A Candle must be lit to burn.
To thine ownself be true
Selfie is the great craze! Our society’s phenomenon making waves over the past few years! We take pictures of ourselves at home, in the car, at work, at play and everywhere you can imagine. We Congregate and reach out to capture celebrities at public events to take that selfie to highlight our latest feat! It says we are cool. Way cool!
The selfie stick makes it even easier. With ease we are able to capture photos of ourselves in a crowd, at great heights on mountain tops, and even in the depths of the seas! The Wall Street Journal tell stories of injuries and even fatalities caused by this craze. Narcissitic mentality they called it. Yup these days we are filled with the craze! It’s all about ourselves. But is it really?
What about our inner desires? When was the last time you sat and took stock of where you are in life? Are you where you want to be? What are you most proud of? What do you like the least? Today, I encourage you to find some time alone to take stock of yourself.
Dr. Lillian Glass suggests looking at it mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. As the saying goes—to thine own self be true. So be honest and assess yourself from your present situation to your ideal situation. Think of it as though there was nothing to stop you from achieving your dreams and making them a reality. Then list all the steps that you would need to take in order to make the dreams in your life situation come true.
For example, if you are single and wish to find a partner, at times you may feel lonely, empty, and sad. Your ideal situation may be to find a man/woman of your dreams—someone who speaks kindly to you, and treats you with respect.
The steps to make this come true are:
- Tell your friends that you are available
- Join a dating service, or a singles’ organization
- Give dinner parties and ask your friends to invite members of the opposite sex who are their friends
- Go out more often
- Get involved in classes or sports
- Ask your minister or clergy for assistance
- Be more open and friendly to people whom you meet
- Be more assertive; smile, and say hello
Do Something Different!
Even though it is scary and you may feel a little Clumsy at first, do some things that you have never done before…yikes! Take trips by yourself; go to the movies alone; or have a cup of coffee solo. These things can build your self-confidence even if you are a bit nervous at first. You may also consider creating new adventures for yourself and doing things that are out of character. Get a new haircut, or a new color. Grow a beard. These will not only make your life much more exciting but also prevent you from feeling sorry for yourself.
In essence, it’s about time. Step out. Take risks—and when you do, don’t be afraid to feel silly, awkward, or of being rejected. Find comfort in the saying “nothing ventured, nothing gained’.
Cheers to the new you!
There is no such thing as a lifetime career any more. The world of work is now much more fluid than it was before. The lines have certainly been blurred. Gone are the days of jobs for life where you did your time and left with a secure Glaring pension to enjoy retirement with no Argument. You now need to take responsibility for your job security and the management of your career. Make sure you discover and use your internal resources and take a self-directing approach.
Reinventing yourself is something that you must keep doing. Dr. Robert Davies offered good advice on 10 key points to success.
- Focus on your personal development. Spend some time thinking about the competencies. What are the knowledge, skills and abilities needed to survive in this era.
- Have clear mental picture of the person that you want to be.
- A clear development agenda to help you get there
- A clear definition of the contribution you want to make to society.
- Schedule a reinvention exercise for yourself every 3 years. Change with the times and avoid becoming obsolete.
- Make a commitment to learn something notable each month. If you are not learning something is wrong with the way you are managing your job and yourself.
- Be concerned if you don’t make any mistakes. This is not for you to go out and deliberately make mistakes. But if you are not making mistakes, you are not doing anything different. Treat failure as a learning experience and a platform to start a new chapter.
- Never accept mainstream popular thinking without challenging it in your mind . Carve out time to challenge, research, and think differently.
- Be confident. Never let anyone take that from you. But be quietly incompetent.
- Keep an achievement diary. How has your work benefited others? Maintain an updated Resume.
- Invest in your network.
- Help others. Remember there will be a time when you yourself will also need help.
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Ever sat thinking about making a change and before you Realize, the time was upon you? Welcome to the here and now. No longer is doing things different an option. It is the here…it is the now.
Technology has catapulted the disruption of most traditional business. The way we do things has evolved. We see it in artificial intelligence, healthcare, automatic/electric cars, education, writing, 3D printing, agriculture, jobs, social media, and more. Just take a look at our dearly beloved Facebook. The App goes beyond recognizing faces better than the human eye! Even in church you no longer need to have cash…your card will do! And great news…it is immediate!
Open wide your eyes. Realize the difference. Look…see what’s happening around you. Make that change now. To wait.. to react slowly…is to be left behind wondering what happened?