuck…
Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck where you do not belong. ~N.R. Nanyana Murthy
Many of us have been there. We have dreams, goals and aspirations. But we must share such desires with those closest to us to get their buy-in…and in some cases their approvals. But while we wait, it can create tension, sadness, and disappointment that causes us to become stuck. Stuck because what we want to do seems way beyond our scope of accessibility.
But there’s hope if we recognize the signs of how our loved ones and friends can hold us back from realizing our dreams.
3 Signs They Are Holding You Back
1.Their expectations
Your loved ones and friends can’t imagine you dong anything else. A colleague of mine spoke about having to convince his parents that he wanted to change careers and become an entrepreneur. He was hindered by them because they were proud of him being in his prestigious job that took care of his family. How could he walk away from that? How will they (his parents) introduce him to their friends? What’s this entrepreneurship endeavor… they asked.
2. Their Investment
Often our loved ones hinder us because they are invested in us and expect us to stay put. Are you the main breadwinner? Will you now be putting them at risk? Is it a co-worker whose job ties closely into your own? Who will they rely on if you walk away? How will they survive?
3. Envy
The worst case occurs when friends, family, or co-workers discourage your progress simply because they envy you. They want to step out themselves but have always been afraid. They don’t have the guts to do it, so they discourage you.
Today, may you find the courage to get up and do what you have always wanted to do. Step out. In some cases it might be necessary to ‘keep your mouth shut‘. Keep your plans to yourself. Then once you have put your plans in place and are ready to go, share your decision. You’ll be guaranteed of moving on to that exciting state where change thrills as you make the leap!
Cheers!
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One Book, One Pen Can Change…
One book; one pen; one child; and one teacher can change the world
Delightful moment shared with Esther Tyson, former Principal of Ardenne High School. She shared Commentary on the Social and Educational Issues in Jamaica, at South Florida’s Book Festival at the African American Research Library and Cultural Center.
Didn’t get to make it? Copies of her book Ah Suh Me See it, Ah Suh Me Say It, available on Amazon.com, as well as copies of my books “Motivational Quotes To Boost Your Success” and “GreenLight:When God Says Go”
Cheers!
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When Things Change…
Things Change …
When things change … when you’re thrown off life’s treadmill without notice, it knocks you off-balance. A friend was working with the same company for over 25 years and recently lost her balance when she was told that the job no longer existed. Though the writing was on the wall, when it happened it was like a sharp blow. Separation like death was strange. It was final.
I thought about how I could or should comfort her. But what could I say? What are the right words? Are there any right words? Questions, questions, questions.
As an HR practitioner working in the field for over 20 years I thought about what could I say to her. Here I share a few thoughts:
Rest
First, get some rest. It’s important to face the reality of the situation. After ‘grinding the mill’ for many, many years, it’s important to take some time out to relax.
Reflect
While relaxing, reflect on the next steps. What do you want to do? Why do you want to do it? Does the ‘why‘ provide an opportunity to make a change in career path? A change in location? A change in mindset? Begin with the end in mind. Where do you see yourself in the next chapter of your life? Picture yourself 5, 10, or more years down the road accomplishing your goal, then work backwards.
Make A Plan
Prep The Next Steps. Once you decide on where you want to go, make a plan. Prepare for the next steps. Do you have skills that you could sell to someone else as an entrepreneur? What about exploring a different area of work. Know that the novelty of a new career endeavor is exciting. Prep that plan. Write it down.
Step Out
Step out. Act. Act on the plan that you came up with. When you start acting on the plan, review it often…at regular intervals to ensure you stay on track.
So if you have been there, lost your job and remain disappointed, dejected, or even stuck, get with the plan today. Start acting. Talk with a professional coach if needed and get your life back in order. Need help? Lets connect.
Cheers!
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Painful. Staying Stuck Somewhere You Don’t Belong…
Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere that you don’t belong. ~Goalcast
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Do Riches Define Success? 11 Moguls Share Their Definition…
Surround yourself with like-minded and success driven people. ~Nordia C
“True success should be measured by how happy you are”…statement made by billionaire Richard Branson when asked how he defined success. Curious I decided to add to my study and research on success by asking professionals what they think success means to them. Was it all about money/ riches?
