Life’s a Beach…Reboot

Rejuvenate. Relax. Chill. Reboot. Whatever you call it, it’s important to pause. Yes, stop for awhile. To get off life’s treadmill of activities. You’ll benefit from Vivid feelings of revived spirit, ability to think, refocus. You’ll see things clearly when you take a break.

Rejuvenate …make (someone or something) look or feel younger, fresher, or more lively

Workaholic? Plan a getaway for a day, week, month or a year (yikes!). It all depends on your goal. So go ahead plan it, do it, boost your energy today. Hey, even the journey of planning is rejuevating.

Cheers!

Imposter Syndrome…

Fake it til you make it. That’s what we are told and it actually works. If you want to be successful, act like a success. Align yourself with like-minded people. Network with those that you want to be like and most of all believe in yourself.

But on the other hand, there are those of us who even when we are actually successful because of our hard work, still feel like a fake. An example is the Oscar award-winning actress Viola Davis who after capturing the award, told a news reporter that she felt like an imposter. It happens and is often very common among successful people. They work hard to achieve and only know how to work hard. Then eventually the hard work is recognized and they can hardly believe it.  Indeed a sign of humility.

Below are some signs of the imposter syndrome that Parlays some people, and how CNN headline news shares to deal with it when it comes.

Symptoms

  • Self Doubt
  • Depression
  • Isolation
  • Despair

How to Manage

  • Manage yourself
  • Change Negative thoughts to positive
  • Speak up
  • Reestablish yourself  – you have worked hard

So if you have attained success (whether large or small), and feel like an imposter, move past that feeling. You have earned it.

Cheers!

Of Goals and Desire …

say quietly to yourself…”shut up and jump”…

Desires. Desires. We are often  filled with Desires of dreams, goals, and aspirations to do this or that. To accomplish our best. To become our best. To be successful. But our desires are often hindered by restrictions we place on ourselves–at most by our fears.

Why not take the chance today to step out and do something that you have always wanted to do? Just say quietly to yourself…”shut up and jump“!  You may be surprised at how much you achieve.

Cheers!

5 Ways To Overcome Bad Luck

Have you been doing some things that seem to attract results that differ from what you really want?

“Why does this keep happening to me?”  This question is often asked by those down in the dumps, or  who have a stream of ‘bad Luck ‘ that seem to follow them. Charlene was always late. Late for exams, late for work, late for appointments, late for time with her family…she was late for just about everything. Yet she utters these words when she is fired, dumped, kids faltered etc. But is there something she’s doing wrong that causes these stream of ‘bad luck’ to follow her? Let’s give her the benefit of the Doubt.

Most of us can think of situations that are like that of Charlene’s. People will tell you to follow old wives  fables such as throwing salt over your left shoulder, burning incense, carrying protective charms, lighting a few candles of specific colors, and much more to change streams of bad luck. But life is more than that. Perhaps we can Carve out the time to try a new approach. Here are 5 ways that may help.

5 Practical Ways to Overcome Bad Luck

Reflection

Reflect on your life and where you have come from. Have you been doing some things that seem to attract results that differ from what you really want? As you reflect, pen your thoughts. Keeping track helps you know where bad habits are so you can do something about them.

Take Action

Once you have considered where you have been going wrong, take corrective action. Do something different that will lead to a more positive result. If you are always late, then make a deliberate and conscious decision to be on time. Wake up earlier. Leave earlier. Afterall time is money. You lose it if you’re late for work, or pay fees such as missing airline flights, not to mention bills that lead to bad credit. So Quicken your interest and spring into to a new habit before it’s too late.

Learn And Grow

Take the time to learn something new. If you have a bad habit that you want to correct, Center your efforts on improvement. Read up on it. Get help. Learn how to fix it. It is in the learning that the change will come.

Don’t be afraid to Step Out

Stepping out to do something different can be daunting. It is something that most of us avoid. Afterall, we don’t want to make mistakes. We don’t want to live with regrets. But it is in stepping out in spite of our fears that make us succeed. Many are the examples of society’s leaders and those we admire who stepped out and eventually succeeded. You don’t have to think far. Just picture the famous ‘selfie’ that many can’t seem to do without. Commonly done using an iPhone. Yessss… Steve Jobs took a leap and it worked! Now we eat, sleep, and dream using the device (but that’s another story …smile).

Celebrate Small Wins

Celebrate as you progress. Encouragement goes a long way for both ourselves and others. Celebration  does not have to be expensive. It can be as simple as doing something you enjoy. The important thing is that you recognise the progress you’re  making.

So today make a conscious decision to make a change. Make a U-turn. Do it slowly to avoid getting dizzy. And even if you do get a little dizzy and knocked off your feet, get back up! Continue moving. Your dreams, goals, aspirations, and those close to you won’t be able to miss it.

Cheers!

People Who Found Success Despite Failure…

Stephen was blindsided. He lost his job. Had nothing to do with him. His employer decided to cut staff. Despite having a wife and two children to care for, he was sent home without notice to face his mortgage, bills, and cover life’s basic needs.

Maria left high school, got her first job and now after 3 years feels lost as she sets her eye on the supervisor position that just opened up. She asked herself should she apply? Would she qualify? Faced with the daunting fact that she has no certification or formal education, she felt depressed. She had delayed formal training after high school to make ’em dollars. Now what?

