You wanna fly, you got to give up the thing that weighs you down. ~Toni Morrison
Tag: personal-development
5 Things To Do When Rejection Shatters Your Dream Opportunity…
Years ago I stepped out of my comfort zone. Having not been in the job market for a long time I began my search for a new and meaningful opportunity. With great elation a dream company reached out to me. It was always a goal to work with them. It had great salary, great benefits, and most important – meaningful work. But I would have had to relocate. No problem for me as I didn’t have a chick nor child (as the saying goes…hint kid in college). I could hardly wait to get started.
A senior level position, I had to go through a 5-level-interview process with different senior level teams. Nailed the toughest two. Then the onto the third. Nailed it! Or so I thought. The interviewer thought otherwise. They replied thanking me for my time but they decided to move on. This after being interviewed for almost a month. I was confident that with my qualifications and experience I was sure to get the job. I didn’t. Though an interviewer myself, I was very disappointed. I questioned myself… what did I do wrong? How could I have done better?
Not Every Opportunity Is For You
Then came the reassurance from a quiet inner voice. Not every opportunity is for you. What seems ideal may not be for you. Keep looking. The right change is in store. Learn to wait. And while you’re waiting, keep strong.
Here I share things to do to bounce back after any kind of rejection, be it job, entrepreneurship or relationship.
5 Things To Do To Overcome Rejection
- Learn from the Experience
- Talk to a trusted mentor, coach, or friend. Share your disappointment.
- Don’t dwell on the situation. Affirm it. Accept it and move on.
- Acknowledge it as evidence that you’re trying. You are pushing your limit.
- Keep going
Have you had a disappointing experience during a job hunt, or a key contract for your entrepreneurship endeavor? Do share. We would love to hear.
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The Challenge That Equipped Me…
I procrastinated. Year after year I’d say …I’ll do it next year. But then in my early 20s, during a heated conversation about salary increase my boss shouted “you don’t even have a degree!” That hit me like a ton of bricks. I promised myself that I’d never ever let anyone say that to me again. I was not only gonna get a first degree but also a second.
That’s How You Do It
Today, I have two Masters and a Doctorate.
That’s how you do it. I’m one for a challenge to not only achieve but also exceed. So even though at the time I had several diplomas, certifications and had never stopped studying, I fell short of that industry’s ultimate standard. I limited myself and did not go after the best.
My parents never thought of …nor encouraged me to get a degree. They never had it themselves. What’s more, while I studied those years, my dad kept saying “that godamn girl won’t stop studying”. He never understood my drive.
Do Not Let Anything Stop You
Today I encourage you to go after your dreams. Don’t let anything stop you from achieving.
- Not financial.
- Not the negatives from those who hate.
- Not fear.
Do not let anything stop you from going after your dreams.
Remember where there’s a will, there’s a way.
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Beauty On The Other Side…
When we push through, the hard beauty can be found on the other side. ~Joanna Gaines
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I’m Too Old…
I’M TOO OLD
I’m too old for a new career
I’m too old for changing what they say
I’m too old for finding sweet love
I’m too old for my dreams to come through
I’m too old
I’m just too old
Silly…
You’re never too old to live your dreams
You’re never too old to change your life
You’re never too old to go after your heart’s desire
You’re never too old to do anything you want
You’re never too old.
Never. Ever. Too Old.
~Dr. Shelly C
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The Passion Test…
When my life is, I am………………That’s the statement that helps you find your passion. Chris and Janet Attwood developed The Passion Statement which can help you to identify our passion. You are encouraged to start with the phrase:
When My Life Is…
“when my life is ideal, I am……………
You are expected to write the statement 15 times and fill in the blank by each statement starting off with that phrase. Once done, you select the top 5 that you feel is most important. Then review it closely to see whether you are living your ideal life. That will help you identify your passion.
For a clear picture, Jack Canfield shared his top 5
- My life is ideal when I’m being of service to massive numbers of people.
- My life is ideal when I’m helping people with their vision.
- My life is ideal when I’m speaking to large groups.
- My life is ideal when I’m being part of a spiritual leaders network.
- My life is ideal when I’m creating a core group of ongoing trainers who feel identified with my organization.
Why not try this simple test. It’s a sure way to help you find your purpose
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I Am Meant To Do Something…
I know I am meant to something but what is it? What is it?
That statement from a young man whose heart stopped beating for over 20 minutes. He came back to life when doctors and neighbors gave him CPR after he was electrocuted.
Caused me to Reflect on how you can find your purpose. Many ask the popular question…. what am I here for? What is my purpose. Who knows? Only the almighty does. But you can read more from my past discussion on 13 Ways To Find Your Purpose. Here are a few more thoughts on the subject.
How To Find Your Purpose
- Stop resisting the unknown.