Here’s how 11 Moguls shared their spin on success:
- Success is how we fulfil our purpose for life and use the God-given talents we have received. ~Christine Stephens
- First think of what value we are creating to society before we think about what we can earn from society. When we look at it from that angle, there will always be opportunities to succeed. ~Gregory Turner
- Simply put, its achieving any clearly defined goals. ~Sher-Sher Milan
- The substance that lies within and is shared with the world. ~Maxine P.C.
- Your life’s purpose could be that you are called to do something that is greater than yourself. ~Susan C
- Achievement and accomplishments, setting one’s goals and dreams and then witnessing the fruition. ~Charmaine Allwood-Hanson
- Flexibility and the ability to do whatever you want, whenever you want because you have the means to do it. ~Ashleigh Maitland
- We all learn from each other. Passion, skill and talent equal progress which leads to success. ~Monique Calder
- Surround yourself with like-minded nd success driven people. Nordia Cameron-cunningham
- Success is measured by the difference we make in someone’s life and our contribution to society. ~Hyacinth Campbell
- Simple things. It’s important to spend even one minute giving worthy advice. ~Ari-Anna
What’s your definition of Success? Do share. We would love to hear.
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How Will You Know If You Have Never Tried?
How will you know if you’ve never tried? That’s the question asked by Psychologist Dr. C. Watson. I couldn’t agree with her more. Too often we rationalize why things won’t work. But we will never know unless we try. At times we may look at the experiences of friends, colleagues, coworkers and even family members and use their experiences to judge our own.
Often we are even stuck in our fear of failure. But good things come to those who make the attempt.
Today I implore you to be bold. Step out. Try. Attempt to do the thing that you have always been afraid to do. Who knows? You may surprise yourself and accomplish great things!
Try it today!
Cheers to your success!
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Do It. It’s That Simple…
“If you can imagine it, you can dream it. Dream it and you can become it.” – Walt Disney
For years Walt Disney’s quote…”If you can imagine it you can do it”, hung on my wall at home. I was able to see it every day. It stayed with me during all my dreams which became goals which later became reality. My studies, writings, books, and more, all became real because of my dreams.
Dreams Don’t Come Through by Themselves
But dreams don’t just come through by themselves. We have to plan, then work it. With hard work, dedication, persistence, and the will to achieve, they become real.
From a young age, my niece always wanted to do her best at making others beautiful. After graduating, she began working with a renowned makeup organization. She learnt from the best and with her innate desire for excellence, she has excelled and now makes celebrities beautiful for their appearance at major events. Indeed, she makes me proud to see her journey realized.
On the other hand, sometimes after we have achieved, we want to move on to other things. Some may be bigger; some may be smaller (as in downsizing). Others may be to let go, relax, and enjoy the little things.
Today, whatever your goal, be sure to know that you can achieve it with the imagination, and the will to see things come through.
Today, do you.
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Focus On Where You’re Going…
Find Your Why. Here’s How…
Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive, then go do that ~Margie Warrell
To find your why:
- Identify Your strengths
- Find what makes you come alive
- Go do it
It’s that easy and that’s why it’s only for the resilient. Sure you’re different, so go do it.
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13 Success Tips For New Graduates As They Step Off A College Campus And Land Their First Job…
Success is no accident
Aren’t we all thrilled when we get that job that we applied and was selected for? Sure we are and so was my daughter! But in order to be successful there are a few things to bear in mind especially when the going gets tough. Here I share advice I gave her as she plunged into the workforce as she makes the final steps off college campus.
13 Tips And Tricks for Career Success
- Be Professional
- Dress well
- Wear a Smile
- Be on time
- Respect your leaders even when unhappy with a decision
- Follow company protocol
- Be a sponge …Learn a lot
- Be polite
- Cell Phone should only be used for emergencies or during breaks
- Pursue Excellence.
- Do your part – Contribute…Make a difference through your work.
- Align Yourself with only progressive people (avoid negativity and time wasters).
- Enjoy!
These tips form the foundation of good work ethics for career success throughout life. Do any resonate? Add more as you deem fit and share with a new college Grad, or two!
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Ahhh…That Difference You Make….
Outstanding Millennial change-makers and emerging leaders presented with copies of my books on Success Strategies of Caribbean American Leaders in the United States. The 30 Under 30 event was held at the Inter American Development Bank, Washington D.C.
Among the great nationwide initiatives were Georgia Student Alliance and Passport to College effort to help university students.
Ahhh …the difference you make!
Cheers!