Lidia and Bill became engaged 2 years ago and want to take the next step to get married but feel scared to make the decision. Questions bothered them. Will they be able to afford a house? Should they have children? Will they end up divorced after a few years like their friends Rory and Aley?

Life Decisions

Life can seem like an Arid desert at times.The scenarios shared are common throughout life as individuals make decisions associated with periods of transition.But many are the successful people before us who have been there, faced decisions, in some cases failed initially but eventually succeeded. Think of J.K. Rowling, Walt Disney, Dr. Seuss and countless others.

Today if you are facing a life decision, cast your worries and fears aside. Get help if needed. Know that being anxious is normal and actually help to propel us to the next step. Even when you’re afraid move forward, take the step, keep going and you too will achieve your dreams, goals and aspirations.

Cheers!

Baby Steps To Big Goals…

A group of college students and my Baby daughter sat together moping about the stresses and strains of college life, grades and more. I asked them to share some of the stressors and they spoke about the top 5. From that I prepared a list of what to do when those stressors come. Shared here are succint points for the baby steps to achieve big Goals in college or in life.

Top 5 College Stressors and How to Manage

STRESSORS🙇🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

1.School | Courses
2.Money | Broke Pocket
3.Internship
4.Time Management
5.People
WHAT TO DO 🤷🏽‍♂️
1.Study | Write | Study …it will Stick
2.Parent | Financial Aid | Part-time Job (if time permits)
3.Show up | Learn |Grow
4.Focus | Plan week on Sundays | Check progress at nights or mornings
5.Pray. Be selfish (focus). Work Alone. Enjoy your own company.
Keep 1 or 2 friends with similar Goals
TAKE CARE OF SELF 👀👩🏽‍✈️
Eat Right and on Time | Take vitamins
Exercise (walk, gym)
Be Inspired (movies, music, read)
Breathe

All That Glitters…

All that Glitters is not gold. It’s a common saying that means things are not all that they appear to be. It’s an important facet to consider when making decisions. So be sure to check out:

  • The new job and corporate culture before you sign your acceptance.
  • Get to know your partner before you marry…yikes!  (habits, likes, dislikes, meet-the-parents, past experiences, plans for the future…do they include you)?
  • Investigate. Do a house inspection before purchase.
  • Research before you relocate
  • Read the reviews before buying the product (including return policy).
  • Research and/or  visit college before deciding to go.
  • Know the genre before you write.
  • Know the Joneses before you try to keep up

These are just a few examples to what could be a very long list. So do your background checks before making life changing decisions. Some mistakes can be avoided.

Cheers!

9 Steps To Writing Your First Book

Write. Just Write. When writing, forget about being perfect. Just focus on getting the information out of your head and on paper

It’s such an exciting time to think about publishing your very own book! It certainly was for me when I did my research and got it published in the Journal of American Academy of Business Cambridge (JAABC), as well as my books on success strategies and leadership. I am now busy writing a new inspirational book. Tons of Lush near Edible excitement especially when you receive the first printed copy! Woo-hoo!

I have been getting requests from interested first time writers and decided to share my personal thoughts on how to get the writing done in order to get published. To be honest I understand the Seriousness of this goal. So here are my own 9 steps to get you going.

9 Steps to Getting Your Book Done

1.Develop that mindset.
Goal achievement begins in the mind. Think of the saying “if you can imagine it you can achieve it”. So get your mind focused and begin the steps to achieve!

2. Write What You Know
Write what you know but be realistic. Don’t start learning a new skill in order to write a book. Use your own life experience. Do you have a skill? Are you an expert at something such as managing a business, a hobby, relationship experience, or other? Why not consider writing your biography ….your own life story. Whatever you decide, make sure it is important to you and something that you are passionate and knowledgeable about.

Write. Just Write

3. Write. Just Write.
Once you have decided what you’re going to write about, just write. It’s that simple. Write in your laptop, iPad, desktop, phone, or even the old fashion hard copy steno-book. Your choice. Just write.

4. Forget About Editing During The First Draft
When writing, forget about being perfect. Just focus on getting the information out of your head and on paper, or whatever means you choose to write in.

5. Take Breaks.
Go to places that inspire. Walk on the beach. Embrace nature. Do your favorite activity. Watch a movie. Read. Pamper yourself. Simply do something that inspires you. Something that ignites your passion… your writing

6. Capture Those Thoughts
Lest we forget, always keep a medium to capture those thoughts handy. It’s not uncommon to see something that inspires you even though you’re not in that ‘writing space’. Just get it written down… somehow. Missing that moment often leads to frustration when you get back to your space and can’t remember what you wanted to write.

7. Set Deadlines 
Defining a deadline for completion helps you achieve your goal. So for example if you decide to get published by year end, then set a plan to write everyday, every weekend, or plan a vacation getaway or retreat just to write. Plans are like road maps or GPS. There is a starting and an ending point. If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there… and I dare say that  you may not like where you end up.

8. Don’t Be Hard On Yourself
Enjoy the ride. If you miss a day, two, three or more, don’t get stuck. Just get back on track and write.

9. Don’t Quit
Achieving a goal has never been easy. Be Aware. Keep the momentum going. Cry if you must at times but keep going. If it will help, get an accountability partner or coach who will help you achieve your goal.

So there you have it . 9 Steps to becoming that author you’ve always dreamed of. You have it in you… so go for it!

Cheers!