- Act. Try New things
- Do what you love. Follow your passion
- Visualize where you want to go. Jack Canfield says it very well,
Every time you express a preference for something, you are expressing an intention. A table by the window, front row seats at a conference, first-class tickets, a room with an ocean view, or a loving relationship. ~Jack Canfield
Have you found your purpose? Do share. We would love to hear.
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Leading Leaders: Feedback That Engages…
Busy Is Good…
Busy is good. That’s my favorite response to entrepreneurs who express that they are busy.
You see, we have all been there when there is nothing to do. No job. No contract. No financial inflow. What frequently follows is sadness, apathy, boredom, inability to meet financial obligations and the list goes on. For sure that ain’t good for our mental state and wellbeing.
Among Others
An 80-year-old grandmother was busy going to the gym, church, shopping, Medical visits to the doctor. Those activities kept her busy. It made her feel alive. Then suddenly her husband also retired. Now they both sit at home watching golf, tennis, jeopardy and wheel of fortune on TV. This past weekend she spent time in the hospital. Latency had stepped in.
The Deal
That’s what happens when we are not busy. It happens to entrepreneurs, workers, student or retirees. There’s no respect of persons.
For entrepreneurs, being busy means there’s signed contract for work to be done. There’s opportunity to give work to job seekers on the hunt. There’s also productivity.
Find The Balance
So each time you find yourself complaining about being busy, I implore you to find the balance …but most of all give Thanks. Busy is a blessing because it means you’re doing something good.
So go ahead…get busy.
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Don’t Destroy The Key That Opens The Door…
Don’t destroy the key that opens the door. ~RJ Calder
Words spoken by a 9-year old. He was watching the movie ‘King Kong‘ when renowned Actor Samuel Jackson in his role as army mission leader became vengeful to Kong for harming his men. In ignorance, Jackson didn’t realize that Kong was only defending his territory and Jackson and his troops needed to rely on him for survival from deadly creatures.
That’s when little RJ exclaimed… “don’t destroy the key that opens the door”.
The Key
So true. Too often we sabotage our Goals, dreams, aspirations and relationships by destroying the very thing that will help us progress. Today, take the time to think before you act.
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INC’s 20 Books TED Speakers Think Everyone Should Read This Summer…
Think before you speak. Read before you think. ~ Fran Lebowitz
Here’s a list of INC’s 20 books Ted speakers think you should read this summer. From the list, below are my top 7 favs that I find intriguing.
1. Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie
2. How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan
3. The Creative Habit by Twyla Tharp
4. Becoming by Michelle Obama
5. The Fearless Organization by Amy Edmondson
6. The Fifth Trimester by Lauren Smith Brody
7. GreenLight: When God Says Go by Dr. Shelly Cameron
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How Can You Know What Your True Dreams Are?
A dream is a cherished aspiration, ambition, or ideal.
How can you know what your true dreams are? That was the question a 22-year-old asked. An interesting question that has troubled hearts for centuries.
How Can You Know It’s a Dream?
It never goes away. It stays with you. You go to the left…it’s there. You go to the right…. it’s there. It never leaves until you confront it. Until you come face to face with it. Sometimes our dreams are so big they scare us. But that’s when we need to take a step back.
Let’s think of Steve Jobs. Everything we do now can be done through a little device – the cellphone. Be it text, talk, scroll, have sleepless nights because we’re too connected; talk with a doctor; device-in-hand, head down… we walk around as if in a trance. It all became a reality because of Job’s resilience. Steve’s dream was big! But he couldn’t accomplish it without taking a step back. That opportunity came when he was fired from the very company that he started. Depressed at first… he didn’t let it last long. He examined his dream….closer. Then voila! Things changed!
Same too with the biblical Joseph. He had a dream but it wasn’t clear. Then years later the vision became real. He was able to connect the dots. Later he was then able to walk in his purpose.
What To Do When You’re Not Sure About Your Dream
- Meditate.
- Pray.
- Seek clarity in your quiet time.
- Talk to a mentor, coach or friend who’s got your best interest at heart.
- Be aware…track it
Some dreams are clear and concrete as in a career as a physician. There’s nothing to do but enroll on a course of studies. Follow the path; invest the time, study, graduate and start your practice. It’s the dreams like what Dr. Martin Luther King envisioned that baffles. It creates sleepless nights and can prove harmful. But still…it is a dream. A divine intent that only you can accomplish.
The Lesson
We all have dreams. But dreams take time. They should never be rushed. They need to be examined, nurtured, watered, then they will grow. Just like a new born. Growth takes time. Listen carefully. Go; follow your dream by taking it a-step-at-a-time.
Dreams will come through if we let them.
Need help? Lets connect.
Cheers!
